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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Why can't he be in the same room as me? I don't think he and his new girlfriend will last....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 22 and I am in a a stupid situation, I know what I am supposed to do but it I am finding it weird and difficult,me an my ex have been broke up for almost two years an i know that i should not of been holding him back or holding onto him, he broke up with me and I am not ... (257 words)

How do I settle this overwhelming desire to be pregnant?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 22 and my best friend is having a baby in a few days, we've been closer than sisters since we were 14 and I was there with her when she found out she was pregnant. I even bought the pregnancy test for her lol! But coming closer to her due date, I'm finding myself being ... (171 words)

Am I wrong, should my feelings enter into this at all, or am I being selfish?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear Cupid; I just ended a relationship with my boyfriend "Jeff" which lasted a little over a year. At the beginning he dumped me via an email saying he was going back to a previous girlfriend. He came back to me when that didn't work out, but it left me feeling insecure... (204 words)

Do I have to tell them where I'm going after I resign from this job?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (F) - I have decided I need to leave my job for many different reasons. I know it sounds crazy to do but I am just not happy..it's been almost 5 yrs and feel I am not qualified to do anything else. I feel I am better off getting a part time job and committing the rest of my time ... (162 words)

My Bf believes others on my past Bf history. What do I need to do to show my Bf that I am telling the truth?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - ok so i have been dating my bf for about a year and 3 months already and he recently found pictures of an ex boyfriend of mine who had broken my heart 4 months before i met my current bf and someone is telling my bf that my x and me didnt finish dating til recently. But me and ... (149 words)

I love her but my brain says run. I need help please to resolve serious reservations about this 'situation'.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I am madly in love and constantly dream about this woman. I cannot get enough of her... But, my brain disagrees. There are real signs that something is really wrong with her... She can't manage money. She cries at the drop of a hat (we can be out having a great time, and ... (121 words)

How do I understand this? our relationship is ok but strained due to her fantasy method of masturbating to photos of her female friends.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I caught my girlfriend of 2 1/2 years (we are now sophomores in college, but started dating in high school) masturbating to photos of her female friends from our high school. Long story, but she thought I was still taking a shower one day this summer, but I had hopped out to ... (507 words)

Could someone please explain men's choice of porn? Is who they watch the 'look' that really truly turns them on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - So, I really want to understand how a man chooses what porn to watch... my bf watches videos featuring MILFs and latina women, but I am a young (same age as him), Swedish (same nationality as him) girl! Does it mean he prefers older and Latina looking women? His exes have all ... (98 words)

What criteria do I use to choose which guy? I like them both. They know each other.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4818 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - A few weeks ago i met a guy and we've been getting on well and he's been taking me out over the past few weeks and it's been nice and it's obvious he likes me but he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend (I know it's only been a few weeks so i guess it's normal to not ask ... (233 words)

Why do I still loved my violent alcohol bully ex whole stole to buy drugs? Yet I still miss him. How do stop my craving for him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - We've all been here i know but Im struggling to keep it together. Here it goes. Me and my daughters dad was together 5yrs with a few breaks between. We broke up around a month ago but he still lived in our house until yesterday and i miss him so much. He wasn't nice to m... (316 words)

I'm Too skinny. How can I safety build up my body without being muscles plus and not using scams? Safe only.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - hi guys i'm 18 and very slim. i have very thin arms thin enough you can wrap your whole hand around them, you can see my ribs sort of when i take my shirt off. I hate it and I hate taking my shirt off. i don't want to be really muscley or really fat but i want a sort of m... (119 words)

Sex is over as soon as she's done! What's going on with her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Me and my girlfriend have been together for 4 and half years. At first we used to have sex all day, where ever we could. lots of days we spent the whole day in bed. Then our jobs meant we couldnt see each other as often, but when we did we still had sex for as long as we co... (113 words)

Is he interested? Can someone give me insight as to what may be going on in his head?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4807 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been going to this bar all summer every Sunday and I've made friends with everyone who works there. a few months ago I fell for this guy who works as a bar back there. I'm 21 outgoing and I like to make people laugh. he's 29 and pretty shy and laid back. I don't know if he ... (616 words)

Now I don't believe that he believes me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Firstly, let me just say that I love my boyfriend of 5 months and cannot imagine myself being with anyone else. The other night I went out with some friends who I havnt seen for like a year. Anyways, I ended up getting so drunk that I can't remember what happened towards the ... (208 words)

So why does he call me every other day?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4820 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - There is this guy. He calls me every other day. not daily. he talks about everything and nothing at all. does he see me just as a friend or something more? i have never had guy friends so i dont know if dey call like dis and talk . ... (49 words)

I'm feeling hurt and let down, help me walk away!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age - i been dating this man for five years and hes married he stop seeing and then he wants me back for a few days then he out looking for some one new his wife lives up north and he lives here its like he likes having his cake everything else i get hurt bye him i feel i should ... (94 words)

What does he mean by "What's the next thing after like, that's how I feel about you"?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hello ive been seen a fellow for a year now and everything was fine when i first met him he said he didnt want a relationship and i was seen him a weekends now hes saying i dont ever invite him out to my house and its not going any where and when i asked him was he still into ... (80 words)

Why is she still bitter and on a campaign to destroy my life?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - after 5 years of torment through my ex's single woman behavior, lying yet at the same time she was jealous, attacking me when we got home and destroying my belongings if a woman ever looked at me. She also cheated. We have been broke up 6 months,and in this time shes had 1 ... (103 words)

Any special tips or advice for pleasuring a man who is circumsized?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been seeing a new guy for a few weeks now and got more initimate last night. We didnt sleep together but we did enough for me to realise he was circumcised. Just wondering if anyone had any tips or adivse for pleasauring him, I haven't been with anyone with one before a... (59 words)

Should I disgrace myself by asking her out or should I do the pragmatic thing and refrain from doing so?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

10 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I'm about to pose this question which will probably leave most of your readers disgusted and repulsed but I need to share my sorrows with sympathetic listeners so I'll simply go ahead and do it anyway. I've recently developed a crush on this really attractive and s... (276 words)

I feel I'm being used!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been involved with a guy on and off for about 3 years now! I was completely besotted with him and because I loved him I just let him treat me bad - like he only ever used me for money,sex now and then etc etc... Anyway one day last week I decided I wasn't gonna give in ... (127 words)

I don't believe in love at our age! How do I stay away from boys and not get hurt?

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10 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I never had a real relationship. Always fell for guys. And always got hurt. So so many times! Only this one boy! I believed in us. I believed it's true love. But I broke up with him after few weeks of being together because I travelled for 2 months and I dont know what hap... (260 words)

Sex addiction, does it exist?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Does anyone really believe in sex addiction? Ive always been one to say people use the word addiction to make things look a little better and a little less their fault...But all my life ive always been fond of sex, ALOT. Its almost as if i cant say no....So, does anyone really ... (63 words)

He says I'm perfect... for fun?!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm at a major cross roads in my life and just don't know what to do for the best. Around 6 years ago I got in touch with my HS sweetheart we had dated a little but he got obsessed so I stopped contact just before we finished school. We mainly talked online or by text ... (337 words)

I don't feel like I'm worth much to him.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I cannot deal with the fact that my partner had a relationship before me. He was with a girl for two years, they lived together and he adored her. They broke up when she emotionally cheated on him. he said the relationship was unhealthy - they fought a lot etc. Now he is... (118 words)

Even though I've had my tubes tied, could I be pregnant???

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I'm 44 and had my tubes tied but hadnt had period in 2 months. i also had some slight bleeding after sex, when i wiped it was light in color and only when i wiped it last thru the day and was gone the next day but happend again after the next 2 times after sex but didnt last, i ... (181 words)

Boyfriend has been secretly talking to his ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm concerned about my boyfriend's crazy ex emailing him on facebook. I've been with boyfriend 2.5 years. Before we got together he used to date this ex pretty casually for a few months at a time, break up and get together when drunk. He then ended it for good. When it en... (286 words)

How can I feel better? I'm sad about the breakup after I refused him more than we were doing sexually,

This question has 26 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I was in sexual relationship with a guy 6 months back. I'm 16 and he is 23. I agreed for sex because I was depressed after my break-up and I wanted to get over my ex. It was online relation. We used to sex chat. We never did it in real. He wanted to do it in real next year when... (411 words)

Help!!! What are the pros and cons of having anal sex???

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

10 September 2011 (?) age 36-40 - My boyfriend wants me to try anal sex. I am very open to something like this. However I want to know the pros and cons of anal sex? It's a simple and short question, and help would be much appreciated.... (41 words)

Can I hope for a relationship with him? He asked me what I thought about him getting back together with his ex!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

- I am 33 years old and have been spending time with a gentleman around my same age. A mutual friend introduced us to each other and he indicated to her that he was interested in me...but he was going to take it slow. It's been 4 months since we have been spending time with each... (1194 words)

So how do I survive and triumph and wash this guy out of my hair? Still in anger mode after the break up.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, I'd like to thank everyone who helped me a month ago to realize that I had to break up with my long distance boyfriend who was in the army. It was the best decision I ever made. It was difficult to end it because he kept talking to me the next day as th... (805 words)

She's less enthusiastic in bed now. Is My Girlfriend Being Selfish In Bed

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I'm new to this but it has gotten to the point where I need somebody's opinion. I've been dating my girlfriend for close to 3 and half years and I'm very much in love with her. Like most relationships, it was pretty "active" in the beginning and has died down and amount but ... (242 words)

After she gave birth she is not tight like before! What can I do?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4818 days ago

10 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello all cupid users Can you please help, since she gave birth sex is not like before. Her vaginal wetness is not the same. its dry. And how can I get the vaginal tightness she had before? Thanks... (43 words)

The beast approaching the beauty...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-newly-single-should-i-wait-in-case.html This is a question based on my decision after the above mentioned query. The new girl I'm having a crush on, is just too gorgeous. Now we live in an office environment. There are people who k... (245 words)

He's worth it... even for a hook up!!!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - This guy cancelled a date, said he'd reschedule, seems busy, but I want him SO bad, I don't usually message or call guys but he's so worth it, even for a hookup, should I go ahead and call? A part of me says yes do it, a part of me says no????... (53 words)

A am female and have only male friends - is this abnormal?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My best friend is female but she's gay and recently I made another female friend who is also gay. Other than that, all my friends are male. I don't feel comfortable with women - I didn't have many girl friends in school because I was so shy and I actually don't trust them. ... (73 words)

Am I too short for him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, well, I'm 20 and my bf is 28. I'm 5.1 feet and he is 6.1 feet. I wasn't seeing that as a problem until a couple of times at the street some people kinda stare at us. my bf laughed at it but it's really bother me. Do you think I'm too short for him?... (59 words)

My married lover puts me in awkward situations where I have to meet his wife. Why would he do this?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age - Hi, I am having an affair with a married man and have been for over 6 yrs, we are both in our late 50's,we both care for each other very much and get on really well and enjoy seeing each other. we can't break it off so please no moral judgments. it's just that sometimes he say... (224 words)

Does he sound like someone who could grow up and see me as the girl he could build a life with or should I just forget him altogether?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Met an american man while I was traveling in africa (i am canadian), dated him for 3 months, "just to have fun". I was 27 and a virgin with a couple of serious past boyfriends, he was 23 and a non-virgin with lots of casual making out/fooling around experiences, and one or two ... (1025 words)

My family first or him? My family criticize him. So I need to break up but think he'll take it badly

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

10 September 2011 (?) age 36-40 - Hi, I can honestly say that I love my boyfriend. I can honestly admit that I have never feel so much loved before him. However, I am not happy because my family been criticising him in the past few months. His business went down pretty bad. Most times, lately, he is strugg... (297 words)

Am I obsessed about her and controlling?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Hello DearCupid members, Some things to know: * I am a 16 year old male that is madly in love with this really beautiful (well, I think so anyway) woman who is the same age as me. * We have known each other for three years. And I have loved her since I met her. She ha... (752 words)

My husband and I both have fantasies. How can I bring up my fantasy for his consideration?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - A few years ago my husband told me he had a dream of me having sex with a very large woman. We talked and for the first time I admitted to him I always wondered what it would be like and I get turned on watching lesbian porn. I told him how nervous I was to explore it and afte... (111 words)

My Gf and I have reunited. But she is acting strange. Why would she do this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

10 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Almost three weeks ago I got back together with my ex, spent the day with her, had a fairly good time. She's called me once since then to tell me she's going over to a friends' house, then hangs up like I'm just someone else. She swears up and down she loves me, and is making ... (95 words)

She flirts, but isn't interested, then flirts more? Does she want me or not??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4820 days ago

10 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - so heres my situation, me and this girl (ill call her j) got pretty close on this trip together. never did anything in terms of hooking up but we had some great talks so after we started txting a little and by that time id fallen for her and i started expressing my interest ... (241 words)

I am gay. He flirts with me but also sees girls. What do I need to do, and how, to get over him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4821 days ago

10 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I have been in love with my best friend for the best part of three years, Our relationship is THE best... We hang out alot, we do sport together and we are very open with each other, buy I know I should give up and move on but I can't... He is straight, mostly.. well thats the ... (598 words)

Should I give it a try? And talk to my ex-friend who I was in love with?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4821 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I lost a great friend four years ago. He wanted to be in a relationship with me and I am sure he knew how much I loved him despite the fact that I tried my hardest to hide my feelings. Then came the time when I had to move out of my home state for college. We did some seri... (218 words)

How? Is it possible to get my cat back as first priority? And get my ex boyfriend back too?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Here is a brief paragraph of my situation. My ex and I broke up this month after a year relationship. We had a huge fight during a trip right before (this is our first huge fight, we were basically ignoring each other during the trip). When we got back, he said it obviousl... (358 words)

I love her . Loved helping her. But she hurts me so much. Does this sound like a relationship with a future?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4820 days ago

10 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, So Me (17) and my Gf (14) have been going out for 6 months, I have always done everything I could for her, Bought her games to play when her mum was drunk, Spent weekends out with her. Did everything I could for her. I even managed to get her mum to drink less just so she ... (403 words)

Is it better to distance yourself or to keep on trying after being rejected by a friend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4821 days ago

10 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - SO i have this friend. I asked her out/told her I liked her and she said that she was not rejecting me but literally had no time to make it work, so it would be unfair to the both of us. She said that maybe in the future something may happen but not for now. I was fine wit... (367 words)

I want, need, to be more confident. But how?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4821 days ago

10 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi, I would like to be more confident around my girlfriend. I always feel so needy around her and i always seem to initiate things from emotional comfort and for sex. Could anyone give me tips on how to be more confident? Thank you... (44 words)

He will not face me. Why can't some men face you when they break up with you?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4819 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I need some help. I was dating my BF for 6 months. He just broke up with me via email. Never had one single conversation about anything not working. Tells me I'm wonderful, amazing and he thinks we're just supposed to be friends... but won't talk to me in person or via the ... (288 words)

Do you think he is into me and I have a chance, or is it just wishful thinking?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4821 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm going to put this as simply as I can, and even if no one replies, I think I'm going to feel relieved that it is out there - I love this guy! He goes to my school and the dilemma is we are both at totally different social statuses, he is über popular, every one oozes off his ... (647 words)

He sends nasty messages about me to my workmates. How do I stop my soon to be Ex from ruining my life?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

10 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend (who will very shortly be my ex) is trying to wreck my life. recently he has been very controlling and jealous - for no reason, but now he's just doing evil things to get at me, sending facebook messages to my work colleagues and my friends and swearing at me, ... (146 words)