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writes:We have been dating for about 2 years now,and recently whenever im with him,i started to feel wrong,yet i feel comfortable and safe everytime he's around.i love him,yes.he love me,yes he do.much more than me i think.he care me about me,pampering me all time,even when he's mad never once did he raised his voice to me.im thankful to have him.but at the same time,i dont know if he could cope with me.i realised that somehow we're totally opposite.he want to settle down,get marry in next few years while me would rather go around exploring the world.Arguments rarely occured in between us,but that doesnt mean we didnt communicate.we talked,we joked,had a good laugh but rarely talking about our relationship.even when problems arises,and we both knew something is wrong but we ended up not saying anything about that.It's like when hes close to me,i love the warm feelings and yet i feel i need to get away.but when hes not around,hes far from me,i just feel like running to him and just clung to him.okayy..i sound crazy now.haha.And yes,sometimes i feel like we're not right for each other.or is that a sign of insecurities? Reply to this Question
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (29 December 2010):
 hi
:) i feel sorry for men sometimes! us women can be difficult creatures for them to understand cant we? i get what your saying i think, you want him to be more of a man? he's too 'nice'? its a mad fact that nice men often don't 'do it' for women. i really think you need to take a long hard honest look at what you want coz at the moment you are seeming like you are not sure. if you love a person you shouldnt want to change them, especially if you find his niceness and caring nature are a problem to you. if he is not right for you, he's not right. i think probably the best thing you can do is to go travelling like you want to, as he is happy for you to this too and then use the time to think and see how you feel about marriage and the future
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes exactly! Somehow im not happy that hes not fighting for what he want.i dont really fancy his doings of giving his all to me,not caring about himself.and the worst part is,he said he doesnt mind doing all that for me,whereas im dying to knock some senses into him and just tell him to more.... selfish..? I dont know~ :/
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (28 December 2010):
it sounds as though he genuinely loves you so much that he will agree to let you go, have your freedom, travel and then he hopes that once that is out of your system you will be happy to go along with what he wants (marriage and a future with him)have i misunderstood or are you saying you are not happy because you feel he is not fighting for what HE really wants?xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell.. We did talked about this.as usual,he just went silence for a moment & after a lil' while he would agree to it (this goes to every of my request).it didnt feel right.i know he only agreed to it for the sake of me.he never like to see me disappoint,and he never does.
Its not that im complaining.just that,even if he dislike his own decisions,but because of me,he would just go & say yes.i dont like that.i want him for once say no to me,and do what he wants.he puts me as his first priority,and tho i feel special,i dont want him to pick his decision against his will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell.. We did talked abt that possibilities.and as usual,he keep quiet first & for a lil' while he said yes (this goes to every of my requests). But somehow it didnt felt right.
In his eyes,im always the first priority.eventhough he didnt like his own decision,but for the sake of me,he would just agree to it.i dont like it.i dont like he just put me first in everything,and he doesnt seems like he care about his own.ive been trying to talk about this to him,and he said he would try to change that.but that was a year ago.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (28 December 2010):
hi this sounds like a lovely relationship! does he know that you want to go travelling? would it be something he would consider doing with you? would he be happy to wait for you to come back and then maybe marry? and would that be what you want? if you have not discussed these matters, then i think you shouldxx
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