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writes:I fell out with my best friend, who was a guy, around five or six weeks ago, blocked him from contacting me, so that he wouldn't be able to contact me and would leave me alone from then on. I do not want anything to do with him anymore. I have just found out that he asked my dads girlfriend how i am, and started saying that "whatever she sets her mind too she'll succeed and i know she'll get to uni". When she told me he had been asking after me, i told her that we werent friends and she paused and said looks like he's still friends with you. Now this may seem all nicey nicey and genuine to her, but I know him. I'm no longer friends with him for a reason, I want to forget all about him. I feel like I need to ask him to leave me alone and not bother my family because I dont want to hear it, that he wants to know if im okay, all the "proud of her and all the faith in her" bullshit, should I ask him not to do this again?
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (19 September 2011):
 Hi,I like you. You are a young lady, but very confident, strong person. That's a great quality. He knows what he's done to you, he knows you don't want him to contact you anymore, but I guess whatever he did, he still cares about you. I know bs", but I guess he's remorseful, trying to be friends with you again. By contacting your family members, he's probably hoping that you will come along, give him another chance?If you have made your decision, then yes, once for all, tell him to leave you alone, and not to contact you or any of your family members again. I am sure he knows by blocking him, but I guess he has hope? I guess he needs to hear from you... If this is what it takes to shut him out of your life, as much as you don't want to have to contact him again, do the sacrifice for your own good. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2011): How extreme were your reasons for breaking all contact? If it was bad enough to justify breaking all contact, tell your family about it, they will understand and help keep him away from you.
If it was just an argument, breaking all contact is a bit extreme, your dad's girlfriend and the rest of your family will not see a need to break all contact with him.
Examine yourself, is your disagreement with him petty or not? Is cutting all ties with him justified? If so can you convince your family of this?
If you can't convince your family of this then just ignore what you hear about him asking about you, if he doesn't interact with you and isn't like spreading lies about you then it is nothing to worry about. As long as he leaves you alone what do you care who he talks to?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (19 September 2011):
 As you say, you have blocked him for a reason, and you know the bullsheet he is sprouting to your dad's g/f is just that, bullsheet.
Don't contact him, don't unblock, don't feel you need to speak with him, because that way he will know the bull had the desired effect.
If dad's g/f persists, just tell her you have him blocked for a reason and would appreciate it if she didn't pass on any more messages.
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