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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I just want it to stop hurting...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - im not really sure where to start. its all such a mess. i was in care as a child my dad was an alcoholic (he was my world) me and mum never got on. i have a younger sister who mum has always had with her and she adores. shes a year younger than me. me and her can get on really ... (237 words)

Is it possible he'll consent to having sex with me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

6 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - hey i am gay and i have a friend whom i like very much but i don't know if he is gay or straight. next month he is coming to my house to stay for a week, we will sleep in the same room alone, and i really want to have sex with him is there any way i can have sex with him ;( ... (71 words)

She calls MY boyfriend pet names???

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Since the beginning of our relationship, this girl that lives in another state but is friends with my boyfriend, has been flirting with him, call him pet names and everything. She can't say she didn't know that he was in a relationship because I've seen her say something about ... (289 words)

How do I properly satisfy my curiousity?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Ok to put this bluntly I've fantisized about having sex with another male since I was in my late teens. The only way I can think of, to try this out is meeting someone online, especially in my area. Obvisouly I want to be safe both physically and sexually. I've been chatting ... (74 words)

He man who says "you deserve better". What does he mean??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Some of my friends and I are at our wits end when it comes to a certain type of man. We've come across this type of man at least one time each, and none of us are any wiser. It's the man who says "you deserve better than me", and then ends the relationship. This man will pr... (222 words)

What did he mean exactly by this statement?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I am still trying to get past my husband's cheating on me with other women he was meeting on internet dating sites for 5 years. This I have known about for 2 years and he stopped doing it and is trying to work on the marriage. Today I broke down about it again and told h... (172 words)

Why is my husband so short tempered???

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband is 33. I am 29. He gets into arguments with a lot of people. The new neighbor was doing something wrong, or not the way he would have done it. My husband walked over on a mission or mercy, as he called it, to help the guy out. The guy got pissed. My husband got ... (188 words)

Is there any chance I'm pregnant because of this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I was just wondering; is there a chance i can pregnant in this situation? : Two weeks ago i went on holiday with my bf, and we went to the local swimming pool. we were leaning against the side, and ermm... lets just say we got really kinky and we tried it there x_x th... (106 words)

UPDATE What can I say to get a conversation going?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

6 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello again, everyone. I posted a question on here on the 5th July this year. Briefly, I was running into a woman on the journey to work every day and did I think she was the most beautiful woman that I'd ever seen? Yes! The question I asked was, as you can guess from the title ... (661 words)

While he was away in the military I suffered a miscarriage. Should I tell him my feelings?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I like this guy, and he is in the Military. We been hangin out a couple of times before he left to go over-seas a few months ago While he was away i found out i was pregnant by him, but had a miscarriage Now he have return for a few weeks. I want to know how he really feel ... (84 words)

I can't seem to get pregnant!!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hi guys, I've been suffering from this for well over a year now. I can't get pregnant. Also I've not been having periods in over a year. Doctors have pretty much given up on trying to find out what's wrong so every couple of months I just have a blood test. What I was wondering ... (78 words)

Help for the mentally abused...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I've made a few posts on here about my relationship problems and while the feedback was helpful I still look for other help. Read books, look at other websites and I've come to the conclusion being that my relationship is so unhealthy I decided this last weekend that enough ... (180 words)

Is there hope he may still call after first date?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4822 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - So I recently met a guy at work, we flirted a couple of weeks, he asked for my number and invited me out. We went rock climbing indoors, it was fantastic but I broke a pretty bad sweat. We went to dinner after and the convo went well. There were no awkward lulls, no one was ... (400 words)

Why 3 years later can't I get over this girl who lied to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I really need help... here is my story... I'm a 30 year old male who suffers with a social phobia and depression problems. About 3 years ago I decided to start meeting people on-line in the hope of finding a partner with similar interests. I met an amazing Canadian girl wh... (732 words)

I had to find out from someone else that my boyfriend has a 5 year old!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F) age 36-40 - I recently found out my boyfriend has a kid. Not from him, but from a mutual friend who didn't realize that I didn't know. His kid is ~5 yrs old, I am 25 and he is 29. I met him 9 months ago and we dated briefly for a month. I broke up with him because he could only hang out ... (826 words)

Boyfriends can't bring me to orgasm, I have to do it myself

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi.. i am 17 soon to be 18 years old and i have had, which i ould consider, 2 serious boyfriends. both in which complain about how i never orgasm during sex. it seems to be that i am the only person who can bring myself to orgasm, however this is only through clitoral ... (72 words)

It ended, but I still miss him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone, I just broke up with my boyfriend. The reason for this was the he was changing and he the nerve to tell me in the midst of us arguing that he got a girls number and they hung out. He is a tow truck driver and he said he met her when he had to tow her car. I w... (260 words)

I feel he is just talking to me to be polite...why cant I let go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey guys, I'd really appreciate it if you could help me with this. I'm 15 and I've been in love with the same guy for around a year. Everything started a year ago, when I met him in class. We had about 4 classes a week together and we developed something like a friendship. We... (376 words)

Why is my mom so upset about the way my husband and I treat each other?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, I am a 31 year old married woman. You have given me great advice in the past. Here is my problem: This is a little long with background. My father and my husband get along great. My dad usually calls him, son, when he talks to him; however, my mom and sister ... (387 words)

I got badgered into sending nude photos, my dad found out and is now transferring me to another school

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay so there was this guy and at first I liked him. He would tell me I was special and make me feel good about myself, and he would act like he liked me too. And to be honest I think he did. He would come to my games and watch and cheer me on. He would sit at he very top of ... (497 words)

Is it possible for a man to have an emotional affair with a male friend?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (?) age 36-40 - So my husband has a lot of friends that he hangs out with regularly. Nice guys, really. But a few weeks ago a new guy joined the group and something very strange has happened. This guy is the "cool" or "bad boy" type of guy. We'll call him James. I mean, he's just a guy ... (535 words)

I don't want this relationship to end but I just don't know what else I can do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my boyfriend for over 6 years, he has always had a problem with expression his emotions, its his up bringing, all his brothers are the same, find it hard to express how they feel and put feelings into words. He became depresses so went onto medication and ... (143 words)

Is it just a break that can lead to getting back together, or is it a break up for good?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Me and my girlfriend passed trough the bad period. I didn't have success in business for maybe 1,5 year. (no is getting better). This situation completely turned myself. I didn't care about myself, I didn't have any good energy. In the positive thinking of way I gave her couple ... (402 words)

I hate doing the thing that is his number one turn on! What can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I hate being fingered/fingering myself and I know it's the biggest thing that turns on my bf as that's the sort of porn he watches. We have sex a lot and stuff. However, I feel this kinda pressure to finger myself for him [he doesn't ask] because I know it turns him on. I ... (80 words)

How do you find the inner strength to help people?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (?) age - I just want to let everyone know that I have been on this site for at least 4 years and its been the best site from heaven.... I have been troubled by my broken marriage and have a hard time putting things together ....how do you people do it ...just sit down and write advice..... (81 words)

He waited 23 years to express his disappointment. How many people out there did not have sex on their first wedding night?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - How many people did not have sex on their wedding night and waited until the honeymoon?? Husband was upset that we did not have sex on wedding night. We did have sex as soon as we arrived at the hotel on the honeymoon. when i tried to explain why we did not I told him i was e... (120 words)

Have I screwed everything up by sleeping with him early?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I met a guy at a friend's gathering a few weeks ago. We really hit it off, and he drove me home at the end of the evening. Came in for a few hours - we have some drinks and laughs, swapped numbers, but nothing happened. I text him the following Friday to see what he was up and ... (410 words)

Should I tell him I know he's trying to catch me, or just ignore it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, So, my bf of a year or so and I live together in a two br two bath, I have my own room/bath... (long story). So, we recently had a huge fight and I pulled all of my things out of his bathroom. We've had a problem in the past where he was being a bit sneaky and inapprop... (432 words)

During sex I "zone out" and think of anyone but him. Yet I love him. Did my past issues affect my ability to enjoy sex with him now?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I think I have some intimacy issues. I love my boyfriend very much, I am extremely attracted to him and we have sex on a regular basis (1-2 times a day). The only thing is, when we have sex I am never able to think about him or what is happening at that moment. In my he... (176 words)

Is this moving along too fast? Should I be setting a different pace in this new relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I don't really have a problem but just wanted to ask something. well basically i've been going out with a guy for about a month and a half and its all going well. but this is my first proper boyfriend and I'm worried if I'm taking it at the right pace and stuff so would li... (199 words)

Second chance? promises? what are the chances the relationship will last this time?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age - If a couple who have been together only a yr. or so have a lot of issues throughout their relationship end up breaking up and then 2 mths. later decide to reunite without really working through these issues, can this relationship survive the second time around? If the pers... (155 words)

My girlfriend left me and I don't know what to do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - hi, please help me i'm sorry this is going to be long but please take the time to read this really need someones help... i have been with with my girlfriend for 4 and half years, she was 16 and i was 23 when we met. we have always been there for eachother and specially wh... (1568 words)

I',m upset that I caught my husband with a dirty magagzine

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4801 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear cupid i am married to my husband who i love so much and the other day i called into his work and caught him coming out of the bathroom at work with a dirty mag and i was upset and he was not bothered that i was upset but it made me feel inadequate as we hardly ever get ... (129 words)

Life After "Cheating"

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4822 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - First I'll explain the sitch...So I've been seeing this amazing guy that I'm crazy about and that scares me.. I hate when I guy gets a hold of your heart and breaks it.. and he's getting there.. so the other night when I was home with my ex ... (423 words)

My girlfriend was raped before I met her and she can't get over it. Is it fair to leave her?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

6 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - My girlfriend and I have been together for 10 years. She was raped at some point before I met her. I found this out in the last year. Initially, we had a good sex life, but within two years it became nonexistent. She just cannot be intimate with me. She says it makes her fee... (268 words)

After 30 years together husband says he never felt intimate with me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been with my husband since I was 16 been with him for 30 years and married for 23. He said that he has never felt intimate with me, is this possible? He first asked for a divorce and now a separation because he feels intimate with woman he meets and wants to go out ... (357 words)

My boyfriend had masturbated and then couldn't cum when we had sex. Is it ok that I am upset by this?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend recently masturbated in the toilet when I was round his house to porn. Usually porn doesn't bother me but I feel like he chose this over me and suddenly like i'm not hot enough. We went on to have sex later and he didn't cum and just said "not sure why" when we ... (70 words)

What the hell went so horribly wrong with us? Was I just a second fiddle to the drama between my BF and his ex?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4822 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi Everybody, Im Dennise, im new here, my first post, it took me about two hours to write this because i keep stopping to get a hold of myself, so if something doesnt make sense, work with me here. Ok so here is the deal: I met Eric a year and a half ago at my old job. ... (1014 words)

I still think about my former teacher 24/7

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've had the biggest crush now on my old high school track coach. Its been over two years and I still constantly think about him. We had a great student-teacher connection, and I really looked up to him as a role model too. He has a girlfriend now, but that hasn't seemed to ... (72 words)

Why is he waiting so long to give me the promise ring?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4825 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay, so I've been with my boyfriend for quite some time now and we are young but in love. we have spoken of marriage and our strong desire to really make things happen for us. we agreed to both finish school first but we have a plan. Recently, we decided its a little early for ... (101 words)

Is 30 too old to date? Will I never find the right one and where should I look?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been in a relationship for almost 6 years and I've never been able to talk to him. He "listens" which means not saying anything then maybe I get some cliche statements. I crave connection to him. We can do things, and accomplish a lot around my home. I've taken up his ... (281 words)

Do we all need space?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Do we all need space from our partners? What exactly does it mean when your boyfriend says we need space, you have things to do with your kids and I also have my things to do ... ... (42 words)

Poor relations with my Father have corrupted every aspect of my life and I don't know what to do with Myself

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

6 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hey everyone, I've had things a little bit rougher than most people in the developed world and I just discovered why. I have conquered many challenges in life but the task of being an adaquite son for my Father was a challenge that ultimately conquered me. It took a major ... (732 words)

Why does my BF have my name listed as "Christopher" on his phone? Could he be cheating on me?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I just discovered that my boyfriend has me listed in his phone by a male name - Christopher, when clearly that is not my name. My name doesn't even start with the letter C. This is sooooooo very strange, and I was not happy about this. I asked him why was my name listed as ... (149 words)

Boyfriend bringing a houseguest to my home

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - My boyfriend is visiting from out of the country and will stay for a week. He's done that before, but this time, he is bringing a friend (I live in New York City, he and friend in a small town in France). I work from home, in a small one bedroom apartment, and have been ... (198 words)

The bible tells me I'll go to hell for liking girls. Should I get help?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4817 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age - The Bible tells me it is wrong to desire women sexually, I feel like I'm going to go to hell for liking girls. What should I do? I have like girls since I was a pre-teen, I'm now 65 yrs old. I have dated men on and off my whole like, even married a man 20 yrs my senior. He di... (131 words)

How can I accept that I have herpes?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i need help with accepting i have herpes. Anyone know of a better way to think about it? besides having a dreadful permamnent disease?... (24 words)

Boyfriend has day off and would rather jack off than have sex with me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - i am annoyed, because my boyfriend was on the toliet jacking off to pictures on his zune. He finally has a day off today from work, and doesnt even want to have sex with me. it makes me feel like im not wanted.. we barely have sex anymore cause he either works or plays his ... (86 words)

She can't decide whether she wants to be with her abusive ex or me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

6 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - so i have been seeing this girl for almost 2 years, 1 year into it she wanted to take a break,this only lasted two weeks , moving foward a couple of weeks ago she tells me she has had thoughts that it would be better for son to try and work things out with his dad. these ... (135 words)

Gay dating in high school?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

6 September 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Just a little about me, I'm an out gay sophomore, at a Catholic school, in a city that is supportive of homosexuality, though gay marriage isn't available anymore for some reason... Anyway, how am I supposed to date in high school? No source I can find, online or person... (306 words)

Gastric Bypass VS. Lap Band System?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4822 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 19 years old and recently I have become really upset with my figure...I have always struggled with my weight since i was little. I have a thyroid problem and Polycystic ovarian syndrome so it is almost impossible for me to loose weight and when I do I gain it all back. I ... (117 words)

After a lot of history, some of it painful, I now know he is The One. How can I tell him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4825 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I need advice.....almost 2 years ago i was involved with with a married man, a lot of things happened, a lot of hurt and lies and he finally ended his marriage. i did not stay with him because a lot of things hapened and i was beyond hurt. after him i got involved in a ... (223 words)

I don't usually date younger guys but I like this one. Shall I make an exception?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4825 days ago

6 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I like this guy...and I know for a fact that he likes me too..but he's a sophomore and I'm a senior...I've never even considered dating younger because of boys maturity levels in the first place. I've tried to reconsider because I do like him but I just don't think he can ... (95 words)