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writes:So...this is a weird one. I'm pretty sure I'm being weird. So I go to the same petrol station once a week. There is a guy there who is always on early shift which is when I fuel up before driving to work. We always have a chat and increasingly he has been asking more and more about me. We have quite good banter and I feel like a bit of a flirt. So I know he has checked out my work ID badge as he asks me about my job etc. And I've checked out his so I know his name. He told me about a wedding he was going to at a hotel local to me. so I did have a bit of a stalk. Went to hotels Facebook page and looked through photos they had published from wedding. From there I saw a pic of him and through that found his Facebook. So it's totally a bit stalkerish. But now I'd quite like I message him on fb to say hi. However, I don't know if I should. Because A. If he liked me, wouldn't he have asked for my number and then B. he'll know I'm a stalker. And I still need to go to that petrol station if he doesn't message back. Help- to message or not?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 September 2017):
 Honestly I don't think you should message him, if it was me it would freak me out. Although you could try and ask him out the next time that you see him. The worst he can say is no!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (14 September 2017):
 So while checking his FB page out, did he appear single?
And why not drop a big hint when next time you flirt with him that he should totally take you out for lunch/coffee... maybe a :"you know we get on like a house on fire, we should absolutely have lunch and get to know each other" (if you know a nice place for a lunch in either his area or yours you can suggest that...
Flirting doesn't ALWAYS mean interest. Some people just do it for the fun o it. For the attention. You don't know if he flirts with EVERY cute female that goes there... And he doesn't know if you flirt with every cute guy you come across. So FLIRTING/BANTER is not always an indication of interest.
If you drop a hint that he should totally invite you out for lunch it shows him that you WANT to get to know him better. He can either then PURSUE it or not. It won't make it awkward if he doesn't.
He might play off that he didn't really get the "hint" which would mean he isn't all that interested in anything more than flirting. And if he is, he now has a great opening to ask for your number.
I wouldn't contact him on Facebook. For the simple reason that IF he isn't really interested it will be awkward to go there again.
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