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anonymous
writes:Hi this is my problem my fwb who I have been having sex with for the past 6 months has just recently started ignoring me I text him last wednesday and got no reply and today he completely blanked me and walked straight past me what have I done wrong why is he being like this I haven't done anything wrong any answers would be greatly appreciated thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2011): Sadly just cos you share your body in this situation, doesn't mean he owes you anything. He isn't showing you any respect so why worry another minute.
Its not how you thought it would end I know, but chalk it up to experience and try and find a man who offers the lot.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (19 September 2011):
 Yeah, I do believe you've been replaced. It's true -- FWB means there is no relationship. However, it doesn't mean that there is no courtesy or respect.
"No strings" means that there are no attachments or relationship. Doesn't mean that there are no manners. I wonder if he didn't get someone new, AND he perceived that you were looking for more than FWB.
Either way, he's a toad, and you shouldn't get into FWB's.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (18 September 2011):
 You may not have done anything wrong, as the other aunts and uncles have said. The only thing you have done was to be unwise enough to start a friends with benefits connection in the first place. Usually, a woman wants more, and the guy does not.
It was very rude of him to ignore you on the street, but unfortunately, it could be summed up by: "he's had his fun, and now he's done."
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (18 September 2011):
 It sounds like he is ending the fwb. He may have met someone and figures this is the easiest way for it to end. You most likely have done nothing wrong but as it was stated there is no commitment here and not really a reltionship that requires the formalities of ending it. Your better off just letting it go and finding someone else.
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reader, soon567 +, writes (18 September 2011):
He's not an idiot, but he may have interests else where. Your guy maybe crushing on another or he found a FWB thats he thinks is better. Just stop hounding him and when he cant find someone else to sleep with then he be back to you.
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reader, Koala Bear  +, writes (18 September 2011):
 He is most likely done with the benefits he had with you. He may have met someone and wants to be completely honest and open with only her. We know that men rarely get serious with a girl who carries on this type of (FWB)relationship. And honestly it sounds like he is resentful of you. If you know you haven't done anything wrong then he may simply be telling you it's over.
I would ignore him as well. Cease all communications with him. The next time he initiates contact you already know what he wants. Don't subject yourself to that anymore. Usually these things always end in someone getting hurt. Time to putt an end to this casual hook up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2011): He might have met someone new and is too much of a coward to tell you. I would say, try not to contact him anymore. He will just get annoyed and start to see you as a nuisance. If it really was just a FWB arrangements and you don't have any deeper feelings for him, you should be able to just carry on with life. Go out with some real friends instead and have a nice time, don't bother with this guy. Sounds like a royal idiot. Part of being friends with benefits is actually being friends and he's definitely not acting like one.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (18 September 2011):
 He sounds rude, but being a FWB, there is no commitment and each person has the right to stop the sex at any point.
There is no relationship.
By ignoring you, he is telling you he no longer wants sex with you. It is rude, yes, and he is an idiot, but that is the nature of this type of relationship.
Personally, I couldnt deal with this type of thing, so I will never have a FWB.
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (18 September 2011):
 I could be wrong, but it sounds like he's not into a FWB with you anymore. He could've been busy when he didn't reply to your texts, but to ignore you on the streets was rude. I think you should just move on from this guy. Let him be the one to apologize if he wants to come back around but I think you should just move on.
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