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writes:I'm going on a group holiday next week(which has been arranged for a while) with someone who I really like and have feelings for, but who I have come to realise just enjoys flirting and does not actually have feelings for me at all. The thing is, there are only 4 of us going and so it's going to be quite close quarters. I know that this is going to be hard for me, as by nature he is quite flirty and I am prone to misread signals and overthink things. I'm pretty sure he knows I like him but maybe doesn't realise that it's becoming hurtful to spend so much time around him when I have feelings for him.I don't want to spend my holiday miserably wondering why he doesn't like me. What can I do?!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 April 2017):
 You need to accept now that he is not interested in you, take his nature with a pinch off salt and enjoy the holiday. Who knows you could bag yourself a hottie who is interested.!
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reader, malvern +, writes (27 March 2017):
 I'm not sure how you come to be going on the same holiday as this guy because it would be best not to go considering how you feel. You will just have to put yourself into the frame of mind that he is what he is - a flirt and that you have no real chance. Even if you did have a chance would you really want to have a boyfriend who's a flirt? You'd never be happy would you so he's clearly not the right man for you anyway. I hope you meet somebody else because when you do you won't give this flirt a second thought.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (27 March 2017):
 I feel a little "mean" for saying this - but BUCKLE UP, Buttercup.
YOU KNOW he is a HUGE flirt but means NOTHING romantic or serious about it so you can either IGNORE the flirting (as in don't flirt back) or you can play along (but still remember that it's BANTER to him nothing more).
Since you know he is a FLIRT what is there to misunderstand?
You like him but that doesn't mean he can't BE who he is because you don't WANT to accept that flirting from him means nothing. You WANT it to mean something and well, it doesn't.
Not really HIS fault that you have a crush on him, is it?
Go have fun on vacation and KEEP in mind he isn't interested in anything but flirty fun. There in nothing to misread or overthink.
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