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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How can I tell my straight friend that I love him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

15 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Why is it hard to tell that person you love him? I'm a gay and he is straight! And of now he never answers my txtmsgs or my chat msgs. But I never tried to tell him that I care for him, because I don't want to risk our friendship and also I'm sacred of rejection from h... (69 words)

My mother is emotionally and physically abusive

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok I am aware this doesnt really have anything to do with love but I really really need advice here or input of some sort so if you could all please read and help me id be soo grateful. So here it goes...I have an awful relationship with my mother, she is incredibly verba... (902 words)

I fantasize a lot about my gf kissing and having sex with other men, anything wrong with me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

15 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I'm 26 and she's 23. We've been together for almost 2 years now. Our relationship is great, we love each other and are serious. In fact I think she's the one. Thing is that early in our sex life I found out that imagining her having sex with other male turns me on. This thing ... (220 words)

Is he shy and lonely? Or am I just not his type?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4813 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - One guy in particular stands out at my current job But what I really need advice on is do you think he is shy and a bit lonely? He comes across one moment quite aloof almost arrogant and ignores me and the next laid back and childish! Recently his been hanging around ... (173 words)

How to tell if he's flirting in online chat

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (F) age 30-35 - If a guy is using emotes or smilies online when talking to you, is that flirting? For example this guy I like said how he was going to get a higher level than me in this game we play online together. So I said "Your still a noob :P" Then he said "Your so mean :(" So I said, ... (107 words)

Why am I so infatuated with him. We haven't even spoke yet

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Long story short: Just started college, I've noticed a guy who is in 2 of my classes, didn't really notice at first (apart from the fact I was physically attracted to him) but now I cant stop thinking about him. Strange. So on the first day we met, I had a dream of us "tog... (104 words)

My feelings change very quickly and I'm not sure who I'm attracted to!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

15 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm an 18 year old male. I consider myself as Bisexual but it's confusing. I definitely feel attracted to girls, although not as many as guys that I'm attracted to. I generally find Men more attractive. However, the idea of penetrative gay sex kind of repulses me alth... (140 words)

Spots on my vagina after shaving?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i'm not sexually active, but whenever i seem to shave my vagina its all fine then couple of days later i get like spots on my vagina and i dont know what they are or how o get rid of them any ideas?!... (43 words)

He won't give me a chance because I remind him of his ex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I've met a lovely man who like me is getting divorced. We've agreed were attracted to each other but he's now said he doesn't want a relationship because I'm too nice and remind him of his ex wife! What should I do? I've agreed to stay friends Hoping that he will realise ... (66 words)

How do I stop getting gossiped about and treated badly because I had an affair with a married man?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I am in an awful situation right now. I had an affair with a married man. I am married myself. We both have children. It started out as harmless flirting but our feelings of attraction grew and we ended up crossing the line. We have the same group of friends and we see... (408 words)

Boyfriend's unemployment is causing major stress in our LDR

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for 6 months. We live about a 9 hour drive apart from each other. When we met, he was on leave from his job and was in search of new employment. He had money saved so he was able to come see me and stay with me for ... (299 words)

Whenever we hug boyfriend gets hard!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok, so here's the deal. When me and my boyfriend hug, he gets a boner. I find it hilarious, but I never acknowledge it properly. More often than not, I'll just rest my hip against it and move slightly. Just wondering if there's anything else I can do (other than the o... (89 words)

My ex is rubbing her new relationship in my face

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4805 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm new here and i reallllllllllyy neeeed some help I had a very rocky relationship with my girlfriend for 11 months. Everything was cool at first, but things just changed. She was controlling and never let me do what I needed to do. It was all about her, but then I st... (208 words)

Why do guys flirt one day and act distant the next?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

15 September 2011 (?) age 30-35 - So this is just a random question that I just wish I knew the answer to. Yes we all know how the male specie is so confusing and how they frustrate us women. So anyway, I just wanted to know what you aunts and uncles think about why guys act distant and act like they don't ... (148 words)

I have concerns about my son dating a Turkish girl

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4611 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I've got two children, a 17-year-old son and a 22-year-old daughter. We went on a family holiday to Turkey last month for 2 weeks, and it was pretty much great - Mediterranean sun, beach, breeze, cool air, etc. However, you normally hear about English women running off ... (305 words)

Is he immature sexually?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend doesn't seem like most guys I've known and he has me puzzled. I took his virginity about two months ago and the sex we have is pretty good. I'm his first for all things sexual, so ive been patient and so forth. He is very confused by female anatomy and very ... (508 words)

How can I go from liking both sexes to liking neither of them?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have always classed myself as bi-sexual. My first sexual experience was with another girl and it was another 2 years before I had sex with a man. I am now engaged to a wonderful man who also struggles with his sexuality. For years I was slightly promiscuous but now I am not a... (126 words)

Why do guys stop contacting a girl?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Why do guys just stop contacting a girl? If everything was going good. I used talk to a guy a lot on the phone, we never actually had a date, but our last conversation was when he rang me, and everything was good. He is single so am I. Then I phoned him about a week later and ... (118 words)

My boyfriend thinks I don't enjoy sex because I never cum

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4814 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i am 21 years old and i have never enjoyed sex or an orgasm but i would really love to. my boyfriend thinks i dont love him because i dont enjoy sex with him. sometimes during sex i feel alot of pain im only comfortable in missionary positions. what can i do to start enjoying ... (56 words)

I don't want a bad breakup but I want to end things

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

15 September 2011 (M)

age - I feel like a jerk because I want to break it off with my girlfriend of 8 months. I'm separated from my wife and while there is no going back, I am just not attracted to my girlfriend anymore. She's a great girl and I don't want to hurt her, but I know no matter how I tell her ... (142 words)

Wife cant take her eyes of other men

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

15 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I have questions about my wife looking at other men. As an example, we went to a family event and my wife could not take her eyes of one of the other fathers. The guy was tall and more muscular than average. I know people look, but this was intense, like I was not even ... (201 words)

I cum too fast and its hurting my relationship!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - i use to be able to go 4 are 5 mins now all i hav to do is just puyt it in my girlfriend and i cum,use to not b like this ,what can i do its starting to hurt our relationship... (42 words)

Can you love someone but not be suited?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Can you love and like someone but not be suited? I know this is long-winded but it's really bugging me and I can't get my head around this. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 mths now. We both love and like each other very much. We haven't had any rows or any majo... (378 words)

Can you got STD from sleeping unprotected from 2 men?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

15 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, can I ask if a woman sleeps with 2 guys unprotected, can either of them or her get a STI/STD if they are all clean before sleeping with her. Thanks... (34 words)

At 27 I've never had a boyfriend and I'm starting to worry about it!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am a 27 year old female and i have never had a boyfriend or been in love. For most of my life, I have justified it with the fact that I have not met the right person... and while that is partly true... I have also never been asked out by any guy. The guys that have been ... (409 words)

I'm shy, I think she is too, but I want to ask her out

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - alright, 3 part question here. There is this girl in my class at college who is really cute and i want to get to know her/ask her out, but a few things first. 1) im not really a super outgoing kind of person and tend to be kind of shy, how can i get past this and talk to her? ... (155 words)

Why is he asking to see me? And agreeing to meet up with me if he's not going to come?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Its quite a long post but I'm so close to giving up so I'd like some advice before I do. I'm 18 and he's 20, we've met up a few times, I met him during the summer but things progressed with us in mid-august, he was very straight forward, he kissed me to show that he liked me... (468 words)

I'm married but want to be free but haven't even taken one step to do anything!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - hi everyone I would appreciate your help and advice. I am 39 and after 12 years of marriage I have had enough - I cannot go into all the detail here but I have tried very hard to make a marriage work with a selfish man who regularly puts me down and is emotionally disloyal. ... (298 words)

Can a man still find sex enjoyable if he doesn't cum?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello People, So I know the response from most - wow what a lucky lady! So I have a great relationship with my new fella, going well. I wanted to ask tour opinions on a sex matter. He lasts for ages, and I mean ages (totally rocks my world) but on average he lasts... (139 words)

He likes me but I don't want it to be a rebound

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - About 2 months ago now my boyfriend of two years decided he needed freedom. It wasn't a bad break up so we have stayed friends, and if anything have been little too close at times. i've stayed over his house quite a few times since the break up and we are still close (kissing, ... (236 words)

How do I stop feeling a tiny bit betrayed about LDR boyfriend's actions?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Yesterday evening, my LDR boyfriend from on the Continent met up with one of his female friends for a bite to eat and a couple of drinks. For a laugh, they decided to sneak into the place where he works since they weren't too far away and he has a key. They spent a while ... (285 words)

Fickle Love..!?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4813 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Yeah..so there is this guy..whom im totally in love with..and he..? I don't know..! I mean..Im confused. He used to love me before..like I came to know this based on the way he used to move on with me..But then he never said it..seeing his behaviour..I proposed him. And ... (308 words)

B/f had to move to another area and now I feel we are losing "us"

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been in a relationship for 2 years. All was well, until a few months ago my partner started a new job and had to move to another area. Now we see each other every 6 weeks. He has always been an optimistic, cheerful and outgoing sort of person whereas I’m the opposite. ... (176 words)

I'm worried about history repeating itself. Should I tell my partner I feel insecure?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My ex left me when we were at our prime time in the relationship (marriage). We were buying a house, we both got new jobs, we'd just bought a new car and he threw all that away to go with someone he met at the new job. I've been with my current partner for three years. Funny en... (242 words)

I was her rebound relationship and she married me only because she was pregnant

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - She was in an intense intimate relationship with a guy the previous year. It ended when he left town apparently to pursue a relationship with another girl with whom he might have made a baby.With her he was very careful. She was on nothing. He took the initiave and introduced ... (190 words)

Long Distance Relationship or a dragged on Summer fling

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I am a 36 year old woman who met a 30 year old guy in April while we were both out of town on our own respective business. We happened to be staying at a common friend's house. I did not know him before. Sparks flew and we made out of three straight nights, However I refused to ... (1088 words)

When a male friend asks you 'what you up to all week' what does it mean

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (F) - I got asked this question 'what you up to all week' by an old male friend of mine from 20 years ago who has chatted to me on facebook recently. Is this his way of saying 'what are you doing this week, anything interesting' or, 'what are you to now' or is saying 'what are you ... (109 words)

Could he have been lying when he said he sees me as just a friend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I had been harboring a crush on a guy in my college for the past one and a half year. I'd always catch him staring at me (he never looks away and confidently stares back into my eyes) with a piercing, intense stare (not in a lecherous way), he'd always grin at me, trying to ... (833 words)

Does anyone actually know what confidence is?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Can someone please tell me what confidence is? Girls always say confidence is sexy, but there's a problem with that. I am extremely confident at everything I do. Any new endeavor, sport, test, competition, etc. that I take part in, I have a strong belief in my own ability t... (473 words)

Is she after me for rights to live in UK permanently

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, I have a GF now fiancée, I asked her to marry me, however I am now starting to think after what some people said wither she is after me for just rights to live in the UK permanently as most people from country do this, is there any way I can find out if she does love me or ... (368 words)

Things are more serious between me and my bf, but he wants sex less, and wants to talk more. why?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear all, I have been seeing my bf for around five months now. We used to have sex everytime we saw each other, but now things have got 'serious' between us, he comes over sometimes , and we just talk and he leaves without having sex with me. We just eat dinner, and chat... (188 words)

I never normally go for younger guys...but he seems really mature!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, Im in a bit of a dilemma and I need your help.I am currently 18 and going to be 19 in two weeks. Anyway there's this guy who I like who's 16,that's just started college. Now my problem is I NEVER go for guys younger than my age,but i really like this guy because ... (89 words)

This guy won't commit to me but he doesn't like it when I'm in contact with my ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Please read my last two posts, they are all about the same guy. After all of this that I have been through with him, we still manage to continue seeing eachother on and off. I have an apartment now close to his house and he is over at least a few days a week, he is good friends ... (624 words)

I don't want to lose my wife, but I am having a hard time forgiving and forgetting her cheating

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

15 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I was a virgin when I met my wife. She wasn't. She had had about 6-10 other lovers before me. I have never been with anyone else, but I found out recently that she has not been faithful. She didn't have any emotional attachment to anyone, but she went out with a friend w... (266 words)

I'm a reformed player and I'm completely in love with my ex, who has moved on with her life..

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I am absolutely still in love with my ex girlfriend. We have been broken up for a year and 9 months. We havent spoken in about 4 months and our last conversation (by email) was civil at the begining, but grew very tense very quickly. This will probably be pretty long,... (526 words)

Lonely and need help trying to get a date

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4757 days ago

15 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Well i need help im about to be 19 height of 5'10 and weight 226 ive been lonely for a long time so i want to date badly but i have trouble doing that because im a big fat guy and i cant stop thinking that i will never find someone to like me for the way i am so i have a ... (122 words)

Friends wife exposing herself in window!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

15 September 2011 (M)

age - How should i react to this....my friend lives across the strret from me with his wife. Lately she has begun to (vividly blinds wide open) expose herself to me at night in the window. The shower is directly in front of the window. She get's out she wipes herself dry and she ... (99 words)

Am I a part of his life? Is this how it's meant to be? he does not allow me to express myself.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age - please help me out here..i am with a male 56 years old...who takes care of me like no one ever has...he does everything and the sex is great...but he does not allow me..to express my self at all..if i feel like i am not a part of his life he leaves..he will not call...and then ... (88 words)

Sticky "love triangle" If she doesn't know, should I tell her? That her ex is bi? That he asked me out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - ok so im gay, been out for a while now so short story: a bi guy "came out" to me i guess last year long: This guy would come to my school to visit his girlfriend, but we'd socialize to (i didnt know him before he'd come to visit her, nor did I even know her) Later he came... (314 words)

I'm 16. My crush on my sister's older friend comes and goes. What should I do about this crush?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - I've had a little bit of a crush on my sister's older friend for about a half year. But here recently my sister's friend and I have been hanging out a lot lately. We've been doing things such as going to the movies, going out to eat, and other fun things like that. A little w... (229 words)

Why he can't leave me alone like he said if he doesn't care or doesn't love me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My exboyfriend and I have been seperated for almost four months and we were together for almost four years. the first time he wanted to end the relationship was september 2010 and after two months he came back says he missed me. we were ok at that time but later on we didn't g... (312 words)

Can eating tofu and nuts lead to gout?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Is it TRUE that eating tofu and peanuts(sorts of nuts)can lead to Gout in long term? Recently an elderly warns me about it. It scares me I eat tofu, tempeh daily with brown rice(vegetarian).i don't really like mock meats and prefer all kinds of vege. I mostly eat outside ... (75 words)

Feeling guilty about masturbating to girls I know?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - I'm 13, and I've been masturbating for a bit now, and I've decided to be ethical about it, and not use porn. So I've been imagining girls I know. It works, well! But afterword I feel guilty about it. 'Cuz one is someone I've known for a while. I feel like if she knew, she'd be ... (94 words)

I have an orgasm hours after I masturbate.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - help! okay i need to know why i have late reaction to an organism. like ill masterbate and the next morning ill be havin a organsim during class!!!!!! am i doing something wrong??????... (33 words)

I'm falling for her, but she has an LDR with a guy in basic

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 September 2011 (M) age 30-35 - Okay, so I'm a senior in high school, and I'm starting to fall in love with this girl who's also the same age. I'm pickin' up some good vibes coming my way from her, but nothing definite. However, she has a boyfriend - two years older than her and in Air Force basic training. ... (139 words)

Can I fall in love at 15?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I've never had this feeling before. This feeling I've been having, is so great, but yet, so strange. I met this guy about a week ago. We started talking and we really hit it off. He asked me to our high school dance. So we've been texting non stop, and we always tease and flir... (172 words)

Girfriend acting distant

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello, My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year. Everything has been fine pretty much the whole time. But she has been acting a little weird/distant for the past week. This is the third time she has been this way in the past 4 months. I know she loves me but she ... (159 words)

She slept with someone while we were on a 'break'

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend and I who have been going out for over 2 years were on a break when she went to college. She said things weren't over and it was just temporary. This past weekend she visited me at college we had a great weekend and had sex. I was suppose to go visit her this ... (186 words)

I hate that my first time was with a player

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

15 September 2011 (?) age 36-40 - I ended up liking this guy and i lost my virginity to him. Anyway it turned out that he was just a "player" and he broke my heart. I carried on sleeping with him like a sort of FWB for a while. It was all new to me, the feelings i felt at the time i'd never experienced before ... (223 words)

I'm wondering if I'm destined to be alone forever

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

15 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Ok I am an Aunt on here, but chose to publish anon (I dunno why really?) I have been split up from an ex about 5mths (about as long as we were together) (He was the first sexual relatinship I had in a long long errr long time!) I am struggling to get over the split... (249 words)