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writes:Hello there, alright this is serious so please I don't want people telling me about the age of legal sex, I know thank you.I found this girl, she is just like me in almost everyway and we have started dating, and we are really close now, I have no regrets, earlier on today I went out with some friends and one thing got to another and we found ourselves drinking, quite heavily, and on the way home I took a friend that came out drinking with me to her home, and on the way we stopped at the park and she wanted to have sex with me, I am a suggestive drunk. While prepping I kept thinking of my girlfriend and I couldn't bring myself to having sex with the girl I was in the park with, I was kissing, touching and playing around with her but when it came to the sex I just couldn't do it so I just fingered her and layed on top of her to give her the illusion of sex. I came home fully sobered up and remembered everything and I just need help, what do I do? Do I tell my girlfriend about it or let it ride and have nothing to do with this girl in the park. I considered this because I don't want to hurt my girlfriend and the girl in the park doesn't remember anything, please help me.Thank you
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reader, collins27023 +, writes (21 September 2011):
collins27023 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Alright guys, thank you for you input, @HoBo i was thinking the same as you, but also i will have to live with my guilt and try to make it up too her without her knowing.
@Chickpea2011, yes, because in my previous questions, i have been bombarded by people commenting on the legal age of content. if i wanted to know that i would either ask or just look it up for myself. i didnt have intercourse, i just couldnt do it. i agree with you, i gotta lay off the drink.
thank you all, you helped, i just hope everything works out for the best. thank you
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (19 September 2011):
 Should you tell your girlfriend that you cheated? Yes. You may have stopped at intercourse, but with the fooling around you might as well went all the way with this chick.
Don't blame it on the alcohol. You were fully aware of what you were doing and even made the decision to not to have intercourse with this girl.
You don't want to hurt your girlfriend? Sorry, but you should have thought about that before you cheated on her. If you're going to do adult things such as drinking and fooling around/sex with women, then it's time to be mature and tell your girlfriend the truth.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (18 September 2011):
 Hi,I like you. You are smart guy for your age, mature, I like the fact that you are very straight forward in your post, and also like your advance comment; "I know thank you" You made a mistake to put yourself in this situation. Why did you have to drive this drunken girl home? If there were nobody else that could, why then stop by the park? Why start bring physical, kiss, etc? Drinking is not an excuse!!!! If you have a girlfriend that you love? If you are in a committed relationship? Then you need to make better choices, and avoid situations that will jeopardize your relationship. If you cannot control yourself, do us all a favor, have compassion to your girlfriend, and be single, be free to drink as much as you want, and finger as many people you want. Don't you agree? Everybody is happy....It's okay to go out have fun with your buddies, have friends opposite gender, socialize, but your biggest mistake was to put yourself in the situation you were in. It's also hard to believe you didn't have intercourse? Anyways, it's not for me to guess.... The right thing to do is to tell your girlfriend the whole truth.. But, if you do you will loose her, if you stay together just know the relationship will loose it's innocence, will never be the same, and she will never trust you. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2011): It sounds like you know that what you did was wrong, and to tell your girlfriend would only be hurting her unnecessarily. If you truly regret your actions and feel sure that from now on you will behave yourself, even if you get drunk (and if you can't behave yourself when drunk then stop drinking), then don't tell your girlfriend. It's early on in the relationship and she would probably not be very understanding of your actions and excuses. So move on from this incident and make a promise to yourself that you will never do anything like this again. Have nothing to do with the other girl because to be honest, if you get drunk with her again, chances are something will happen between you again. It's just the way it goes. Be good to your girl and if you can't be then break up with her.
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (18 September 2011):
 Tell your girlfriend. She deserves to know and being drunk is no excuse. Even if you were drunk, you had a sense that you were doing something wrong and you didn't walk away. She needs to know the truth. And if you care about her, you'll tell her and let her make the decision of whether you still deserve her or not.
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