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writes:my dear friend has been on the lookout for a girlfriend since his wife was caught cheating on him 3 years ago. he has had countless failed relationships since and always talks about his ex to me and even saw a therapist recently who told him that he was still in love with her.. to which i agree.he is a very needy guy and has stated that he just doesnt want to be alone. i get that but he rushes into things always when it comes to girlshere is my dilemma........ he has met this girl online, she lives in the same area and they have been seeing each other for approx 2 months, she hasnt spent the night at his place, he has spent approx 3 nights at hers. he tells me today that she wants to get a puppy and he told her that if they got a bigger place together he would get it for her so she better come over so they could practice living together. now i adore my friend and want the best..... but seriously all i see is another failed relationship coming..... i so want him to be happy, but its like they are going to be living together for the sake of a puppy.... she hasnt even met his two young children yet. he asked what i thought..... i had to bite my tongue as he is so excited!! what do i say? he is a sensitive type, so i dont want to offend him, but i dont want to skirt around this issue with fake smiles so to speak. thanks for reading
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 September 2011):
 The truth : that normally people don't just jump into a cohabitation with a perfect stranger after only having known for 2 months, they prefer to wait until the relationship is secure and committed and they are in it for the long haul. Often it's used as a sort of general rehearsal for marriage. Deciding she's "the one" after just two months sounds rather premature and impulsive and ,like in any other area of life, impulsive decisions can have harmful consequences.
Said that, he's an adult, apparently sound in mind and body, he can do all he wants, and if he decides NOT to conform to what most people do, - that's his choice, and you can't even argue it over a certain extent, it would be like calling him dumb and irresponsible. Just offer your opinion, keep your fingers crossed and wish for the best.
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