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writes:My boyfriend linked me to a website the other day for a clip of a painter we both like doing a tutorial. The first thing I noticed on opening the web page was all the "hottie women" galleries on the side, and links to hentai, sexy women, and many other sexually oriented video games involving anime.I felt quite uncomfortable and still do. While the clip he sent me was in a harmless section along with other normal sections, I am now wondering if he watches hentai? Him sending me such a link seems sort of odd when the pictures of women were so blatant in their underwear and so on...is that a sign of trust or did he just not think about that aspect at all?My main question is, I'd like to know if I could jokingly ask him about it, or make a comment about the site in general. I wouldnt get mad, I'm just wondering if I had a right to ask about it now since he obviously felt comfortable enough to send it to me and if he is into those sorts of games?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2011): I would like to clarify that the attractive women along the side were not advertisements, but rather actual articles and a part of the website.
Thank you everyone for your responses.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2011): don't be ridiculous. those kind of ads are all over the place at sites that need the money to stay online. If the site you're looking at provides free content, they need some kind of revenue to stay active, that's probably just the kind of advertising they're getting money for.
I stream free movies all the time, and there are porno ads all over the place around the movie. I just ignore them. I can't make them go away, and I want to access the content. End of story.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2011): LOADS of websites have pictures and clips of naked or semi-clad women down the side. It doesn't mean that he looks at them. And even if he does, it's something that's pretty normal. Guys like naked girls, it doesn't mean he wants to be with them instead of you. You can ask him about it if it will put your mind at ease but I wouldn't worry too much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2011): Those sorts of ads are on thousands of innocent web pages.
I don't think it's a big deal that they were there or imply that your boyfriend looks at that stuff and I really don't think it's any of your business if he did.
My Boyfriend watches porn & I don't care what sort it is. Aslong as physically he only wants me, there's nothing wrong with a bit of PERSONAL fantasy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2011): I feel you are reading into this to much. Your boyfriend has no control over what advertisements are placed on a website. How would you feel if your boyfriend inquired about personal information based on links you've sent him?
I think the bottom line is if you feel threatened by drawings and cartoons of popular Japanese TV shows then you should talk to him about it and talk to him seriously about it. You don't need to be critical to be straight with him so don't be funny or sly, if he realizes your deception it will damage his trust in you and could do more harm than good.
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reader, KittieS  +, writes (18 September 2011):
 These images sometimes pop up in the weirdest of places, sounds like he was sending you a link to something he thought you would be interested in. Ask him if it upsets you that much but all seems fairly harmless to me
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2011): I really don't think he meant anything my it. Some people are kind of oblivious to things like that. My boyfriend says and does things that come across highly sexual, then when I make him explain, it's never really that bad.
Even if he does, he is a man and it seems normal. Men are very sexual and visual, and he might just enjoy it.
You do have a right to ask him about it and if it really means that much to you, you should. Curiosity killed the cat, but satisfaction brought him back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2011): tbh? he might have just googled it and sent it to you without paying attention to the hosting site.. or he might use the site for its innocent sections. I hate pornographic content (on a personal basis- I dont like looking at it at all. don`t care if others do) and I have been on quite a few sites with less than savory adds and realms. I wouldnt worry too much about it if it were me.. too many innocent possibilities.
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