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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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I am 35 and in love with a girl who is only 18... and I don't know what to do?
Q. Hi there, Before I start my story please know I appreciate your honest feedback no matter how harsh it might be. I am a 35 years old man who never been in serious relationship before and I finally met this girl online (I know :( Meeting someon...
A. 5 January 2011: Hi. I'm sorry that it didn't work out for you, but the positive thing to come out of all this, is that you found out before it was too late.
Good for you hacking into the "fake" person's account, it has saved you a lot more heartache - not to m... (read in full...)
I like bigger women and am having trouble dealing with it.
Q. I have a thing for bigger women and i dont know how to deal with it. While Im not into the deal of larger women getting larger or "gaining" and not into the feeding thing, i definitely have an appreciation for plus-sized women, and am unsure if my ...
A. 14 December 2010: Hello again. It really doesn't matter what other people think. It's irrelevant. It's what you think that counts.
It doesn't matter what the girl thinks either. Quite often opposites attract. Each brings out the best in the other.
We all ... (read in full...)
Would you consider this to be fate?
Q. I was asked by a guy I like (who I met on the last night of my visit in Veags) if I believe in fate. I said yes. And then he asked me if I think we met because of it, and I said yes and that I believe everything happens for a reason. Then I asked ...
A. 6 December 2010: Hi. Thank you.
How do I find your other question you mentioned?
I need two things before I can do that.
(1) The exact heading of that question.
(2) The date it was posted.... (read in full...)
I hope my ex doesn't see those harsh texts I sent him!
Q. This is a very fresh prob, it literally happened today. Basically I broke up with my ex about a month ago and we agreed to stay friends although we hardly talk. It ended kinda abruptly and I think there are still feelings on both sides but we are ...
A. 4 December 2010: Hi there. If you are broken up, why do you still wish to stay in contact?
And for that matter, if you still want to stay friends, why not get back together?
Surely it's either on or it's off - no halfway measures.
Are you hoping to get... (read in full...)
Would you consider this to be fate?
Q. I was asked by a guy I like (who I met on the last night of my visit in Veags) if I believe in fate. I said yes. And then he asked me if I think we met because of it, and I said yes and that I believe everything happens for a reason. Then I asked ...
A. 4 December 2010: Hi there. We meet many people in our lives, for many different reasons.
They won't always be for a romance, they could come in different forms.
In your case, perhaps it is for romance. You'll just have to see.
Each person we meet has somet... (read in full...)
I'm becoming even more distant in this LDR.
Q. Hello all. I need a little advice! Me and my boyfriend are in a LDR and we're happy of course. But like a week ago we got into an argument because i thought he was lying about something. He took it very very personal. Which i understand. But lately ...
A. 4 December 2010: Hi there. How did you first meet him?
Did you ever live in the same town? Or has it always been long distance?
The reason you are having some problems, is because you can't see each other the way you'd like to.
Long distance relatio... (read in full...)
Should I just ask him if he likes me?
Q. hey everyone. i got boy trouble :( okay so i've got this friend. we've been talking since october and were really gud friends. When he flirts i do flirt back but he always starts. i think he likes me i might be reading signs wrong but i strongly ...
A. 4 December 2010: Hi there. If he flirts with you sometimes, that's usually a sure sign he at least likes you a bit.
It's the way some guys act if they like a girl.
Don't ask him if he likes you or not. Your intuition should tell you that he does.
Just ta... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I really like the guy she loves?
Q. Since 8th grade of 2009, a friend has liked this boy. She tells me she in love with him and I understand why. Im In 9th grade now and I was in front of my house with my dog and I see him walking with some friends and he says hi to me cause my best ...
A. 4 December 2010: Hi there. Your friend likes this boy, but they are just friends now - not boyfriend and girlfriend.
Is that right?
It's ok to both like the same boy, as long as you don't try to steal him off your friend.
At the moment as they aren't ac... (read in full...)
She turned me down once but I think she wants me to ask again
Q. My friend's sister turned me down for a date after initially accepting a few days earlier. Anyway since then we've been out a lot in the same social circle and she's been sending some strong signals. She's kissed me on several occasions but always w...
A. 2 December 2010: Hi. I still think that you should try and get to talk alone to her on Saturday night at her brother's function. It probably shouldn't be too difficult to organise that, throughout the night.
In the end, the real decision to go out with you, sho... (read in full...)
Teenage Relationships: Girls
Q. THIS INFORMATION IS FOR GIRLS!!!!!(and boys if you really want to). Girls if you are in a relationship you might want to read this. When in a teenager relationship girls tend to be pressured to do what they don't wish to do i.e sex. if you have ...
A. 1 December 2010: Hi there. Having sex does not always result in an automatic pregnancy, although it's certainly possible.
If you don't want to or are not ready to be having sex in your life, yes, I agree - definitely say no.
In any case, no-one should ev... (read in full...)
She doesn't want a boyfriend but I really like her
Q. I really like this girl, in fact, I think I am in love with her! We met a few months ago at school and I felt like we had an instant connection. She is a little shy and new to my school, so I decided not to pressure her by telling her how I felt ...
A. 1 December 2010: Hi there. If she's not ready to have a boyfriend, you can't do anything about that.
She probably said that in front of you, just so you might ease off a bit on her. Things could change in future though.
So in the meantime, if you are at least... (read in full...)
She turned me down once but I think she wants me to ask again
Q. My friend's sister turned me down for a date after initially accepting a few days earlier. Anyway since then we've been out a lot in the same social circle and she's been sending some strong signals. She's kissed me on several occasions but always w...
A. 1 December 2010: Hi. I think that she probably does have genuine plans to see her friends on Thursday nights, just like she said.
If she was making it up, she would have first hesitated (like she was thinking of what to say), then maybe said something like - "... (read in full...)
She turned me down once but I think she wants me to ask again
Q. My friend's sister turned me down for a date after initially accepting a few days earlier. Anyway since then we've been out a lot in the same social circle and she's been sending some strong signals. She's kissed me on several occasions but always w...
A. 1 December 2010: Hi. I think that she probably does have genuine plans to see her friends on Thursday nights, just like she said.
If she was making it up, she would have first hesitated (like she was thinking of what to say), then maybe said something like - "... (read in full...)
Cant stop thinking about her its driving me crazy
Q. I find myself feeling very lonely when im not talking with my gf. I think about her constantly and lately cuz of the bad weather, I haven't been able to see her. It's driving me crazy. Idk what to do. I have been getting headaches from thinking ...
A. 1 December 2010: Hi. You're very welcome. Glad to be able to help.
Please let me know if you ever want a second opinion in future. Just run it by me anyway.
I love to make a difference in people's lives. It's my passion and it gives my life a sense of purpo... (read in full...)
Women: do you want a bad guy or a good guy?
Q. Hello, i am hopin someone can help me here, prefferably a female. I know a girl whom I am attracted to but she is not interested in me just want to be friends. i am a nice guy. steady job, supportive, relaitvely stable, kind, et cetera. But she ...
A. 1 December 2010: Hi there. Perhaps at the moment she really doesn't know what she wants.
She might at the moment be getting to know herself better and trying to work out her goals. Relationships might not be on her mind right now. It's possible.
It migh... (read in full...)
Should I up my game and just say what's on my mind or just be patient?
Q. ok so I know that as a girl, we should be chased. I have made no moves with this really shy guy, except instant messaging once in a while to him. He has called me twice (its wk 2 since we met in another country...so its long distance) he initiated ...
A. 1 December 2010: Hi there. You both met in another country. You are from the USA, but he's from another country entirely.
Although you have actually physically met, now it's become like you never met because the only method of contact since then, is via the inte... (read in full...)
She turned me down once but I think she wants me to ask again
Q. My friend's sister turned me down for a date after initially accepting a few days earlier. Anyway since then we've been out a lot in the same social circle and she's been sending some strong signals. She's kissed me on several occasions but always w...
A. 30 November 2010: Hi there. If she is giving you signals and at the end of the night has often kissed you (when she's had a few drinks), it seems as though she feels at least something for you. It seems obvious.
Because of this, perhaps you could somehow separate... (read in full...)
I like bigger women and am having trouble dealing with it.
Q. I have a thing for bigger women and i dont know how to deal with it. While Im not into the deal of larger women getting larger or "gaining" and not into the feeding thing, i definitely have an appreciation for plus-sized women, and am unsure if my ...
A. 30 November 2010: Hi there. It could be that it's like a fantasy to you, more than an actual attraction.
Because you have said that you will go out with bigger women, but are sometimes repulsed by their bigness when it comes to going physically further with the... (read in full...)
What do you think that I should do to get him back?
Q. 2 years ago, I met a boy and we fell in love with each other immediately. Everyone could see that we felt something for each other. It was like a fairy tale. He was very shy and he kept his eyes only on me. We have never seen eachother anymore ...
A. 30 November 2010: Hi there. This is a big mixup isn't it?
So the first boy you actually met and went out with, but then one of you moved away. Is that right?
Then you had webcam sex with his mate? Unless he has told your ex boyfriend, he probably doesn't... (read in full...)
My fiance and I have been fighting since day 1!
Q. i have been with my fiance for 2 years. we have been fighting for our relationship from the start. our parents dont approve because of religious differences and my friends thought it was a rebelion against my parents. 3 months into our relationship ...
A. 30 November 2010: Hi there. Perhaps the threesome was a bad idea. It's like giving him permission to cheat on you with her in future. It seems that he has done that.
Cheating is not always a reason to breakup a relationship. It just depends on how well you both... (read in full...)
Cant stop thinking about her its driving me crazy
Q. I find myself feeling very lonely when im not talking with my gf. I think about her constantly and lately cuz of the bad weather, I haven't been able to see her. It's driving me crazy. Idk what to do. I have been getting headaches from thinking ...
A. 30 November 2010: Hi. Perhaps you could tell her (respectfully), that you feel as though you might be losing her. That it's in the back of your mind, each time they talk to each other.
Don't get angry or upset when you say this - stay calm.
When you say ... (read in full...)
Is it just a walk down memory lane ....
Q. About a year ago I divorced and reconnected with a man I have know all my life. We had dated our senior year of high school until he moved and then again when we met up about ten years later until he moved for his job. He kept in contact with me ...
A. 29 November 2010: Hi. Thanks for clarifying that for me. It's good he's not married anymore and that it's been a long time since then.
And you have been divorced for a year.
Well then, you just never know where it might lead. You are both free agents now.... (read in full...)
Cant stop thinking about her its driving me crazy
Q. I find myself feeling very lonely when im not talking with my gf. I think about her constantly and lately cuz of the bad weather, I haven't been able to see her. It's driving me crazy. Idk what to do. I have been getting headaches from thinking ...
A. 29 November 2010: Hello again. You do need to talk to her about it, to sort things out and settle any misunderstandings.
As you have said that she didn't answer your text messages yet, I would say don't send any more now for the time being.
Give her some... (read in full...)
What can I get her for Christmas that doesn't cost a dime?
Q. Ok I have a problem i have been in love with this girl for three years. I have followed her around i guess you can say i worship her. I love her more than life itself. She has been wonderful to me. She is one of the most beautiful people in the ...
A. 29 November 2010: Hello again. Just so as long as it comes right from the heart and given with love, you just can't go wrong.
You will know what feels right to give her, according to your feelings and creativity.
These other posters have given you some great i... (read in full...)
Please, I need advice. I am completely Torn.
Q. I apologize for how long this is, I just feel like the details are important, and I could really use the advice! Over the summer I met this guy while on a group vacation, he's related to some very close family friends; we have several connections,...
A. 29 November 2010: Hi. You're very welcome.
Sometimes it just takes a little time to pass and a few things to happen in between, for it to get to a certain stage where it's all ready again, to just flow the way it was meant to.
It might not be a good idea to tex... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants my baby to remember me by
Q. ok im going out with this girl in new york but im moving to florida and were in love and she wants to have a baby that she can keep so it like a piece of me i cant even tell my parents anything how would i tell them how would i tell her mom i dont ...
A. 28 November 2010: Hi there. Having a baby so young is a very big step, no matter how much she loves you.
It's a step she might live to regret.
Also having a baby so young, might prevent her from ever finishing her education. Later on in her life, she would ... (read in full...)
He has created an online fake to talk to me instead of talking to me himself
Q. ive been talking to a guy in his mid thirties on the internet on msn. he wasnt very talkative, and now i know 100% that he has made up a contact and is trying to talk with me as though he is someone else. why is he doing this? i havent told him that ...
A. 28 November 2010: Hi there. It's interesting he has created an alter ego of himself.
It sounds like he is a shy type, so I think it's possible he's trying to contact you again as someone else, to see if he can find more to talk about.
The trouble is, he i... (read in full...)
Is it just a walk down memory lane ....
Q. About a year ago I divorced and reconnected with a man I have know all my life. We had dated our senior year of high school until he moved and then again when we met up about ten years later until he moved for his job. He kept in contact with me ...
A. 28 November 2010: Hi there. It could be a nice memory for him.
However, who you both are now is not who you were then. People don't really change who they basically are, all that much.
Situations can change people a bit, but fundamentally he is probably simi... (read in full...)
Is our online relationship an actual relationship?
Q. I just need some advice about online dating. I've talking to this guy how's 15 and he lives a state over.We talk on facebook and the phone.He says he really likes and i like him too.So he asked me if i would be his girl friend and i said yes.But now ...
A. 28 November 2010: Hi there. Although it's fun and nice talking to other young people on the internet, it's really no more than friendship at this stage.
No matter how long you both talk on the internet and speak on the phone, it never takes the place of a real lif... (read in full...)
Please, I need advice. I am completely Torn.
Q. I apologize for how long this is, I just feel like the details are important, and I could really use the advice! Over the summer I met this guy while on a group vacation, he's related to some very close family friends; we have several connections,...
A. 28 November 2010: Hi there. Perhaps just let things ride for the moment, and see what happens over time.
You just never know what might happen down the track.
Perhaps the age difference might concern him a bit.
That 5 years puts you both into slightly diffe... (read in full...)
Cant stop thinking about her its driving me crazy
Q. I find myself feeling very lonely when im not talking with my gf. I think about her constantly and lately cuz of the bad weather, I haven't been able to see her. It's driving me crazy. Idk what to do. I have been getting headaches from thinking ...
A. 28 November 2010: Hi there. You need to give her some space. That's what is making her angry at you.
You both need some space. Too much time spent together becomes suffocating and can destroy all the good things there used to be.
You do need to have some tim... (read in full...)
Don't want to lose my high school sweetheart!
Q. hello I'm 47yr. male met my highschool sweetheart at a 30 year reunion she's 46yr. were both still married but were both seperated her for 20 yrs. me for 2yrs. we hit it off great as if we were still dating. back than i was normally a talkative ...
A. 28 November 2010: Hi there. It's possible that you have both outgrown each other over the years.
The people you were way back then, are not who you both are now. Things have changed. Life changes people.
The feelings you have now, are just memories of how ... (read in full...)
I feel unattractive to my boyfriend!
Q. I feel that my boyfriend of 7 months no longer finds me attractive. In the begining things were great but just the other day he asked me "Who's the other guy?" I said there was none and asked him the same. He answered in the same manner. I joked ...
A. 28 November 2010: Hi there. Why did you both ask about - who is the other guy/girl?
What is all that about?
Unless you have given each other a reason to doubt, that's an unusual question to ask.
It points to insecurity - by both of you.
Perhaps his ques... (read in full...)
I know this is a waste of my time but why can't I let it go?
Q. alright so i dated this guy last year for about 6 months. it got really serious. i loved him. he was my first love. and he was the first guy i went far with. we didnt have sex but it was close. the day i realized i loved him, i realized how stupid i ...
A. 28 November 2010: Hi there. First romances are always pretty special to everyone.
It sounds like you got caught up in the moment, but it just happened a bit too early in your life - before you were really ready for something so serious.
Probably, tha... (read in full...)
For all women
Q. Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
A. 28 November 2010: Hi there. It's a very meaningful piece of work, and so true.
I believe it speaks volumes about confidence.
Thank You.... (read in full...)
What can I get her for Christmas that doesn't cost a dime?
Q. Ok I have a problem i have been in love with this girl for three years. I have followed her around i guess you can say i worship her. I love her more than life itself. She has been wonderful to me. She is one of the most beautiful people in the ...
A. 28 November 2010: Hi there. You say that you are in love with her and have been for 3 years now, but does she know about it?
You say that she is wonderful towards you, but are you meaning in a general sense - that she treats you nice, as a friend?
OR, are you a... (read in full...)
My wife has shut down on me emotionally and physically and then accuse me wrongly of having an affair!
Q. OK, where do I start...well, I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read and reply. I have been married for more than 5 years. We have a fantastic dautor of nearly 3. Soon after she was born my wife lost interest in sex. Thats how it started....
A. 27 November 2010: Hi. (Cont'd - 2). I just thought of something else to tell you.
Whenever you talk to your wife, try to listen intently and look right into her eyes when you do. Speak with kindness, love and respect.
Remember you can say anything, it's n... (read in full...)
My wife has shut down on me emotionally and physically and then accuse me wrongly of having an affair!
Q. OK, where do I start...well, I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read and reply. I have been married for more than 5 years. We have a fantastic dautor of nearly 3. Soon after she was born my wife lost interest in sex. Thats how it started....
A. 27 November 2010: Hello again. (Cont'd). She feels like she is giving to everyone else in the household (you and your daughter), but not giving to herself. Her needs are being left behind and placed last on her list.
She needs to have some time to herself ... (read in full...)
My wife has shut down on me emotionally and physically and then accuse me wrongly of having an affair!
Q. OK, where do I start...well, I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read and reply. I have been married for more than 5 years. We have a fantastic dautor of nearly 3. Soon after she was born my wife lost interest in sex. Thats how it started....
A. 27 November 2010: Hi there. After having a baby, it's fairly normal to lose interest in sex for a while, with almost constant tiredness and so much to do with looking after a new baby.
She might even need to see her family doctor, to see if her hormones are at n... (read in full...)
He hasn't texed me or called me since we had sex.
Q. He hasn't texed me or called me since we had sex. Is he over it now that I gave him what he wanted or should I just text him. We were talking about having a relationship but one thing led to another and we had sex. I am just not sure why he hasn't ...
A. 27 November 2010: Hi there. Sometimes if sex is given away too easily, it doesn't seem interesting or challenging enough to a guy, to make any further effort.
As tempting as it often is to have sex on a first date, it does cheapen things, because it tells a guy th... (read in full...)
I like him so much but he's leaving me till last!
Q. since august ive been talking to a guy online. hes 6 years older than me and hes turkish, lives in turkey. he is so lovely! and i find him so attractive. we would speak online every night and see eachother on webcam, nothing wrong, just faces as hes ...
A. 26 November 2010: Hi there. This is one of the biggest problems with internet chatting.
It's all kind of magical, and you feel as though you are getting to know each other - to a point.
The real problem is you are not "with" each other face to face.
There i... (read in full...)
Tips for reaching orgasm
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now and i am yet to orgasm. We have tried different stimulants but nothing seems to work. Can i just not orgasm? Is there anything wrong with me? How can i orgasm?...
A. 25 November 2010: Hi there. Have you every orgasmed in your life?
By this I mean, have you ever masturbated and brought yourself to orgasm by that method?
If not, I suggest when you are by yourself at home and can have complete privacy, just experiment with ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to kick the nic?
Q. hi how can i convince this boy i really like and get along with to quit smoking , i tell him its disgusting but he just looks at me and laughts but he should'nt be smoking how can i convince him to stop help please.x...
A. 25 November 2010: Hi there. Perhaps you could ask him "why" he does smoke.
Do his parents smoke (sometimes this is the case), and that might be how he started - curiosity.
- Ask him what he enjoys about it.
- Does he do it just to feel like he's a man?
... (read in full...)
I am 35 and in love with a girl who is only 18... and I don't know what to do?
Q. Hi there, Before I start my story please know I appreciate your honest feedback no matter how harsh it might be. I am a 35 years old man who never been in serious relationship before and I finally met this girl online (I know :( Meeting someon...
A. 25 November 2010: Hi. You are very welcome.
Please let me know how it goes.
You are definitely doing the right thing, then you at least have some direction from that point on. You will no longer be doing any guesswork, which can be incredibly frustrating.
... (read in full...)
I am 35 and in love with a girl who is only 18... and I don't know what to do?
Q. Hi there, Before I start my story please know I appreciate your honest feedback no matter how harsh it might be. I am a 35 years old man who never been in serious relationship before and I finally met this girl online (I know :( Meeting someon...
A. 25 November 2010: Hi. I get where you're at with all these mixed feelings, and that's ok.
In saying this, I also feel that you are more likely to regret NOT at least meeting her face to face, than to actually meet her.
Most people never regret what they DO, bu... (read in full...)
I am 35 and in love with a girl who is only 18... and I don't know what to do?
Q. Hi there, Before I start my story please know I appreciate your honest feedback no matter how harsh it might be. I am a 35 years old man who never been in serious relationship before and I finally met this girl online (I know :( Meeting someon...
A. 24 November 2010: Hello again. Perhaps what you worry about the most about you and this young lady, is not so much that you might not get along once you meet, but more that you are worried about what other people might think.
My advice to that is, DON'T worry ab... (read in full...)
I am 35 and in love with a girl who is only 18... and I don't know what to do?
Q. Hi there, Before I start my story please know I appreciate your honest feedback no matter how harsh it might be. I am a 35 years old man who never been in serious relationship before and I finally met this girl online (I know :( Meeting someon...
A. 23 November 2010: Hi there. The only way you are ever going to find out how you really feel is to actually meet each other. I would suggest you do this soon.
A relationship on the internet is nothing like a relationship where you see each other on a regular ... (read in full...)
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