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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

After 7 years he wants a break from us? How am I supposed to take this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - my boyfriend and i been togther for 7 years we also have have a 5 year old little girl... He tells me all the time that he loves me and wants to be with me but within the last week he tells me that he needs a break ... I think i might be takein this the wrong way but im not ... (70 words)

What are the chances of history repeating? I messed up before and now can't trust me and feel uncomfortable about this girl

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4826 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - One of my good friend's gf keeps trying to hang out with me. I would but I don't really feel comfortable being alone with the gf. I'm not sexually attracted to her whatsoever, but I just don't want my friend to be excluded. I have done something in the past that definitely has ... (136 words)

How far should I distance myself from her, and how will I know the right time to be with her again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4825 days ago

3 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Okay so here's my situation... I've been dating an amazing girl for 15 months, 13 months long-distance. She lived with an abusive family. At one point she was extremely depressed and emotionally wrecked so she sought me for help. Thus, I called the police on her family (the ... (450 words)

What are my options for the future, in view of how he speaks to me and lies to me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4826 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been trying for the past 2 years to cope with the knowledge that my husband had been deceiving me for 5 years by joining internet dating sites and cheating on me. My dilemma this time is the other night he was telling me that we dont take our children to enough exciti... (260 words)

How do I stop putting her on a pedestal?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4826 days ago

3 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi, my girlfriend and i have been dating for almost 4 years. we are currently doing a LDR where shes in Boston and im in NJ. She will be there for a year. We had gone to college together and spent almost every waking minute with each other. I realize that, that was not the best ... (193 words)

Is once a cheater always a cheater applicable to my boyfriend's case?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Ok, I know we've got dozens of posts on the phrase "once a cheater always a cheater" I have always believed this before but now I am trying to open my eyes again to see if I might be wrong. Ok, so here goes my story. My current boyfriend used to be an online chatbuddy of min... (529 words)

We had sex while I have my period, is he disgusted with me now? And can I get pregnant when I was on my period?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I had unprotected sex with my guy during the first day of my period .he's very afraid of blood and got turned of in the middle of it and then started acting weird. i didn't want to do it either but we are on a long dist. relationship and i feel he's not getting enough of it ..i ... (238 words)

Sudden outbreak of acne at 25? Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4826 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi cupids I know this isn't a relationship question but I just would like some advice about my skin. I have never had acne in my life until recently, I turned 25 a few months back and have heard this may have something to do with my recent outbreak in spots. I have really ... (72 words)

He ignores me and lied to me, yet I want him! Why does he keep me around if not interested?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - i have been talking to a guy for a year and some months, before in the beginning he was so caring and sweet , always wanting to see me, and of course i was kind of stand off ish to him. when i decieded i really cared deeply for him, he turned completely different. distant, ... (439 words)

I have no confidence in bed!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i have absloutly no confidence when it comes to sex! really want to srop being so unconfident and insecure and i keep tellin myself that im gonna take controll during sex, but when it comes to it i can never do it! i am generally quite a confident person! i dont get it! i lost ... (142 words)

Should go see him or I should just forget about him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4826 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok so Im 18 years old. Ive been with my boyfriend for over 4 1/2 years now and we have a 3 year old daughter together. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend and he's all I've ever known. But probably right after I turned 18 something in me changed. I became more confident and ... (730 words)

Should I confront his mother or just try and grow up right away?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4825 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - so me and my boyfriend have been daiting for almost 2 years and we have had sex only once. the other day we were going to again but the night before he told me that his mom didn't want it to happen because she found me immature. she doesnt want it getting too serious because ... (95 words)

The dilemma of my long-running relationship!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4821 days ago

3 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm 21 year old computers student. i've been in a pretty serious relationship for ever four years now. things were so serious that our parents knew each other, and although they didn't talk to us, they know that we both are going to marry some day. of lately during my final ... (269 words)

I'm concerned about my vaginal tightness!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4825 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi im 16 and still a virgin. (going to get a bit graphic sorry) When i masturbate i normally only use 1 finger, however recently i tried to experiment and found that i could fit up to four fingers with little discomfort. I now feel absolutely disgusted with myself and am scared ... (177 words)

How do I find out if my boyfriend's family dislikes me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok I,m a 19 year old Damsel in Distress who needs a little help! I don't think My boyfriends family likes me. They never actually said it but I don't think they do I may just be paranoid but I think myself i,m a strange girl. Like I,m really shy and Quiet and I try to be poli... (121 words)

I do care about her but I feel she is being somewhat silly if she thinks our relationship can sustain without intimacy and sex. Am I being selfish?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4826 days ago

3 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I am a 33 year old, frustrated male and I am really hoping for some impartial advice. I have been with my girlfriend for just over eighteen months. We currently live apart but I know that she is eager for me to move in with her and her little girl. I get on well with my gir... (525 words)

Stuck in the middle... I'd date him if he didn't have a girlfriend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4822 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Long story short: This guy and I were classmates for a while at our college, so I routinely added him on FB, not thinking anything much about it, since I did not like him at the time. We started talking and, unexpectedly, we immediately clicked- at least in my opinion; we h... (660 words)

Why do I feel so unhappy and unfulfilled?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have a good life so why an I so unhappy? I have a great boyfriend, a nice home, great family and friends but I keep dwelling on the things I don't have. Like a better paying job, my Own house, marriage.... So I guess its more money I want. But I have everything but that... (108 words)

Is she retaliating or am I reading too much into this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Question here for the ladies. i went on a couple of dates a year ago with a girl from my building and i found out she was crushing on me for months before i asked her out and she told me she was reffering to me as the hot guy on the third floor. i was obviously crushing on h... (615 words)

How long do people chat online before they actually meet eachother?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (?) age 41-50 - How long do people chat online before they actually meet each other? I'm new to this online dating thing. A guy contacted me on a dating website and we've had a good correspondence going for about 2 weeks now. After the 2nd exchange with him I had told him I would lov... (252 words)

Should I worry that my boyfriend wants to go to work related events without me?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4826 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi all. My bf of two years is not keen on me going to work do's with him, this includes parties at people's houses. Halloween last year there was one at someone's house and although he didnt go, he made it clear that he did not want me to go. He insists that it is because it is ... (254 words)

An old bf is back in my life but now he's ignoring me??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I dated this guy in high school. I broke up with him cause we were leaving for college and I heard that he was heartbroken for years thereafter. And although I moved to another city after graduation, I always thought about him for all these years. Because we have mutual f... (239 words)

My partners friend hates me..

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My bf says we're still together but he left. He went to another state and says he just wants to work all the time so he can give my son and I everything we want but he is with a friend of his who hates my guts and has already hacked into his fb 3 times and removed me and my son ... (149 words)

I like this guy, but he smells really badly. Do I tell him and ruin my potential for a relationship?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4826 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey there. So my question is a little weird. For starters, I'm 17 and I'm dating one of my classmates (we're just seeing each other, we're not official or anything yet). We go on dates and hang out a lot and it's all really fun and I really like and I'm sure he feels the same ... (230 words)

Should we work things out or does my wanting to see other people pretty much mean the end?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - ok, so me and my ex (but we are supposed to be working on things) have been together for almost 4 yrs and have 2 yr old together.....but my thing is he has cheated 3 times and the 4th time he messed around it was not really cheating he broke up with me a wednesday messed with ... (260 words)

How can I make him know how sorry I am?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I need some help, I broke up with my 'boyfriend' because I thought he was having second thoughts about us. A few days before we broke up he told me that we weren't actually going out but just in a 'friendly relationship' which I took the wrong way making me think he didn't want ... (235 words)

Gay with an unstable roommate

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello Dear Cupid people, this is for me a very serious situation, so I need your advice urgently. I have lived with my hetero room-mate (and colleague) for nearing on 8 months. He's partnered and has little kids, who he constantly gets depressed about because he misses them. ... (541 words)

Should I have invited him back to my cabin??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age - Having just returned from a cruise and had a lovely time-towards the end I became friendly with a nice man slightly older than myself (although he was friendly and chatted to everyone) however we had lunch together several times and coffee one evening But I didnt invite him ... (190 words)

I want my life back, but need help on how to do that?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My last relationship ended just over a year ago - we where together on and off, for 5 years (since I was 16) and especially towards the end of the relationship, he was physically and mentally abusive. The last year we were together, we lived in Australia, about 6000 miles away ... (194 words)

I still haven't had a boyfriend and was wondering if its something I'm doing?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hello :)) i'm single since birth and i do not know why,i know that i'm not that head turner lady but still i'm not the super ugly one..before,there are some guys who i know that liked me,they show gestures that they like me (like i always catch them staring at me,their friends ... (88 words)

I'm in an awkward position and I don't know what to do..

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - ok so theres this guy we will call him iggy pop. then theres a guy named....button. so iggy pop asks me out and i said yes we kissed and stuff but then we both had other stuff to do(such as school,after school events, and so on) and we havent hung out in like a month. my fri... (122 words)

My 'friend' used me, what do I do about it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - ok guys this is long but any opinions would be gratefully recieved. ive known a guy 3 years and ive always had strong feelings for him but we've always stayed friends-he always come up with some reason like he thinks of me like a sister or something as to why we cant date but... (302 words)

How can I feel less empty and get a girl to notice me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

3 September 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - I've had an emotional empty feeling for a few years. I can't identify the cause despite but it might have developed from the sadness that was caused to me as a child about things that I couldn't control and being very unfortunate. I do have good days though, but I do feel some ... (199 words)

Should I contact him or let things be?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - There was a guy I knew for four years. I sort of liked him because he was always there for me when I needed it. He never judged me or anyone by their exterior and I feel like there was something there for me. I was super insecure so I let him go and at times on my ambitious ... (268 words)

Should I get back in contact or let things be?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

My husbands friends are being too forward..

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been with my husband for 6 years now and have been running into this issue a lot lately where his friends, the majority of them, flirt like crazy with me. When I say flirt I mean things like the body language, the "eyes" the sexual innuendo that flies around, them liking ... (155 words)

I want children but my partner doesn't & his ex is involved

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been with my partner for 3 years. He asked me to marry him, so we had the discussion about having kids, finances, religion etc. The sticking point was children – he said he thinks on balance doesn’t want (he has 2 already with ex) but that he could change his mind and ... (279 words)

I'm not sure what to do or say?!!?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Who gets a cold sore days before her second date? I DO! what do i do? i bet he's gona expect a kiss and i am NOT telling him i have labial herpes! what if what if what ifffff........i know he cant kiss me in public, he prob expects me to ask himm to come to my place but i can't ... (78 words)

I love two guys and not sure what to do about it???

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

3 September 2011 (?) age 41-50 - Hey Cupids, I am a little confused as I seem to be inlove with two guys at the same time. How is this even possible??! Have you ever been in this situation? And how do you know which one to pick since you care about both of them and have a great time with both? One is a bf I'v... (96 words)

I feel like I've been played but I'm not sure?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm just a nice girl from New Jersey who came to West Virginia to make new friends and get away from the stereotype of NJ. I'm a really nice person I am honest though with people and I don't let people walk all over me too much. I'm really book smart but, I'm also street smart. ... (217 words)

I've cheated and she forgave me, but why can't I forgive her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - my wife had one afair, not a one night stand, after i had cheated for 6 years and while she was pregnant. We are suppose to put all this behind us but what i didnt tell you is ive been lying to my wife, telling her im going to the bank, then i go to my wifes friend. this is not ... (103 words)

I know it's wrong what he's doing but what do I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4826 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My fiance cheated on me to have a 3 some with men, and he had a bunch of text messages, emails.. he made up profiles for sex ( for both men and women) hes a liar! but he confuses me, makes me think im wrong when i feel so badly in my heart that i am right. im affraid to talk to ... (269 words)

We're just friends but my partner thinks differently, what do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I am 39 and have a male friend that I had since I was 11 that every few years we get back in touch. I spend my entire life practically up my boyfriend's a$*, but I'm happy. Actually people consider us the perfect couple because we are a couple that actually likes being wi... (551 words)

Why has he stopped all of a sudden??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm confused! I am in my early 20s and ive been with my boyfriend(fiance) for almost 2 years. for the last 8 months, he doesnt want to go down on me?for the first few months we were together, he would go down on me. and now he always expects me to go down on him, he doesnt do ... (128 words)

Should my brother have told me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4825 days ago

3 September 2011 (?) age - I have been torned up about my ex's cheating thats why he is now my ex...but all through my 22 yrs of marriage I always thought we had a fairytale marriage until 4 years ago ...I was devastated to say the least.....so now we're separated I am destroyed...cry everynight and wish ... (114 words)

Cheating for 7years and a child to another woman!!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - my husband has been having an affair for 7 years with his female college friend and a male college friend of his told me that she admited to her close friend that her 6 year old gaughter is my husbands. he has changed alot and swears at me every day in front of my son and lies ... (126 words)

Someone teach my boyfriend how to kiss!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months and I am his first girlfriend even though he is 19. My big problem is he is a terrible kisser and I just can't get past it. Help?... (38 words)

My first crush in a long time but he's taken!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - i have a problem....so i met this guy in mt math class but then i changed classes then a few days later i found out he was in my new science class....i really really like him...and i want to tell him...we began talking and hes cool, nice, funny,sweet......but there is a ... (95 words)

Did my boyfriend just seriously tear up after sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time. He started sniffling like he was going to cry and didn't 'finish'. (He instigated the sex). I didn't push him or anything. Has anyone ever had it happen to them or know why? I don't want to humiliate him if it's because of some ... (61 words)

We just have plain jane sex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hi, so, my boyfriend of a year has a wicked past of struggling between two women. His first gf was obsessive, controlling and mentally ill in some ways. His second was a normal girl, but he didn't ever love her. now, he's with me and i know he loves me, but he fights t... (323 words)

A girl made a mockery of me at a party, how do I recover from this?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Tonight I attended a party my cousin was holding. There were a few members of the family there, but it was mostly friends of my cousin. Anyway, there were a lot of drunk people there, while I was acting as designated driver for my parents. I figured "it's just a family party, ... (456 words)

Too soon to like her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4828 days ago

3 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I met this girl on holiday in Spain and i only knew her for a week and a bit, but i really like her, is it weird that i can like someone after such little time?... (36 words)

How can I get the spark back and get him to notice me again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - ive been seing my boyfriend now for over a year and things have started to really fizzle out,we met last summer after never meeting but talking to each other for a few days,instantly i fell for him,we just got on so well and after a day we started going out,a month later we got ... (246 words)

11 years of marriage and my wife has a 1 night stand!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4827 days ago

3 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - we are married for 11 years she drop me for other guy one night stand she ask me to give her sekond try sins then things does not work out fight everyday i dont trust her anymore the whole day just on her phone i send her sms sometimes she didn,t reply if i ask her she said she ... (108 words)

He chose to get a girlfriend so why does he still want to sleep with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4828 days ago

3 September 2011 (?) age 36-40 - I had a "friends with benefits" type thing, a while ago and ended up liking him (which was stupid). That ended and he got a girlfriend but told me he wanted to stay "friends". I agreed even though I hated it. I didn't talk to him as much because it was too hard. A few months ... (257 words)