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writes:Im in new relationship and we have been having sex for about 4 months now. Everything is great apart from then fact that he only lasts for a couple of minutes. He said its because hes out of practice and after a while he'll be better but if anything it seems to be getting quicker. The only time he lasts longer is when hes had some alcohol. What can I do to improve things? Id prefer natural techniques rather numbing or de-sensitising products but I dont want to suggest anything to him that might make him feel inadequate because hes not x
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reader, Daniel the love doctor  +, writes (28 January 2013):
 If you're four months into the relationship and have had sex often with him, he should've adjusted to your body and how you feel when you two are intimate- not the other way around. But since that's not the case, my advice to you would be to talk to him. Tell him that you appreciate when he relaxes and takes his time when you two are intimate. Tell him that you love making love to him, but you want him to focus on giving you the same orgasmic feeling that he gets when he climaxes. Your goal here is to minimize any chance of him feeling embarrassed or self-conscious, but instead allow him to look at the situation as more of a goal to make you happy in the bedroom. If nothing changes, my advice would be for you two to see a sex therapist. Allow him to get an outside opinion from an expert.Best Wishes!
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reader, EmLou29 +, writes (28 January 2013):
Hi, let me start by saying that I am also in a new relationship where my partner is also quick. There is nothing to be ashamed about, you or him. Unfortunatly these things sometimes happen. I am quite an open person and after the first few months I had a conversation with my partner, I thought it was the best thing to do as we were both thinking it but no one had said anything.He was embarressed and who could blame them, but if it is not discussed then it will only make things worse in time as he will start to see that it is getting to you and then he may even feel worse about himself.You could just drop it out in conversation one day about experimenting with maybe some new toys, or even creams and jells. There are things out there that can help to make the sensation longer.I also get my partner horny sometimes and we have four play, he will often come and then we will have sex after that. That may not work for you but I do find this works for us. Or maybe concerntrate on your body more, let him give you an orgasm firts before sex. But I do definatly advise you to speak to him about it.Kepping it to yourself will only bury the problem.
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