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*oanne1002
writes:Please can anyone help me. I have been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years, and living together for just over 1 year. We have always been so very happy and made lots of plans for our life together. The last 3 weeks he has been really down one minute and then on a high the next, his mood swings are really bad, I have tried to talk to him but he just says nothing and says he is fine.This is not like him at all, we have always been able to talk to each other.Why could someone suddenly have this mood swings and not seem to notice they are. I love him so much and cant understand this change in him. Reply to this Question
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (18 September 2011):
 Mood swings are normal. Men are not immune to it. When you say mood swings are really bad, do you mean he lashes out verbally and drinks to numb himself? Maybe he feels comfortable exposing this side of himself because he knows that you would accept them as part of himself. It's not pleasant, but you have to accept otherwise you would be miserable. Maybe a year ago he didn't feel safe about sharing this side of him and kept a happy face in front of you. You have to decide what are acceptable behaviours, and keep boundaries. It's okay to feel angry, it's not when he blames you for his problems or becomes verbally abusive. You can talk about this once he comes out of his cave. Make him feel safe to have his own space, and then welcome him back with loving arms.
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (18 September 2011):
 Hi,You've been together with your boyfriend 2 years now. You know him well, and knows that this is not his typical, normal behavior. For now, since it has been only 3 weeks, let him just have his time. I am sure nothing serious, he might be stress at work? Problems with co-workers? Financial problems? Family problems? Who knows, but I guess he's not ready to share with you for his own reasons. I am sure with time, he will talk to you. Men have strange behavior sometimes. They are different than women. It's not about trust, but more pride. He's a man, probably feels like, as a man he should handle, and take care whatever it's that is bothering him on his own. But, that's just my guessJust wait for the right moment, when he's relax, in the good mood, and just try to have a casual, nice, friendly talk. Don't pressure him, for some reason, when you pressure man, they seem to get more upset, and defensive. Hope this helps. Good luck
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reader, xsemenelinx  +, writes (18 September 2011):
 sometimes it is better to treat it with silence... remember the virtue of silence.. he will realize it sooner or later.. at your end pray hard.. it is very helpful.. you will be included in my prayer.. dont worry..
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