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writes:Me and my boyfriend are 15 and we have been going out for almost 10 months and we have done all the snogging and kissing lark. I'm wondering how to take our relationship further without sex. I don't touch his balls at all and he doesn't touch my boobs and we're okay with that. Recently we have taken to lying down when kissing just cos it's more comfortable. We lie side by side and not on top of each other. We are both bright and not planning on doing anything stupid at all. I haven't really talked about this with him cause I just have no idea how it can go further without anything sexual. We hug a lot and occasionally tell each other we love them when we really feel it. So overall, how can I take our relationship further without sex?
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reader, anon-xo +, writes (10 September 2012):
A few years ago I was also in a similar situation as yourself. The reason I was able to overcome this was I was very open with my ex boyfriend. We both discussed what we felt was appropriate at the time and what we both felt comfortable doing. I made it very clear I wasn't ready for sex until I was at least 16, which he was perfectly okay with. We didn't start doing stuff until over a year into our relationship, where we took things slow and both began to explore one another. There are many other ways to feel "satisfied" without having sex, but I'm pretty sure you're fully aware of all this; as you seem pretty switched on :)
If you're not comfortable about doing anything yet, you should'nt have to worry, as many other people before me have said, you can easily move your relationship forward without any form of sexual contact. Just whatever you do, have fun and don't ever feel pressured to do anything you don't feel comfortable doing. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2012): Well at your age, this is pretty much what relationships are about. Taking things slowly and really getting to know, understand and trust each other, so you're sensible for going about it the way you are...well done.
Just carry on as you are doing, until you hit the point where you are both ready to take it to the next level (ie sexual) but hopefully wait until you're both 16 at least so you're not breaking the law of having underage sex.
How about going places together, meals, cinema etc?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (9 September 2012):
 You can't .... so don't bother trying....
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (9 September 2012):
 I lost my viriginity shortly after my 15th birthday, and i had only been with my boyfriend for about 2 weeks. So well done for not doing anything sexual after being with him for 10 months. Relationships can move forward without sex, but its all about time, and how much you talk to eachother, maybe you should try some new things like going out to lunch with eachother, or maybe spending a little bit more time together than you usually do. That will make the relationship feel a little more serious and help things move forward slowly. However time is a big aspect in all of this, the longer you are together and the older you get the more you will feel for eachother. You will also find with the whole sexual bit, it will come with time, but only ever do anything like that when you feel ready and don't just do it to please whoever your with. Good Luck x
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (9 September 2012):
 The depth of a relationship grows slowly after time. Usually by communicating your hopes, dreams, and the things yourself you may be too afraid to tell others, but you tell your boyfriend. If you trust him enough to tell him things, and let him see facets of you you may not allow others to see...this will help your relationship grow. You can't force this growth, it is something that happens without a schedule. So, keep doing what you are doing...and always communicate with one another. Soon, you will find you have a serious relationship that will last.
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