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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

He won't tell me when he's angry

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - The boyfriend, who is over 24, won't tell me when he's angry. I didn't even know he was mad about something until he snapped at me over it a week later face to face, and even cursed some, instead of telling me sooner. I'm not sure how to handle this, or if I even should. We'... (71 words)

If your love letter goes unanswered?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been dating a gentleman for about four months. In the beginning I never doubted if he was interested or not. After all he was the one taking all of the initiative(once he got over his nerves). He's a shy type, from what I've seen. He would always look me deep in the eyes ... (236 words)

I love him but now he says he has a girlfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I need opinions and advice, please. There's this guy, who honestly, I think I'm in love with and I think he (at least) likes me back. For a long time, every time we would see each other, we would just stare at each other, like long, intense stares. Eventually, I slowly started ... (567 words)

He did something he made promise I wouldn't do (after I did it), should I be upset?, and, little things should bother me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi!! I need advice, as always. Yesterday my boyfriend and I had a fight, we usually text or mail each other very early every day, yesterday I had some things to do and couldn't answer any of his mails until afternoon, he hates this and has told me several times that if I ... (454 words)

How to get partner to get on with my parents after a disagreement?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my partner for 9 months, we have a great relationship until recently we went on holiday with my parents. We got on well all of us, or so we thought till we got home and mum started complaining how my partner had changed on holiday and they didn't like the side ... (355 words)

I don't know if we're still going out??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm confused.. I had/have this boyfriend..we'd be going out about a month and 2 weeks now and yeah, he's amazing and stuff.. But we stopped talking like we used to..it wasn't the same and then he ignored me for about 2 days and then one of my friends, who I hadn't spoken to... (312 words)

Everything's great except ...

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello all. My boyfriend and I have a great sex life, it's exciting and always fun. The only "problem" is that he can't cum through me giving him a blowjob. I've had him close several times, but it's like he can't let go enough to actually cum. It frustrates him, as he reall... (126 words)

Trouble dealing with the death of my grandmother

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (?) age 36-40 - ok this isn't about a relationship with a partner but about the death of my gran! Last November my Nan fell and hurt her rist, she recovered but became more immobile! March of this year she was rushed into hospital because she couldn't breathe and had to be put on oxygen. S... (207 words)

He promised we'd get married by the end of the year, but won't set a date

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age - Six months ago my partner of 2.5 years promised we would get married by end of year.I had never been comfortable living together but somehow it just happened as after a ended 30 year marriage I fancied myself madly in love and was love starved. My new man moved in with me and ... (323 words)

Attracted to damaged/broken girls

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

14 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Ok, at 20 I know i'm young for this whole sort of thing. But i realise i seem to either attract or am automatically attracted to somewhat broken or troubled girls. At first glance. You would not be able to tell (heck, my brain can't tell, if it could i'd be more cautious) that ... (720 words)

I feel bad that he's doing all the work

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Whenever me and my partner have sex it is always him doing the work. I always feel bad about it even though he has never mentioned it. I do try to take control but I have pain in my knees which makes going on top very unpleasant and painful for me. I just wondered if ther... (83 words)

He has lied so often -- how can I believe him now?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello there! I'm having difficulty moving on with what happened late last year until April of this year. My 7years partner cheated on me during those times and even chose the other woman over me which was so hurtful. I tried to moveo on and had a boyfriend for one month but as ... (226 words)

I like him a lot. Should I wait before I tell him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - So i like this boy in my class a lot. My friend asked him what he thought of me he sid he hd strong felings for me but he just doesnt know if their relationship or friendship he said i was cute but right now we need to stay friends until he figure out his feelings. He doesnt ... (76 words)

How to initiate the first kiss with my boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I need help! How do I go about initiating a kiss with my boyfriend? This will be his first kiss (not mine), and I'm not sure how to kiss him. Like, should I lean in real close, or touch his face or something? Please help!... (48 words)

I seem incapable of having an orgasm

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in need of some serious help. I think I'm incapable of having an orgasm. When I have sex it feels good of course, but seems like no matter what is done I just can't orgasm. Even when I masturbate I can't seem to orgasm. I've tried toys of all sorts and I've tried different ... (78 words)

Should I take her back for the sake of the child?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - my ex and i recently had a baby things didnt work out and she moved in with another guy 3 weeks after moving out of my house some guy she had worked with the past 4 years. She told me they were just roomates but she recently told me they are dating. she is now calling me ... (124 words)

How can I make everyone happy this christmas, and still spend it with my boyfriend?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I know xmas is a few months away but its already causing me stress! I met my boyfriend at uni on the first day, two years ago and we've lived together since. A few weeks into our relationship i met his parents who live in the London area and later in our relationship he ... (482 words)

Last minute acceptance left no room for me?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age - My boyfriend was invited to a female friends birthday party he forgot to send the rsvp back in time. However he called her and she stated she did not have anymore space however she will make space only for him. Should I be mad that he is going without me. He states it is no ... (65 words)

New Love - finally falling in love after an abusive relationship

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, I came out of a very nasty relationship just over a year ago, I spent six years being emotionally abused, nothing and I mean nothing was ever good enough about me or what I did. The abuse was constant resulting in me being a complete mess, it's taken me a long time t... (451 words)

True or False: Men always think the grass may be greener with someone else?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

14 September 2011 (?) age 36-40 - This is a question for men to answer true or false. If you're female, do not answer. This is an unanswerable question by a woman. Here is the back story, or skip to the bottom for the question. Last night while watching t.v. a character we both really like (male) as a ... (215 words)

My hope keeps me from moving on

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Help, i can't get over my ex boyfriend... I am gay and i believe he's at least bi. It's been 2 months since he dumped me and i still miss him so badly.. He left me for another girl which i believe was his rebound since they moved on so fast and he did everything he us... (149 words)

How long should it take for someone to introduce you to their kids?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi All, I have been dating a guy for six months, He is separated with three kids under 13. He has not introduced me to them yet.Is that normal? He sees them regularly. Thanks. :o)... (42 words)

My abusive ex-girlfriend has came back in my life, how should I treat her now?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I had abusive girlfriend for 16 months before I ran away from her apartment in June this year. She was 2 years younger than me. Outside, I don’t think there could have been beautiful girl I have to see to date on this on earth like her, inside she was abusive and loved to... (612 words)

How can I stop living in constant fear that he will cheat?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been in a pretty good relationship for the past 1 n a half year..he cares for me ,is very committed to me ,we are in love and we plan to marry in future.But i have fought with him twice about some random chats he had with girls on facebook ,i sneaked in to his ID and found ... (379 words)

My husband won't tell me what happened during his affairs in case I use it against him in a divorce court

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hello everyone. I just need someone else's opinion on what you think of my husband's response. I asked him to open up and tell me everything that happened between him and all the 4 women he got emotionally involved with (what they did, how far their relationship went, etc).The ... (170 words)

Why is my ex boyfriend not picking up my calls?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - What does this mean? has he moved on? is he not interested? My ex boyfriend and I got in contact and I told him I missed him and he told me he missed me too. He asked me to come visit him on the weekend. Spend some time together, he'll cook and we can go out. He rang ... (136 words)

Did he give me HIV? How do I stop worryng about this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi I know I have been incredibley stupid and I'm the first to admit that. About a year ago,I got a little involved with a married man (horrible I know) anyway we met up three times, on the last ocassion he didn't use a condom and he ejaculated inside me. A few days later his ... (262 words)

My binge drinking days are done...but will friends always think of me as a party animal?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello I wonder If anyone has been in the same situation as me ... I have realised that I am not a nice person when I am drunk, for the last few years I suppose I have gone off the rails, drinking far too much when going out, doing things I regret, not remembering things e... (192 words)

Do I tell my boyfriend I 'think' I might be pregnant?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Do I tell my boyfriend I think I might be pregnant? I'm 19 in a few days, he's 18 and we've been in a stable, loving relationship for 2 and a half years. I am on the pill and we use condoms everytime we have sex. I have been experiencing a lot of pregnancy symptoms - constant ... (139 words)

My 41 year old boyfriend fancies teenage girls

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My partner is 41. However, he says he feels like he is 18 years old. Now thats great, as it keeps him active etc. However, the downside is that he fancies women or rather girls that are very young- I'm talking 16-18. This really creeps me out. I dont mind that he finds other ... (106 words)

What is with this guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - so, i have this relationship i haven't been able to get over yet for whatever reason, maybe because i haven't been able to make sense of it. maybe i'm not sure if i did the right thing. i have been so messed up by it, and i guess from my other "issues". i guess i am needing ... (1627 words)

Tips for the wedding night?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hi..m a girl of age 23..and i have a boy friend. His age 25. its been 1.5 year for the relationship and now we planed to get married on december this year. i never had sex with anyone..m still a virgin..and m just wondering how its going to be on the wedding night..m just ... (63 words)

Nobody knows that a lot of my academic partner's work is done for him by me!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4785 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - How much should you give up for your partner's career? My fiance is an academic. He's at a conference right now. He was out until 4.30am drinking, and he'll be tired and grumpy when he comes home. He won't get any work done today, which means he'll have to work on Sunday i... (617 words)

Really confused on what to do about this guy

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone,Im in a bit of a dilemma and I need your help.I am currently 18 and going to be 19 in two weeks.Anyway there's this guy who I like who's 16,that's just started college.Now my problem is I NEVER go for guys younger than my age,but i really like this guy because he ... (80 words)

It hurts that she said she cared for me so much over the past 6 months then threw it away over one bump in the road...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I've been dating this girl (she's 29, I'm 30) for about six months now and everything has been going absolutely great. About a week ago we got into an argument, our first, at work and i yelled at her a little bit. the whole thing lasted about 20 seconds. We work directly ... (401 words)

I'm shocked at the extent of her lies, but I feel like I should contact her to make peace

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - i dated this girl for a little while, and she wound up doing me really, really wrong. she lied about everything from the start. and i mean everything. she lied about having only one semester left before earning her masters degree in computer science, when in reality, she had ... (729 words)

I'm still in love with both of my ex boyfriends, I have a child each, by both of them, and I'm a mess right now

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

14 September 2011 (?) age 36-40 - From the start, I was in a relationship for 5 yrs on and off he destroyed me, my self-esteem, everything! Then I went to a relationship that lasted 10 months, he did the same. I had a child by each of these men, the first one he took full advantage and turned my son against ... (238 words)

How can my wife and I regain our sex life after a long drought?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - For reasons I won't get into, my wife and I stopped having sex completely at some point in the past. It has been years now since we have had any sex or even kissed. We were separated for a while before getting back together. Now that we are back together, our relation... (434 words)

My Gf's 'one night stand' partner lives next door to her - how do I deal with this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - Early into my relationship, my gf told me she'd had a 'one night' encounter a few weeks before I met her which was "a big mistake". She told me it involved 'party', 'drink', and explained "it meant nothing". I did not know who the guy was. I tried to forget about it but ... (301 words)

My boyfriend gets angry with me for being miserable with him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - It is a day before the month we celebrate together with my boy friend for being almost a year and I feel less in love with him and confused. Lately whenever I get sad that something is bothering me he goes from comforting me one minute to total annoyance the next. For example, ... (274 words)

My best friend's ex is in love with me. What should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - What do I do? My best buddy's ex girlfriend is in love with me. I think she dumped him so she could be with me! The catch is, I actually really like her! But, I also like my best friend (not in a gay way of course). Idk what to do? She wants me to go to her horse show this ... (97 words)

Am I REALLY going to regret not going to prom when this is my senior year?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My question is, am I REALLY going to regret not going to prom when this is my senior year? I mean, the guy I like is taking college classes so he's never at school and I was hoping to become closer friends with him and possibly have him as a date because I think we have a lot ... (218 words)

My friend's boyfriend is attracted to another girl. Is this really a big deal?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Note: a friend of mine (16) asked me to post this So my friends boyfriend and her were going strong for about 6 months until she found out he was attracted to a friend of hers, yet had no feelings whatsoever. My friend is devastated and angry, but I can see the guys point o... (161 words)

When is the right time to make my move? I'm Bi. In Closet. Really confused about this guy!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

14 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So im really good friends with this guy (he's 19 and I'm 22), who i believe is in the closet (says he's interested in women on facebook and has had not serious girlfriends in the past, and never really talks about it.) He always tells me how good looking i am and i always catc... (385 words)

I'm currently seeing two guys at the same time. Should I break it off with one of them?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in such a mess. I recently broke up with my ex of 2 years, and I met a guy on vacation who I'm sleeping with currently. I still love my ex, but I tried to cut contact with him so that I can move on. However, he wanted to talk a couple of times, and we ended up sleeping ... (280 words)

I want dirty sex! Can I get it without leaving my husband?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Why cant he get dirtier in bed? I know I am not as fit as a porn star, but I love sex and the hotter and dirtier the better! I have always known what I wanted, but when we first got together I was too young and shy to articulate it. Ten years later, I have all these unfulfilled ... (144 words)

I wouldn't feel nearly so much resentment if my husband was delivering in the bedroom!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Am I stupid for staying?I am a thirty three year old woman and have been with my "husband" for nearly thirteen years now. We have a child together, who is ten. I don't want to break up my child's family, but I feel like I am living a lie. I love my husband as a person, but I ... (234 words)

I'm trying to not act desperate but I want to talk to him so bad. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So everyone, I used to be part of this online dating site. I was never active on it so therefore my profile was on "hiatus" meaning I couldn't really request, message, or talk to people. I could only just add them to my "favorites". I talked to this guy on there briefly once. ... (372 words)

Is this guy attracted to men?

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14 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Is he possibly attracted to men? How do I know, any sign pls? I caught him eyeing on me several times, when I look back to him, he just avoid eye contact... am not good in sensing ppl around me... was thinking body language helps right? ... (46 words)

Breaking the ice with a girl?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - There is a girl at my school that i relly like, but am terrified to say anything. Any suggustions as to breaking the ice?... (24 words)

I have feelings for my married friend. How do I handle them?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - What do you do when you have fallen in love with your friend and he is already married and doesn't feel the same way about you? You have the same group of friends and see each other everyday. How do deal with this situation? It isn't easy for me because I have these feelings ... (186 words)

Can our relationship survive even though we have so little time to spend with each other?

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14 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend have been dating for six months, he lives around 2 hours away and we see each other every two weeks due to money issues. I love him very much but I have a problem I recently moved back into my parents home my father is very strict and won't let a guy stay ... (182 words)

Do you think my dancing instructor is interested in me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Ok i'm 26.. my question is direct and simple.. two days ago while i was at the dance studio (where i train regularly as a dancer), i asked my trainer what time i should be there the next time.. and he put his arms over my shoulder and said six o'clock and... then he came closer ... (112 words)

Am I setting my sights too high?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4816 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - So I have dated many men (especially in my 20's) but now in my 30's I am a bit more picky. My must is the guy has to be taller than me, less than 300 lbs, have a stable job, wants kids and finished a degree....any degree (I just need to know he made a commitment, stuck with it ... (182 words)

Lads... honestly, how likely would you be to cheat on your gf on a 'lads holiday'?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So my bf ( of 3 years ) has just said he wants to go to magaluf on a lads holiday. i know everyones going to be like if u have been with him 3 years and u dont trust him ur weird bla bla bla but its not so much i dont trust him its the fact that there wil be tonnes of half ... (251 words)

He seems oddly reluctant to meet

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

14 September 2011 (F)

age - Dipping my toes into the single life after a 21 year realationship..ouch, its harsh out there ! I'm on this site and a guy checked me out, we started emailing and then finally we did the phone thing. Its been 9 months although he lives 2 states away, he flies all over for his ... (122 words)