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writes:Okay so i keep asking this question but as yet the advice does not seem to help the situation.okay so i meet this girl online from europe and we have been talking for about 6 months and she came here to the United states to work for a while and we met and it went great and we enjoyed our time.The thing is that i asked her to be my girlfriend, becuase it would be sometime before we could meet again and she said that she doesnt know because we live so far away. So i kept on talking to her and i asked her again if she wanted to be in a relationship or if she was looking for any other guy besides me....She said that she was not looking for anyone else but that she doesnt have time for a relationship right know because she is looking for a new job and hopes to start school soon and it would be stressfull. She said that we will see in the future, she told me to be patient and that she doesnt know when and that we would see. So my question is why would she want to wait, i know plenty of people who have jobs go to school and are in relationships, so why would she want to wait, and she says she doesnt know when we will be together, but what do you guys think she says she wants a relationship in the future.........I mean we flirt and show each other affection but still, WHY does she want to wait and not tell me the time it would take, when i know so many people who are in relationships that have jobs and go to school, What bothers me is that we meet on a dating website and she contacted me and then when i want to take things further she says she needs time and it cannot be so fast and that she doesnt know when we will be together, only that in the future........ i mean it's been six months, what gives
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (9 September 2012):
 Okay. Well its ovbious you do have some feelings for her even if they aren't that strong. However at the end of the day like she said, she does live far away. And unfortunely LDR's are not everyones cup of tea. I personally do not see the point of LDR's as for me relationships are all about affection and acutally pysically being with that person. And maybe, she doesn't feel exactly the same about you as you feel about her, maybe she just wants some time to think and maybe un-muddle her head and just see how things go with you. And i have been in a relationship for the past 6 months while i have been at school, and i do agree, that beleive it or not relationships CAN work like that, but relationships definitly do not make me things like education, work and focusing on that part of you life any easier, so maybe thats just why she wants to wait. It sounds like she is trying to juggle work and school at the same time so she could have alot on her plate at the moment and not want to be under the pressure of having a relationship. Like she said though, something could happen in the future, i know its frustrating to wait when you have known someone that long, but it really is the best thing. I will also say, constantly questioning her about the whole relationship thing, is not going to help, and could end up putting her off a little bit as you might just come across as obessive, wait till things with her and her current situaution are sorted out then try and ask again. If she still ses no, then it could be she either isn't ready for a relationship or she doesn't feel the same for you. And remember you are don't have to wait for her forever, there are plenty of other options out there yanno. Good luck
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