A
male
age
,
*etter1Uknow
writes:I'm in a LDR and speak to her almost every night through the week, weekends however we don't talk at all hardly. I don't like weekends. I basically wish the weekends away until I'm back at work and it keeps my mind busy. I love my girl very much but I am very very lonely. To the point of I don't trust myself in the company of others, I don't want other women showing an interest in me because I have a phobia about rejection. I hate it and I don't want to put any woman in that position because I am outwardly a single guy. To let any woman down i would have to tell them of my Long Distance relationship and frankly, it's none of their business and makes me seem like a loser to choose my LDR over someone closer and immediatly available. So I choose to not go out, I keep myself to myself because I know how vulnerable I am to being unfaithful and I have been there before. I chose lust and immediate comforting over the love that I have for my LD lover. In that time I hated myself. I'll always choose her so I would only hurt any woman i had a fling with. I don't want to do that, I'd rather be alone weekends, rather stay in and watch TV than go out and let anyone get to know me. I'd rather no one else got to know me, to find out who I am because those who get close to me get hurt and i would rather be the one hurting than inflict me on someone else. Am I crazy?
View related questions:
at work, long distance Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2011): I'd rather no one else got to know me, to find out who I am because those who get close to me get hurt and i would rather be the one hurting than inflict me on someone else. Am I crazy?No, but it's probably why you are in a long distance relationship in the first place. With a long distance relationship, the other person is always kept at a safe distance and can't really get to know you. The only way to really be known and loved is to spend time with a person where they get to see all your habits and flaws.No one can tell you what works best for you but typically people are happier and more fulfilled letting others in.
A
female
reader, silenced  +, writes (19 September 2011):
 First off, you're not crazy.
That being said, I think it's good that you're doing all that you can to stay faithful. Long distance relationships are definitely lonesome and difficult.
However, the fact that you have to isolate yourself isn't that great. Maybe you should find some guy friends to hang out with and go out with. Isolating yourself is not healthy for your mind. People need to be social. Just try to avoid scenes that involve too many women. You'll be happier and you'll keep yourself occupied with your friends.
...............................
|
