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writes:Me and my girlfriend have been seeing each other for the last few weeks. We have had sex twice, and both times there were problems. I have had a problem maintaining an erection during sex. When I do have one and enter her; She is so tight it hurts me when I have sex. To add to this; I still haven't had an orgasm with her yet. (I've given her 3 so far) Any advice?
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reader, Riot2017  +, writes (29 July 2017):
My brother had the same problem with one of her partners. They ended braking up because she was so petite, and we have fat D genes, so I can understand the frustration he had. Intercourse resulted in tears every time. What happens to you is sexual incompatibility, and a very hard one to work out.Dating tiny girls with you having a large D it can be problematic, really.On my side, I'm into tall girls, so we've never had that kind of problems at all.Regarding your erection problem, dude, every man haves that problem, at least once on their life.I had that problem a few months ago, and I went to the doctor right away. I started peeing blood and I thought I was going to die. My erection died for several days, and I was panicking badly. Turns out it was just a UTI. I suggest that you go to see an specialist to diagnose what kind of problem you have, and how can he help you.Use Viagra, ginger, and many natural remedies to fix that issue you have. Also, try swimming and working out (it has helped me boost my libido).Best luck!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 April 2017):
 Try lots and lots of lubrication.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2017): You say she is tight? I feel so sorry for you..LOL..JUST WAIT...in 15 or 20 years it will be very hard if not impossible to find a woman ,like that...so what you do NOW is get a script for VIAGRA, and enjoy sex with your lady..You'll see..it will change things for the better...YOUR WELCOME!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2017): Sorry to say you are not sexually compatible.
You just started seeing each other. The sex should be fireworks at this point.
The first couple of times are usually pretty intense when it's all new and if the chemistry is right.
And sorry, she isn't really your girlfriend.
Having the sex talk usually happens years in when it starts to drop, becomes routine or one partner is losing interest, not in the first few weeks.
I think if you wish to salvage this, you need to talk to her about it honestly. And see if things improve between you sexually.
Yes, it is easier to bring a woman to orgasm than a man. If she is tight and it is hurting you, then no wonder you can't maintain an erection. It may also be psychological.
She could have given you a BJ or stimulated you manually to bring you to orgasm. Does she even TRY to please YOU? If not, that is a bad sign. Hopefully she is not a selfish lover.
Do you have a lot of foreplay? Is she wet and lubricated so that entry is easier for you? Good sex is much more than about the physical act itself. Do you do it quickly and get it over with or do you explore each other's bodies and take time with each other to be intimate and sensual? Do you have an intellectual connection? Do you actually share a very strong physical attraction to each other?
Why is she so tight? Was she a virgin? Does she have a condition? Do you know much about her sexual past?
It seems to me you have lots to discuss.
Start there.
And if the sex does not improve soon, I would definitely cut my losses. You are only a few weeks in.
Good luck.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 March 2017):
 Yes, wait a bit more with sex. Get to know each other better. Then ask HER, and not us. If you're not yet comfortable talking to your girlfriend about the sex that you and her are having, then you're not ready to have sex with her in the first place. Give it some more time. You and her need to talk about this first, instead of you asking online.
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