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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How do I know if he still loves me, or if he's moved on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - How do I know if he still loves me? has he moved on? My ex bf asked me to his house, on sunday I went, he cooked us dinner, we laid in bed (no sex) we talked and kissed lots. I asked if he still loves me he said he still has bit of love in him for me but he still really l... (146 words)

I need advice on what to wear on my real date with my FWB!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi eveyone my fwb has finally asked me out on a proper official date I'm so nervous I was hoping you ladys would give me some advice on what I should wear to make the right impression I've been waiting for this for months I really don't want to mess it up any ideas or ... (70 words)

I won't give up my guy, but his ex keeps getting in the way!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - So I met a guy 4 years ago and we immediately hit it off, like really hit it off in all departments. Fun to talk to about religion, politics, romance etc., liked the same shows and great cuddle buddies, insanely attracted to each other and great sex. We have similar opinions ... (578 words)

Why aren't men pursuing me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - this has been a constant problem. A guy tries to go out with me and he ends up dropping me like a bad habit. I am beginning to think I freak the guys out for some reason unknown to me. Here's the story. Ill meet a guy and there's instant chemistry. We will go out to eat, ... (299 words)

How did he get Chlamydia?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4801 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been with my partner for over 2 years, we have had a few tough weeks. he has been depressed as he has lost his job and feels a failure, which of course I tell him he is not. He has been a bit agitated for a few weeks,today he rang me and told me he has been tested ... (133 words)

Does these seem like normal husband behavior? Or is he embarrassed by me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

21 September 2011 (?) age 36-40 - I am curious about this. I know my husband loves me but I feel that he is embarrassed by me. Here is my reason: he doesn't seem to want me to speak or hang out with any of his friends (both male and female,) and behaves as if when I do speak to them I say embarrassing... (466 words)

Why did he say those things to me and should I go out even though I risk seeing him there?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Can anyone help me figure out why this man said this to me ? I used to be seeing him,and i bumped into him soon after he stopped contacting me.he didnt meet me or phone me to discuss why he wanted to end things,even though he said he would.he just stopped contacting me.when i ... (187 words)

I"m not sure if the pregnancy test was positive or negative?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I took a pregnancy test the other day. I'm not sure I waited long enough or what. I waited at least 3 minutes before I had to leave, but im still nervous about the results. It had two windows, in one window, there was a verticle line, and in the other there was a horizontal... (64 words)

Will my girlfriend remain like this forever?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I am in a relationship with this beautiful girl for the last two years. Until recently my girlfriend and I would keep on fighting over little things . But three weeks back , she fell ill and remained ill for three days. All those three days, I didn’t sleep for a second and ... (186 words)

More serious than "boyfriend", not engaged, what do you call it?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a question about how to describe my relationship. My boyfriend and I are not yet engaged but are very committed to each other, to the point that we are planning on sharing a house shortly. "Boyfriend" no longer seems like the right word. 15-year-olds have "boyfriends" ... (121 words)

My husband is always suspicious of me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi. How can i manage a long distance relationship. I am married. My husband is constantly checking up on me. What am i doing? With who? How many minutes or hours did i spent at the shops? Etc. He is always suspicious. Help... (43 words)

Are these normal games or is he unsure?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello to all who take the chance to read this. I met a man through a dating website about a week and a half ago. I had a good time,and he seemed to as well. There was a lot of atraction,and he was a very sweet guy. I got a little concerned when he hadn't contacted me for a few ... (309 words)

What do I do about this friend request? He and I were more intimate than my husband knows...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm not sure if I should tell my husband or not. My husband and I met and got married young. We started dating when I was 17, and he was 18. We got married right after I turned 19 and right before he was going to turn 20. We're married a little over 10 years now, and have 2 b... (372 words)

I'm really in love with my husband but I want to leave!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am in my early 20s. I have been married for 2 years and a couple months now. My husband is in his 30s. He's a great man, but until now not a good husband. Our marriage before a couple of months ago was extremely hard on me. More than twice a week he'd go out with his friends ... (331 words)

I texted lover to end end affair! Why doesn't he try to get me back!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4807 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - A few days I ago I posted about how I'd ended my affair. I'm thankful for the responses that I got but I text him to end it (so I couldn't get drawn in again) But he hasn't replied. Why isn't he fighting for me? I really thought he cared about me but I suppose not or m... (104 words)

I don't want to break him and his stupid little girlfriend - I mean girlfriend- up, but I kind of want to be with him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4502 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - So, I have a friend named after a car. Yeah, that's my way of telling you his name. We've been friends since..mmmm..maybe 7th, 8th grade. We weren't really close 6th grade. I've had girlfriends and boyfriends along these few years, I'm in 11th grade now. My problem is... (504 words)

Should I tell him exactly what I think? Or just completely ignore him! Hes hurt me so much! Please help!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

- Im after some good honest opinions as im going out of my mind with frustration. I was seeing this guy for 9 months but he treats me like crap. No matter what he does though i still wanna be with him. Im in love with him. He always blows hot and cold with me, bombaring me with ... (308 words)

How can I tell her my cousin about my unconditional feeling for her? Will she understand?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4807 days ago

21 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - How and When can I confess my feeling towards my cousin? She is my third cousin to be exact... but i think the word "cousin" have corrupted it all. Here's a detail background on how we've met. In 2004, around the beginning of the fourth and last season of the year,... (1276 words)

How is it that she's been able to cut me and my family out of her life so completely? I'm numb and she's going out and having dinner with friends!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4807 days ago

21 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - 6 weeks ago my girlfriend left to have a break and then come back because she said she missed me and didn't want to cry anymore two weeks later she has moved out completely again. we spoke a bit via txt and she said she never meant to hurt me and that i was all she ever wanted ... (830 words)

Why couldn't I get an erection?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I've been with my girlfriend for 2 weeks now andwe have been sexually active for 2 weeks strait and she is almost addicted to having sex with me which is fine cuz I usually want it just as much as she does but the other night we were hanging out late and I always stay the ... (170 words)

Meeting my BF's parents for the first time tomorrow and nervous as hell!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Oh geez, I'm meeting the new BF parents am delighted he is proud enough of me to show me off, and I deal with people of all sorts for a living but I am so nervous!!! Crazy nervous, I think because I realised yesterday - like a massive lightning bolt, like a light bulb glowi... (137 words)

I want my mind back! I think of my girlfriend too much!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm in love with my girlfriend, and am quite happy. But all my thoughts are about her. I can never get her off of my mind and this may sound bad but I want my mind back. I miss having my own independent thoughts. How do I get my mind to be my own again?... (55 words)

Is this true love?do you think of this as real true love?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - you see some girl at a bar ask for the phone number and she says if you can memorize it call and then start dating.eventually you get married and now act unlike a couple in front of the camera as opposed to holding hands,the guy lifting the girl up in his arms in front of... (96 words)

I am setting myself up for another disaster.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Part-Two.... I wanted to thank everyone for what i knew would be said but was trying to ignore the truth. I went home yesterday after posting my 1st question and had a long talk with this man. Despite his obsessive lies and denial this man can and has made me very happy. I fe... (656 words)

On off boyfriend of 4 years doesn't want to date but wants to borrow money!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi Cupid, I've been dating this Scorpio Guy on and off for about 4 years. Now he had broke up with me and told me that we were not compatible but wants to borrow money and he says he's in love with me. I'm so confused what kind of game is he playing with me.... (55 words)

He'd rather believe the rumours than me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Me and my boyfriend have been together.for 7 months Now and people always make up rumors about me And tell him lies, and no matter what I say or do He believes them not me. And this time someone told him I cheated on him and he refuses to belive that I didnt do it. What... (65 words)

Help me to figure him out

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I know women are supposed to be the confusing ones, the ones that dont know what they want, and are hard to read. But this man, i just cant figure out. what exactly does he want from me? ok lets call him Chuck* I started talking to chuck, about a month ago. We really hit... (301 words)

How do I get my sister to stop being so mean to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've always been a subject to my mun's insecurities and feel I am still that confident person but I've become sensitive to a lot of her comments. Not to do with appearance but she rubs a lot of things in my face. Highlights mistakes, I feel like I have to hide my emotions in ... (319 words)

How do I put myself socially out there more?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I generally feel well liked by others. I fit in with a range of different people. even people who I don't really know that well have said really nice things about me, along with those I do. but negative thoughts about myself have forced me to feel a little socially isolated ... (174 words)

My boyfriend proposed...but went looking for a second-hand ring!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - So my boyfriend proposed to me the other day. All was going well until he started searching for an engagement ring. We were talking on the phone and he said "Here's one I think you'll like" and sent me a picture of the ugliest ring I'd ever seen. Now, I know there's no ... (558 words)

The old "love of my life" wants to catch up and talk, do I tell my BF?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - The old "love of my life" wants to catch up and talk, do I tell my BF? I know I'd want to know if my BF was meeting his ex. But I'm thinking guys don't care that much. What's the proper way to deal with this?... (47 words)

He contacted me. Now he's ignoring me. Is he having second thoughts because he's married? Or jealous that another guy is interested in me?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - An old high school flame contacted me on facebook after 10 years. We were in love and we had to break up due to his move to another high school. He met a woman nothing but a year after we broke up and he is married to her now with a child. I am single. He contacted me and... (359 words)

She says she loves me. But what should I do about this relationship? She puts me down, insults me and belittles me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - hey ..i am a 21 yr old guy madly in love with a 23 yr old girl...she might be older but is totally like a kid. she loves me tooo. its been 1 yr to our realtion and eversince we fell in love things started changing. she became very very nagging and always insulting me just bec... (170 words)

I feel guilt about saying NO to my Mom. She is draining me financially. How do I stop her doing this to me ?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Over the past two months my mother has drained me financially and borrowed over $800 from me to pay for bills. I have an issue with it because she's acting as though it's her money, or money that I owe her, while never even saying as much as a thank you. There have even been... (630 words)

She has a boyfriend. Should I say nothing? Or try to confess to her my feelings and get rejected and move on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello, I'm 18 years old currently in college freshman year and I have feelings for my younger cousin she's 15 and currently in freshman year of high school. Here's the thing first I was only physically attracted to her. I mean I didn't think about it I will just see her once in ... (260 words)

I'm insecure about my looks, Does he lie to me to make me feel better, because I don't look like a porn star?

This question has 32 answers - newest was posted 4406 days ago

21 September 2011 (F) age 30-35 - I know, I know, another porn question. I need advice especially from females who "get it". I guess I have quite a degree of insecurity. The thing is, I know my boyfriend loves me. I know he lies to make me feel better, because he swears and insists that I'm the smartest woman ... (815 words)

Re-united how can I be certain he will be faithful this time? I am determined to be faithful.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I met my ex 6 years ago. We dated for 2 years. It was a pretty bad relationship since there was no trust nor respect and we were very immature (early 20's). I slept with his best friend before even knowing my ex. I also slept with someone he knows and hates out of revenge ... (195 words)

The ex is getting in the way. How do I build more trust between us to keep us rock solid ?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - my boyfriend and I have known each other for eight years. We were always great friends, even tried dating in the beginning of the relationship. At first, it never worked out. So we remain close friends, but we were always attracted to each other. The only problem was, either me ... (745 words)

Should I move on? am I being played? He's re-opened his dating profile. What could possibly be going on in his head?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4807 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Cupid, I am so upset and confused. I really appreciate any and all advice that you guys offer me. This might be a bit long, but I will really appreciate it if you stick in there and help me out. Thanks ahead of time. I've been dating my boyfriend for four months. He ... (1551 words)

My 6 months old baby from another relationship is upsetting my new partner. How can I make this better?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So, I know this duels as a parenting question, but since the point of interest is my relationship I figure I should ask it here. Some Background: I am married and have a child from a previous relationship. I'll spare you the gruesome details, and just say the father and I had a ... (264 words)

Should I stay with my boyfriend or go after the other guy who has a 6 month old baby and a babymama?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months now, our relationship is pretty good, I love him very much. The thing is about a year ago I hooked up with some guy I used to work with, we decided to stays friends but with time we grew apart. Recently I found that he had 6 ... (161 words)

What can I learn from this? And can I get over it? I am a major reason for her changing and for the breakup.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4805 days ago

21 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So.. I have been with this girl for a bit over two years now. one and a half of it being long distance. We broke up recently, basically we were breaking and making up for the last 3 months of the relationship. This was the final one basically and as this continued each consecut... (437 words)

Three weeks into the relationship. What present would not "spook" seeing as it's early days?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi All, A quick question something I haven't come across before early on in the dating process. I have been dating a girl for 3 weeks, we met online and chatted on the phone etc for about a month before this. We have since had 4 /5 dates. It's her birthday on the weekend ( sh... (176 words)

I've started developing feelings for my FWB but I'm worried that it isn't mutual..

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i've been in a friends with benefits relationship with this guy i've know for almost 6 months and im just really confused if he may be developing feelings for me or if im a complete fool and he is using me. we text alot and i go over at least three times a week, and not ev... (185 words)

I can't figure him out. Is he a real GIGOLO as he says, what's up with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a male friend with whom first were co-workers now just friends. I was his confidant when his Girlfriend dumped him 6 months ago, so I know he's still very hurt. He's been a BIG flirt with the ladies so he's always telling me he's having some friends with benefits. The ... (265 words)

My husband had a 2 hr long, intimate conversation with a girl and I cannot believe this is happening to me. What do I do now?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - First of all, I would like to thank everybody that takes the time to answer my question. I would just like to know what people consider cheating in a marriage, or if anyone has been in the same situation. I am 24yrs old, married for three years now.I love my husb... (527 words)

Why is my ex texting me? Does she want me back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

21 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So my girlfriend broke up with me about three months ago. She texts me every once and a while and tells me she misses me but besides that not much. A couple of days ago we got into a small argument and she said, "I dont think that we should talk anymore". I respond "ok". Ever ... (93 words)

Am I romantically over-reacting? I am having trouble coping with the absence of my girlfriend.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - im in a distant relationship, i love my girlfriend so much, she is my first love, i used to chat with her on facebook everyday for hours, dreaming about our future, singing to each other, living happy moments of love, treating and standing by each other in hard situations, i ... (211 words)

How do I build up to sober sex with him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I just got into a new relationship with an incredible guy, and we have so much fun with one another. We went to a party recently, got drunk, and had sex for the first time together. My question is, how do I now build up to sober sex with him, because obviously alcohol made me ... (116 words)

In a Love Triangle -- What to Do?......

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4728 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - so me and my ex boyfriend was together for a year and a half. so in the spring time around march- april he tells me that he wants to be my friend . now this wasnt the first time that he had told me that really like the third time . so i finally got it and i was like ok thats ... (357 words)

I'm having trouble resisting the temptation ...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

21 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Here is the situation. I have been with my girlfriend for a year and a half, although the past year has been semi-long distance since she moved an hour away to attend school. I love her very much but we aren't as intimate as we used to be and I only get to see her weekends, ... (220 words)

Am I to blame or is he? I need outsiders opinions please:)

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

21 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - After I broke up with my ex he found me online and started creating fake accounts to talk to me( he might have been trying to get to know me better and see if he was better off without me or if he should come after me....... About a year later he finally had the courage ... (338 words)