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writes: This is about something that happened about 21 years ago. I went out with my friends brother (old flame) for about 3 months but it was ended because she wasn't happy with it and her parents banned me from their house. I accepted that it had ended with hin. I still had feelings for him but never told him. I then went out for an evening with the sister months later and he was there and his friends pushed me into a taxi and he spent the night with me but I refused to let anything happen. Then I got into a relationship and then that ended but I moved back into the house I had previously been in when the split up with me (this was 3 years later). The old flame turned up on my doorstep one night which completely surprised me as I also fell out with the sister but friendship came back on about 2-3 years later and to my knowledge she had no reason to talk about me to him. She occasionlly talked about him and what he was doing. Anyway he turned up this evening so I decided there and then to put a stop to things. I drove him home, he asked about my new guy and said did you tell him I was your ex. I dropped him home and said goodbye and told his sister what had happened and she was surprised about it. Over the years we have had no contact but I am still friends with his sister and she told me about his children and failed relationships. Recently he had quite a serious split up and I decided after alot of thinking to contact him on facebook. I said apologies for contacting you and hope you are not annoyed, asked how he was and hope he could move on and said he probably did not remember who I was. He replied and said 'have no fear I remember you and recognise your face'. He asked how I was, knew I had three children and knew I had been married and also knew one of my children had got special needs. He has been quite happy having chats on there (we have not added each other as friends) but we chatted about him finding someone and he told me he was more mature now and was more interested in the mature older woman.I thought it was quite sweet that he knew a little about my life after so long as I didn't expect his sister to mention it to him. I am not one for being forward but should I leave things as they are and just speak occasionally on facebook or should I ask him if he would like to meet up for a drink. To me he has not shown anything more than a friendly interest so I don't want to ruin anything. Shall I just leave it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIf you read the question correctly this happened about 21 years ago. He came looking for me 3 years later after dumping me and he knew about my children because his sister had told him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2011): He just recently showed up on your doorstep, knows where you live, knows things about your children you didn't tell him, and you see this as 'friendly' interest.
This is more like stalking or obsessive behavior.
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