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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi there. I've been with my bf for two years but last year we broke up for around 4 months and I dated another guy while on a trip to the beach. We both lived in the same city but when we went back home nothing ever happened. We stopped talking but every once in a while we would message each other on Facebook just asking what was up. I've never been able to forget him 100%. I got back with my ex (who I'm still with) a few months later.I've always remember this guy I dated but not in the 'I want to be his girlfriend' kind of way, more in a nostalgic way.Anyway, a few months back I messaged him but he never replied and two days ago he replied saying he had tried to get back to me like 40 times but the message never got through. I thought that was pretty weird but we started talking and he has started telling me he misses me and wants to see me, and then we started reminiscing about the time we spent together, etc. All in a very romantic way and I felt things I've never felt with my boyfriend while we were doing so, I couldn't stop smiling, even my mom tells me I'm in a very good mood recently (which is unusual lately).Now I don't know what to do, I'm pretty unhappy in my current relationship due to many things. I literally fight with my boyfriend every single day and for a while I've been wondering if it's best to go our separate ways as much as I love him. The more unhappy i have become in my relationship the more me and this other guy have been talking. I don't know if i should end it with my boyfriend. I feel so guilty for talking to this other guy behind his back (although my boyfriend is no angel either). However, I feel like me and my bf are together for the wrong reasons, maybe we have just gotten used to each other or something.If i were to end things what would be the best way? And what do i do about this other guy?Please help any advice would be greatly appreciated. I'm also aware that I might be judged by some people, it's fine, i know that what I'm doing is basically emotional cheating.
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reader, clueless and confused  +, writes (9 September 2012):
Dear new isn't always better,Johnny Depp once said that if you're in love with two people at the same time it means that you don't actually love the first one, otherwise you wouldn't have fallen for the second, but honestly, I think that's not so true.First of all I just want to make something very clear: before them there's you, so if you're not happy with your current relationship, maybe it's time for it to change.I do agree that you shouldn't be talking to that guy if you're still in a relationship so the best thing to do is to make a decision as soon as possible. I don't know neither of the guys so I'll have to trust your judgement and make some assumptions of my own. I must say that I do find the whole situation of the other guy wanting to text you but not being able to a bit suspicious but that's up to you to decide.Here are the 3 things that may happen1st scenario you break up with your boyfriend and try something with the other guy, thing may even turn out great for you and you get a better relationship than the one you had.2nd scenarioyou stop talking to other guy and try to improve things with your boyfriend and it may be that things turn out fine...OR NOT.3rd scenarioyou go for the other guy and things end up badly and you end up regreting what you did and wanting to get back with your boyfriend.I think that if you have feelings for the other guy you honestly shouldn't ignore them specially if your relationship hasn't been so good. But that is only my opinion and at the end of the day it's your decision to make, just take into account all the possible outcomes. Hope I wasable to help, please ask anything at anytime and let me know how it all worked out.Wish you all the best :)
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