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writes:So I started dating this guy about a week ago.. And last night we went to our homecoming dance and I personally had a lot of fun. He had fun too. We were dancing and kissing and had a lot of fun. So, then after the dance, his friends texts me saying, "You know, maybe you shouldn't be so pushy with him. And aggressive. He likes you, but you should back off a little. It's so early in the relationship. You know, he's not so used to girls being so physical with him." After he said that, I realized that in my past relationships the guys were so physical with me that I just became used to the idea of being physical with all guys. But with my new boyfriend, I don't know how not to be physical! Help me?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (19 September 2011):
 Uhh...what?? His FRIENDS are texting you telling you to back off? Can he not talk himself?? They're either speaking out of turn, or he doesn't have the balls to talk to you himself.
If it's the first and they're speaking out of turn, I'd question their agendas for telling you to back off of him. It's none of their business. You're not cheating on him, and you were being yourself when he started liking you. Why do you have to change yourself now? Don't change.
If it's the second and he's griping about you to them and doesn't have the balls to talk to you about this himself, break up with him. He's spineless. That's frightfully immature to gripe about you to his friends and talk to everyone about you and sour their attitudes towards you.
Have a heart to heart talk with him. Ask him to tell you, and NOT to lie, if he put his friends up to texting you, and if he's made one NOISE of disapproval of your actions to them. If he has, drop him.
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