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writes:I have a wonderful man and father. He has 3 happy children. I don't have any children.I have never been out with someone who has kids - any tips or advice you can give me so they like me?Thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2011): Treat them like real people. Take an interest in them and their lives and don't patronise them, like many people do with kids. Also, better to let them come to you than to pressure them into being your friend too early on. It's not exactly the same thing because there is a lot more involved in your case but I have a close friend with two children and she invites me around to her house a lot. I first went about a year ago and tried really hard to make the kids like me but they were awkward around me and her 5-year old son hid under the table. So the second time I went I said hello to both and then just talked to my friend for the rest of the time, maybe occasionally saying something to one or both of the kids. As time went on, they got used to me being there often and started to say hello, so one day I was talking about something stupid I'd read about in a newspaper that day and was really surprised because the son was howling with laughter and begged me to tell more stories. Since then, they both adore me, the daughter describing me as, "one of my best friends, even though you're so old". But it took me probably about 3-4 months to get to that stage, so just take it slowly and let them get to know you little by little. Don't force yourself on them, and hopefully when they see how much their dad likes you, they will eventually like you, too.
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