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writes:Hi i am in a very hard situation at the minute, i was with a man i liked for years and he liked me. i think i may now be pregnant and i have told him this, he was really pleased at first as he has wanted a child. i have a 3 year old daughter who he found hard to get along with, he has just last night asked me to move out and find somewhere else to live. do i try and make it work or get a place of my own and be a single parent to 2 children? any advice greatly appreciated thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2013): Basically you deserve and need to find out where he stands and whether he is going to be in or out. Because it is not fair on you or the baby for him to be in and out of your lives. So if he wants to be with you and you
want to too then i would try and make it work but if he doesn't then i would go it alone and get support from your family.
Best of luck.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (28 January 2013):
 Hi
Pregnancy test first.
Then go and see your local Housing Office, you will be homeless with one or even 2 children,finding a place to live is a priority,explain your situation to them.
He is not going to change his mind and as he doesn't like your 3 year old it isn't the environment your daughter should be living in anyway.He sounds like his minds made up and he won't be a great loss.IF you are pregnant make sure you sort out maintenance eventually too,the baby will be his and he will have to help support his child.
You will get through this, it's quite a mess, but hopefully you have a supportive family to help.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (28 January 2013):
 First thing is to determine if you are truly pregnant. Then you need to find a place to live since your boyfriend made it quite clear he wants you out. Then, if you are indeed pregnant, you need to make sure you will be getting child support for this new baby. I assume you know the ropes from your getting support for your daughter. You have obviously been down this road before. As far as your relationship goes, well I think he's shown his true colors, don't you?
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reader, misLadYd..  +, writes (28 January 2013):
 talk to him again. twice or 3 times then give him space as in like move out get a place.its gonna be hard yes but you wil find strength as time goes by.once the baby is born just get him to pay maintainance.he has no leg to stand on then.its his responsibility!
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (28 January 2013):
First of all i would find out for sure if you are pregnant because your health is most important right now. ONE WAY OR ANOTHER i would move out with your little girl and find a place to live.It would seems pointless to try and make work with this man when he wants you OUT.Best Luck Nora B.
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