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writes:My best friend and I like one another. He has teased me about liking him a few times but I have always said no. And we laugh and then talk about other things. We've always been close friends who joke about everything but can confide in one another about everything. But we've never crossed the boundaries until recently, we've been texting very often. Conversating almost every day! I like him a lot but I don't see him as someone I want as my boyfriend. It's hard to explain but his family situation and his place in life is not my style. However I'm falling for him more and more every day. He is mature, thoughtful, and very considerate and I'm afraid we are going to end up ruining our friendship. It's hard to control my feelings although we nothing has "happened" yet. I found myself feeling lonely one day when his phone was not working. What should I do? I think a lot of it is because I'm a senior in college is a little lost and who can't find the right guy.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (9 September 2012):
If you like your best friend and the 2 of you get along this great I don't see why you can't be together. His family and his place in life just seem like excuses to me. It either you want to be with him or not so you should make up your mind. Crossing these boundaries can ruin amazing friendships.
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reader, clueless and confused  +, writes (9 September 2012):
Dear crossing the line,Friendship and love are very very different feelings that can get mixed up very easily. If I were you I would start by deciding whether his friendship is absolutely vital for you or not, because only after that you can decide whether or not to take risks.First of all just because you like each other and want to be together it doesn't mean you have to be in a relationship. I have a lot of friends that were in the same situation as you and decide to go for a friends with benefits kind of relationship and they managed not to damage their friendship and not to go as far as being gf and bf.However, it is a very difficult thing not to fall only love for the other person or vice versa. You have to realise that your friendship may never be what it is now if something is to happen. The decision you have to make is very simple. You either decide that there are other guys out there and that there and that it's not worth risking your friendship and therefore stop talking to him that much and try to find someone else. Or you decide that yes it is worth trying and who knows youmight end up wanting a relationship with or you might even be able to be just friends with benefits.Ultimately, and I know that this takes a lot of courage and determination I would talk to him if I were you. In your position I would put myself out there and say this is what it is I am not ready for a relationship with anyone at this point, but I like you as more than a friend and I think we could try something more. If you both talk and define the relationship it would be easier for you to decide what direction to take, but keep in mind all the consequences it would have. Once again I shall reinforce that it is better to try and not to work than to never know.I hope this helps you and please let me know how it all turned out. Whatever decision you make I wish you good luck :)
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