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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Can this relationship survive? she is cold to me, she doesn't even say she loves me if I don't say it first

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

18 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey There! I like what I read here and I just seek help, that is all. I'm with my girl friend from 2 years, and we had a pretty nice starts "but I guess every start is a nice start. She has really similar interests to me, and I really enjoyed every single second with her.... (742 words)

Has my sister caused me to hate women? I have discovered why I'm terrified of rejection

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

18 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm 20 years old and its all because of my sister. She always rebukes and verbally abuses me. I've had enough and i disowned her a few days ago and im no longer talking to her. Whenever i go to talk to her she is always in a bad mood and answers with abusive retorts. She hates ... (166 words)

My boyfriend has lost all interest in having sex with me and this makes me feel incredibly insecure..

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey guys! Wondering if you could help me out... I'm 17 and I've been with my lovely boyfriend for 8 months now. For the first 5-6 months our relationship was great, we'd do everything together. However, Since around July my boyfriend has totally lost interest in having ... (139 words)

He disappears on the weekends..

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age - have been talking seriously with this spanish man on fb..who seemes too good to be true..is the most charming , sensistive man i have ever spoken to....he say's he's fallen for me and would like to meet me in London , as i'm from the uk and he's from spain...the problem is he ... (145 words)

Would this be a weird anniversary present?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4811 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - It's the first year annivarsary for my boyfriend and I in two weeks and I'm thinking of getting him tickets for a football match but only thing is, they're nearly always on a weekend. I need to work then and there's a strong possibility that I wouldn't be able to go. Ther... (120 words)

I'm going to visit friends in the town where I went to university, but I'm worried about running in to my ex. What should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

18 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I'm going to visit friends back in the town where I went to university, but I'm worried about running in to my ex. Mine and my ex's relationship was short term, but we got on incredibly well with each other and formed a strong, loving relationship. The relationship was... (364 words)

Can this be real? My dream from the past becoming a reality.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - My ex and i once shared a dream and this dream never became a reality due to the fact that he ended things between us this caused untold damage in every way imaginable. i managed to carry on with my life an met someone else who treats me very well and respects me but that spar... (120 words)

He's blocked for a reason. Should I confront him, for seeking info about me ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I fell out with my best friend, who was a guy, around five or six weeks ago, blocked him from contacting me, so that he wouldn't be able to contact me and would leave me alone from then on. I do not want anything to do with him anymore. I have just found out that he asked my ... (197 words)

Can people fall in love over the phone? Or is it because we knew each other before?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Why do guys fall in love with girls? There was this guy that I had worked with about five years ago, and for the past three years we pretty much haven't talked at all. I was dating one of his friends at the time when we had worked together, so he and I had become friends a... (377 words)

I can't stop thinking my bfs are cheating on me!!!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey people.. I've tried for the last 10 months to try and "move on" my previous relationships about them cheating on me. I've been in 3 relationships since and all of them ended horribly with me accusing them of cheating on me and "doing stuff". I believe 2 of them didn't e... (219 words)

I like this guy but I'm afraid to show all my feelings as I have been hurt int he past. What to do??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4805 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This is going to be a little confusing, so bear with me. I think I like a guy friend of mine. He and I haven't known each other that long, so I can't be sure, and truth be told I haven't hung out with him all that much. When I finally admitted to myself that there may be som... (366 words)

How do you chose between love and youthfulness???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi guys, I have been with my boyfriend now for a year and a half and I love him greatly, he treats me great and will do anything for me. The problem is, recently we have been going through are up’s and down’s. The thing is he is 10 years older than me and he is from Albania so ... (538 words)

Should I tell my parents I'm gay?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

18 September 2011 (?) age 26-29 - hi i am a 15 year old teen boy i dont know if im gay i think i am because i find teen boys and models very attractive my mother send my to a doctor a social worker because im very introvent dont talk much with people. when i am home im just indoors never outside and play video ... (231 words)

Is there something that can be done to get him out of my families life safely and for good?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My father is very mentally abusive towards my mother and young brother ! I've had enough!!! But my mum is scared, he has been physically abusive before ! What can I do, or who can help ??? Is there something that can be done to get him out of my families life safe... (78 words)

Has anyone ever had any success in online dating?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4784 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Has anyone ever had any success in online dating? I would like to know your story. I recently decided that I should give online dating a chance but honestly all I've seen so far are guys trying to get into any girl's panties and that is turning me off online dating ... Are ... (73 words)

How do I discuss with my daughter any future contact she has with him if it is the case that he really is mentally ill? And how can I get a healthy and less victim-like view on how he has treated me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I got married when I was very young and the marriage lasted around four years. My home life prior to that had been extremely chaotic with a severely schizophrenic/violent elder sister and an abusive mother. In contrast my husband seemed calm, but I now realise that he was ... (1587 words)

I really don't want to be a pest to him, but should I tell him how I feel?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4811 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi hope you can help.this is a question about a guy.so i would really like a male point of view on this one please.and if your a lady who thinks she can help please do. ok what i going to do is write down all things important about me and this guy that i like and after yo... (1580 words)

With my new boyfriend, I don't know how not to be physical!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - So I started dating this guy about a week ago.. And last night we went to our homecoming dance and I personally had a lot of fun. He had fun too. We were dancing and kissing and had a lot of fun. So, then after the dance, his friends texts me saying, "You know, maybe you ... (140 words)

Shall I initiate another 'where is this going conversation' and if he is not budging then accept that the relationship has no future and split with him or do I wait until he brings it up?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4661 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone, I'm 28 and in an intercultural, inter-racial relationship with my boyfriend of 2.5 years. He is Egyptian muslim (33 years old) and I am white British liberal muslim. We're both doctors. I've not met his siblings (2 sisters) except for his brother who is a real la... (767 words)

Fwb ignoring me done nothing wrong

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi this is my problem my fwb who I have been having sex with for the past 6 months has just recently started ignoring me I text him last wednesday and got no reply and today he completely blanked me and walked straight past me what have I done wrong why is he being like this I ... (68 words)

I love her but I don't know if she can handle this whole distance thing.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So its this LDR thing that is just annoying as hell, this whole distance thing is sooo hard...I think i can handle it but I'm not sure if she can too, she has proved me that she loves me a lot and i do ofc as well, its just that i don't know if she can handle all this...there ... (248 words)

Do I confront her about this guy? Or is it just harmless flirting?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello, hopefully you can help me with this problem I've been having. I've been in a relationship with this girl for over 4 years and we love one another a lot. I have been hurt very badly in the past and as such put up some barriers with this relationship. A combination of t... (411 words)

Am I in the wrong? I didn't mean to be, I had her best interests at heart!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Okay; I'll try to keep a long story short. I have a friend who I've known for about a year and a half who I'll refer to as M; we'd speak every single day, talking for hours on end. We'd talk about really deep things as well as just genuinely enjoying each other's company. She ... (385 words)

I just want to find somebody who likes me for who I am, can I have some advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I want sex! im 18 i have never done anything with a boy, im quite a curvey size 16, the problem is when im in clubs i have no confidence to go talk to guys, i feel like if they do come talk to me or want to dance they are making fun of me. Its very hard for me to loose weight ... (133 words)

Even if they do break up I don't want to be the rebound guy!

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18 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - There's this girl, she has a boyfriend, when we met about 3 months ago there was an instant attraction, and I started flirting with her. We became good friends, but never crossed a line, until one night when we were drunk we confessed our feelings. We agreed that we couldn't do ... (177 words)

Should I trust my partner? Found photos of his ex locked up

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, i'v been with my boyfriend for 8 years now and have 4 children together. When we moved house my 4 year old at the time pulled an envelope out and inside were pictures of his ex. I questioned him he said he didn't now he still had them and he threw them away. Recently my 13 ... (144 words)

I feel like I have to make her see what she's missed out on (me) while still remaining her friend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I had a crush on my friend for a long time, we've known each other for a year and I've liked her for six months. We were really good friends. I told her how I felt recently and she said that even though we had so much in common we were looking for different things (which is ... (390 words)

I really like this girl, but she may be on a rebound, and I'm just confused!

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18 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I like this girl..alot! She's great..she's funny, makes me laugh and smile all the time,and she's soo sweet. But the thing is that she just got out of a serious relationship, so I dont know if she likes me back or not...I feel like she's giving me mix signals in a way. She ... (144 words)

G/f said she was thinking of another girl, not me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - My girlfriend, whose also my best friend(we're both girls), got high the other day. When she was listening to music, she told me she was thinking about another girl, one that wasn't me. Is this a little thing or should I be worried?... (43 words)

BF wants us to watch porn together but I'm worried that witnessing my partner getting turned on by someone much better looking than myself will damage my self esteem

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Yesterday, my boyfriend of 2 and a half years brought up the subject of watching porn together and said it was something he would like to try. Personally, I have never watched porn before as I have always thought of it as being degrading. I have no problem with him watching it ... (129 words)

Should I have a baby with this married man?

This question has 25 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a serious question that I know will ruffle A LOT of feathers but I'm sorry, I really need advice, I've been seeing a married man for a while and were very close, best friends more than lovers. Recently I have been getting urges to have a baby, serious urges, I'm talki... (247 words)

I'm in a relationship with my ex GF's cousin, just to take revenge from my ex for dumping me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid, Over the last six months, guys I have been in a relationship with my ex-girlfriend’s first cousin and pretending to love her but actually I am using her to settle score with my Ex who dumped for no reason almost one year ago after having spent 4 years wit... (270 words)

I prefer to be alone so I don't cheat on my LDR partner

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

18 September 2011 (M)

age - I'm in a LDR and speak to her almost every night through the week, weekends however we don't talk at all hardly. I don't like weekends. I basically wish the weekends away until I'm back at work and it keeps my mind busy. I love my girl very much but I am very very lonely. To ... (287 words)

How can I be sure my married lover will come for me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age - How can I be sure that he will come for me. He is married lives 2,000 away...with a son of 16...he is waiting for the son to go to college before we can be together. He phones when he can...emailing has stopped because his wife has now got access to his secret email account. ... (125 words)

What went wrong here? How did things change so suddenly?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello to anyone who reads this. I have heard this is a good site for advice so here goes... Met someone and hit off big time. Always recieving texts and asking to meet them. Saw each other everyday and spent most nights at their house. Met friends and their siblings, ... (368 words)

How do I make his kids like me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a wonderful man and father. He has 3 happy children. I don't have any children. I have never been out with someone who has kids - any tips or advice you can give me so they like me? Thanks x ... (49 words)

Confused, whether he likes me or not!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4811 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok so ive been liking this guy for quite some time now. I don't know whether he feels the same way for me or not. Because of that, I pretend that I don't like him. I act normal in front of him. Once we were studying together ( we dont really talk to each other) with other ... (194 words)

Is there any way to deal with horrible PMS?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi, I'm 14 years old, and my family has a history of bad periods. What I mean is heavy flow, pretty regular from the first period, and moodiness so bad my mom has to take medication. I got my period last january, and I can tell you that all of these are true. I've had a regular ... (142 words)

Insecure about my lips! How do I learn to accept myself as I am?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm mixed race (black and white) but I inherited more physical features from my dad's side, including rather full lips. I've always been very insecure about them, to the point that I've even considered cosmetic surgery to reduce my pout a bit. I feel dead self-conscious when I ... (186 words)

Ex has not shown more than a friendly interest, should I ask him out for a drink?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F) - This is about something that happened about 21 years ago. I went out with my friends brother (old flame) for about 3 months but it was ended because she wasn't happy with it and her parents banned me from their house. I accepted that it had ended with hin. I still had ... (514 words)

How can my boyfriend have major mood swings and not realize it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Please can anyone help me. I have been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years, and living together for just over 1 year. We have always been so very happy and made lots of plans for our life together. The last 3 weeks he has been really down one minute and then on a high the ... (123 words)

My life seems like sunshine and roses on the outside, but there's alot going on!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (?) age 30-35 - Hi, I don't knwo where to start really but i need some help. I feel like my life is turning into one of those lives where its all sunshine and daises on the front but inside there stuffgoing on i don't know how to deal with. On the outside im a 17yr old girl, im easy to get ... (387 words)

I cheated on my wife. Should I tell her?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4805 days ago

18 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I cheated on my wife 14 years ago. I didn't have an affair. It was just one day in a motel room with an ex-girlfriend. I felt terrible about it even as it was happening. My wife does suspect something may have happened. In fact, I think she suspects more happened than actually... (127 words)

My husband admitted he married me to get into Canada!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4802 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I've been married to my husband for 13 years now. We first met when I was on holiday in Edinburgh, Scotland back in 1995 - it was a great holiday, I'd always wanted to visit Britain, in fact I still go every so often, to this day. Our marriage was good right up until last wee... (277 words)

My man isn't willing to give me the legal marriage; he only wants the 'traditional marriage'!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - hi, i have been with my guy for 3yrs we even have a baby boy.he is divorced with 3 kids from the previous marriage.he really loves but the problem is that my man doesnt want us to have marriage under the ordinance.what he ... (125 words)

Should I still hang on,and hope he forgets her,or should I move on ?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So,there is this guy.I've had a crush on him for a while,mostly on and off.My best friend dated him for like 1 week last September,and 1 week in January,even though she knew i liked him.Needless to say,she dumped him both times,and even hooked up with his bestfriend the next ... (148 words)

How do I advise my sensitive friend who is rushing into another relationship using a new puppy as the justification?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - my dear friend has been on the lookout for a girlfriend since his wife was caught cheating on him 3 years ago. he has had countless failed relationships since and always talks about his ex to me and even saw a therapist recently who told him that he was still in love with ... (290 words)

How could we make this a successful relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I am a boy of 25 yr. I met with a lady of 40 yr on a social network about 9 months ago. We soon became good friends and we spent all the time sharing our thoughts, experiences and almost whole personal life although we hv abt 8 hr time lap. She is married but not having good ... (241 words)

Is she still interested or just playing?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - So here's the deal. I was going out with this girl for a while (about 2 years) and things didn't end so well. It has been 3 years now since we have seen each other. The odd thing though is that we have talked about every other month or so since then. She is now talking to ... (233 words)

Is what I did after hand job wrong?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i gave my bf a handjob and it was my first time doing it. he ejaculated and i wiped his fluids over his penis. is that a big no, no or is that ok? it just seemed kind of messy! sorry for the graphic question but i need to know! haha... (55 words)

Fiance not holding up his end, should I move back home?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - It's been a year since I've moved from California to Nebraska with my fiancé and our 16 month old due to employment for my fiancé, I was able to transfer companies. He is no longer working and is now in the court system, things are not what he promised(seeing how I left all my ... (116 words)

I want to stop having these dreams! They are pleasant but interfer with reality

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

18 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I've been having some dreams recently, well, more often I should say. It's usually with me and a girl, but the significant part of the dream is the action the girl takes. Holding my hand, laying her head on my shoulder, holding me tightly. It's these moments that I am surged... (163 words)

I miss my ex and the passion and drama that went along with it!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I am 30 now and I was with my ex off and on for 7 years. I am now engaged to a different man but I am having a really tough time forgetting about my ex. My ex and I broke up because we come from very different backgrounds and it would have been way too hard to make it work. Our ... (255 words)

Does boyfriend love me or what I do for him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - i have been with my boyfriend of 10 years. life is good as long as its about him and no one else. recently my adopted son came back into my life and i needed to build a bound there. my question is does my boyfriend love me for me or what i can do for him. i give him an hour ... (358 words)

How do I let go of the bitterness towards my husband's affair?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband of 6 years told me 2 years ago that he never loved me,this is when i discovered he was having an affair. he said so many times that i forced myself on him. Somehow we got out of the situation, but he never apologised to me. I am still with him and things seem ok ... (87 words)

Why did I bleed after sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time a couple of days ago. I have had sex before, but haven't for more than a year, and the guy was smaller than my boyfriend and didn't go as deep or for as long. The next day, I was bleeding, kind of like a light period. While we... (106 words)

My boyfriend linked me to a site with hentai on it?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend linked me to a website the other day for a clip of a painter we both like doing a tutorial. The first thing I noticed on opening the web page was all the "hottie women" galleries on the side, and links to hentai, sexy women, and many other sexually oriented video ... (195 words)

Clarity versus accuracy on a resume?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

18 September 2011 (F) - I got a job i really want and they want to call my boss after i give notice to probably verify a few things. I am really though about some details. The duties on my resume are well written with adjectives expressing what i do and it mentions everything from things I did onc... (545 words)

Should I tell my girlfriend about this incident?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

18 September 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Hello there, alright this is serious so please I don't want people telling me about the age of legal sex, I know thank you. I found this girl, she is just like me in almost everyway and we have started dating, and we are really close now, I have no regrets, earlier on today I ... (246 words)