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writes:Hello everyone, I realized that myareiage is in trouble and she won't talk about it. I know we all have problems in relationships how ever I'm dreaming of my ex and I miss her. My dreams are hurting me because I followed love and it blew upIn my face. It seems like soon as she got her hook in me she started to ignore me more n more. Her work is more important then me. She's a workaholic. She goes all over the place on buisness trips. This one at the end of sept is over the weekend and I find it strange that you'd would work for two days for free. I'm pro union and she's not but it sounds like a buisness retreat then meetings. Flying to Washington in the private jet. I don't know if she's cheating but she does not come near me anymore. We've only been married for 7 months and she needs me to survive in the money world. I make $5,000 take home and I'm retired so I just try and stay busy. If I left her shed be in money trouble and now that we don't make love anymore I'm getting g sick of living in a world of no touch because I do ok in life and own property and a newer house that I'm renting. I look at it this way if she does not want me to be with her in everyway life is to short for a sexless marriage. I may sound greedy but I could live in peace and debt free and do things I like. Maybe I need to find someone that loves me and let's me know. I've worked hard in life and can afford nicer things in life. Im angry at her because how can she say she loves me but not showing it. Life is way to short to not just sit here and go why why why. I bet if I say it's over she'd change her attitude. As mean as this sounds I have other woman to see and date. I feel hooked and know she got that she shut it all down. Not fair. Who does not love sex and to feel loved. My big talk is today or sometime this week. I have a limp but not to bad but it's there from a work accedent and a major head injury. I had 3,000 lbs of solid concrete fall on my head from 60 feet up when hit by a crane. This can be hard on people to be with someone that is not perfect in the eyes of jerks that judge people that way. I'm strong not handycapped and my ex looked at it like that. I really miss her but that ship sailed because I broke her heart. I believe in karma and maybe I'm getting it back for leaving a woman I was with for ten years to go with another woman. I was happy in life but I thought my wife was a better way in life. Was I wrong. You need love to get love and I wear my heart on my sleeve and it gets stomped on bad. Why can't I find me a woman that loves me for who I am. I did great in life even with my handycap and own a house with treed acrage near a lake and I been told I'm handsome and not sore to look at. I will find the right person but if my marriage ends less then a year I'm never going down that route again. I know it's called emotional detachment were your left without the good things in life and just the bills. I'm treading on deep water because I've tryed to talk email and tex her about what's going on in my head. Never get a responce. I just hope I do the right thing about this but if we can't talk it's over. I know it's the most important part of a relationship and when that's gone it's all gone. I love her but it has to go both ways or it's not the right way. I hope I can get some responces about if I'm doing the right thing by trying one more time to talk and if I don't get it back tell her it's over and I don't think are marriage looks normal. I feel second best. Thanks all. God rest and love for your help. Sleepless in Canada.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (9 September 2012):
 Sounds to me like you have a "non-married" marriage... and you are desperately trying to believe that you should get out of it....
Here's what you "need" to hear: "Get OUT OF IT!!!!"
Good luck....
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