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writes:So, a friend of mine is mutual friends with a girl on facebook with my boyfriend. We were hanging out yesterday and she told me she noticed he liked a lot of this girls statuses and when she posted about looking for work he said this "you should work at a restaraunt over by me so i can tip good :P"then she posted decisions, decisions and he said "you and me both"What should I do in this sitatuon? let it go? or say something?
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (9 September 2012):
 I will admit, that does seem a little bit odd. Talk to him about it. Its quite hard in situations like these to find the right words to say, and to be subtle about something like this. However if this is really worrying you, then just tell him what you think, see how he reacts. If you feel deep down there is something wrong, or maybe something he ses just doesn't really fit. Then don't just leave it, i do find that gut instincts are right, but the only thing you can do about this situation is to bring this up with him and tell him exactly how you feel and just see what he has to say. It is the only way you can really get things off your mind, as i said in the last post, don't let it lie! As otherwise you will constantly be paranoid as to what hes up too. I really wish you the best of luck and hope this was nothing more than abit of a misunderstanding. Keep your chin up x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo kind of an update. My phone was recently cut off and I'm job searching. Well, I use his number when filling out applications (he told me to do so) and got a call yesterday but missed it because we were in a separate room at the time. I called the job back and was told to call this morning. I told him this before we went to bed. In the morning I let him know again, " I need to use your phone to call that job" he said "use the house phone mine is almost dead, I'm charging it." Not even 5 minutes later he came back into the room and took his phone with him.
I really don't know what to say...
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (9 September 2012):
Be careful. Things can get misinterupted on the internet.
He could of simply said it as a joke, and by reading what he put, it doesn't seem that bad to me.
He could just be the girls friend, and was just being nice.
However if this is really worrying you then of course speak to him about it.
Letting things lie if your worried about them is what can sometimes lead to one person in a relationship constantly being paranoid that the other is up to something, when they are not.
You don't have to accuse him of anything, maybe just nicely ask him, who the girl is, or how he knows her.
And the ultimate test of trust, is to ask to quickly go on his facebook, for some reason.
I have learnt from having a boyfriend who flirted with every girl he could on facebook, and even going as far as asking them to have abit of fling with him, that if a boy or even a girl is paranoid about you going on there facebook or really doesn't want you to go on there facebook. Then somethings up!
You don't even have to ask to look at his messages or whatever, just maybe ask to upload a cute picture of you and him. And see what he ses. Goodluck
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