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writes:I broke up with my bf 2 days ago, we had fought very miserably. He was pleading until last night to patch up. However, I decided to save the relationship, but today he didn't call up or text even once. I called him and left him a message that "I hope you're okay, take care." It had been hours, he didn't come around. But he was checking his phone all this time. I don't know what's going on. I am feeling extremely bad. Will he never call again? Has he moved on? Because I do love him. What should I do now, please suggest. Thanks! Never been in this situation before.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 April 2017):
 Don't break up with someone and think the relationship will become stronger. Communication is key here, breaking up with him will only make matters worse. If you loved him you would have sorted out the arguments and spoke to him, not broke up with him to get the attention you needed from him. Remember that in future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi!
Just wanted to tell you that he did call late that night. We've patched up. As you've suggested, I had been genuine with him about my feelings. I said that I love him and never want to be without him. He said that he knew that I loved and he was just putting me through this test where I knew if I could stay without him. Weird! But it worked.
I indeed need to work on my communication skills, because he actually for a moment thought it was a goodbye text. But provided the mess I am, he knew what I could probably mean by that text.
Thank you!
Much love ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2017): Call him and tell him I LOVE YOU and I am sorry but I made a mistake. I don't want to be without you. And just pour out your feelings. Let him know you don't want to lose him. Ask him: Can we talk it out?
Be direct and honest. You have nothing to lose at this point. Right? So, get out there and let him know exactly how you feel. Do not wait for him.
Go knock on his door if you have to.
It's now or never.
Keep us posted.
Hoping for the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2017): The message you sent him could easily be mistaken for a goodbye text.
Listen. He does not read your mind. You have finished with him and he has been pleading for days with no luck. So he has given up. Men don't take hints. They don't hear or understand them. They are very different from women in the way that they think. So what I'm saying is you have to TELL HIM CLEARLY how you're feeling. Call HIM and say that you would like to try again.
Not send him a vague text that sounds like goodbye and expect him to know that you mean something very different by it.
Good luck and work on your communication skills. You have to be an adult about these things now.
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