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writes:I am currently a 20 year old medical student that has never been in a relationship. My course is really intensive and I've found it really difficult to get to know women on my course. I have asked a few out when I was bold in first year but was rejected and haven't asked a girl out since.I'm in two minds whether I should expand my horizons and look to meet women that aren't on my course in the small amount of free time I have or look to meet other medical-related students such as student nurses and physiotherapists.I'm too shy to talk to strangers in clubs and feel too uncomfortable trying to openly date women in my year because I was pressured into getting with a girl that I didn't fancy and people I know don't let me forget about it.I want to be in a relationship but I don't know where to meet women or how to take things when I meet a girl. Do I get to know her first before asking her out? Do I date her to get to know her?So many questions and not much time to learn...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2013): I think should expand you horizons not shrink them because its more unlikely to find someone that you like if you only choose from a small amount of people. And what you wrote about how you should play it when you meet women depends on what you want from it. And if it is a relationship then get to know the girl to see if you like her and then ask her out. And when it comes to rejection is a fact of life the way to succeed through it is not to dwell on it and to brus.h yourself and carry on. Look back to when you have seen a guy who seems to get all the girls well believe it or not one of the main reasons for this is because they just go for it whether its getting to know a girl or asking her out and they do it alot and although it might seen like they never get rejected but they do the difference is when they do they don't dwell on it but move on and try and find someone else. Because although it can be dissapointing if you get rejected by someone you like but you have to move on you will just give up and make your life smaller. So why not try it?Hope this helps.
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reader, lmao1989 +, writes (28 January 2013):
 First of all try and make some time to go out with friends you don't necessarily have to meet them at a club try a pub a calmer atmosphere.
I would also not just try on your course and try others also. Best way to get to know someone is by dating you know meet up a few times talk about likes and dislikes or random stuff.
If you see a girl you like just introduce yourself find out what they are doing just a general chat you'd have with a friend and flirt a little.
Just try not too panic i know it's difficult when you're rejected so often it shatters your confidence but just try and think positive keep chat simple and calm and friendly.
Hope this helps :)
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