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writes:We've been together for six months, then I moved away and a month later she broke up with me because of she didn't want the long-distance. We kept in touch and at first it was awkward and now two months later we're back to talking 24/7, it's like we're together but without the labels. At first she said it was over and cut out all the intimacy but now its back in force. She says she can't wait for me to get back so we could be together. We're already making plans for hte future. Here is the problem though.When we talk, there is no pressure on either of us. HOwever its nice to know that she will respond. There are times when I'll message her, I'll see that she's read it and then she will ignore me for the entire day until night time. She knows I hate that. Other times, I'll see that she's online talking to other ppl but ignore my messages. As well, she is emotional towards me but never asks how my day was etc. I always ask her. If she cared she'd ask no?We both really like each other, and I think she's realized that she likes me too even after denying it when she broke up with me. But does she really care? I think she's the perfect girl for me, but the way she goes about showing how much she cares, what do i do?
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (9 September 2012):
 I will admit, it seems like all the effort is one sided.
It seems like your putting alot of time an effort to make her feel happy and to see how she is and she doesn't want to make the effort back.
She just reminds me of certain people, who you talk to, but then when you randomly stop to talk to them in the street they ignore you and keep walking.
I personally think you need to be abit wary, You said she likes you too, are you most defintly sure about that? Have those words acutally come out of her mouth?
She might also be playing games with you, as surely if you like someone, and you kind of have that butterfly feeling like you do when you first start talking to somebody you like, you reply within seconds of getting a message off them, and you just take any spare moment you have to talk to them.
I would be careful that she isn't playing games with you, and i'd also be careful that you aren't just some kind of "last option" as if someone wants to be with you and feels for you then, there shouldn't even be any other options.
However, one thing you do have to keep into consideration, is the fact that this is the internet. Things go wrong, and you might have got wrong end of the stick. Maybe sometimes she accidently leaves her facebook on, or she doesn't acutally get your messages all the time, do keep that into consideration.
One more thing are you the one who always messages or speaks to her first? If so, then why don't you leave it a couple of days, and see if she at all bothers to start the convo by messaging you. Thats a good way to see if she truely cares. Good luck.
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