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writes:I'm mixed race (black and white) but I inherited more physical features from my dad's side, including rather full lips. I've always been very insecure about them, to the point that I've even considered cosmetic surgery to reduce my pout a bit. I feel dead self-conscious when I smile and when I eat and when my expression is at rest, paranoid that my lips are dominating my entire face - especially since my eyes are almond-shaped and not at all prominent. Despite my worries, my boyfriend seems to find them rather attractive; he's said on a few occasions how much he loves to kiss them. I wish I could see them in such a positive way! I hate to sound so shallow and ungrateful when I do realise I could look much worse (and indeed I know a lot of women would like to have slightly fuller lips), but I just don't know how to stop this issue from affecting my self-esteem. How do I learn to accept myself as I am? Any advice would be very much appreciated :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2011): Hi im 14 years old and I have the same problem. Some people tease me about my lips and other people love them. I'm still insecure about them but sometimes i'll forget and just try to have a good time. One day I realized my sisters lips are bigger than mine and she's beautiful. I just try to realize that the things people make fun of you about are the things they are going to spend thousands of dollars on to get themselves.
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reader, lakers_lover09  +, writes (19 September 2011):
Ppl love full lips! Celebs pay for them and u have them free. Embrace them. I bet they make u gorgeous
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2011): I have a friend who is a mix of several races - black, white, native American and she has these enormous lips and it's so beautiful. I bet you're the only one who thinks there's anything wrong with them. Look at people like Lindsay Lohan, paying thousands to achieve full lips and usually failing or looking like idiots. Yours are natural and I bet there are a lot of people who find you and your lips really sexy. Embrace what you have.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (18 September 2011):
 Hi,Beauty is within... The looks doesn't matter, and don't last, fade away. You are unique, and should always be proud of yourself. We all have different qualities, nobody is perfect, and we all have something that we don't like about ourselves, and would like to change. Nowdays, having full lips means sexy.... People pay money to have them done.... People use make up, learn treaks to make them look bigger. I could name many female celebraties that have full lips, that are very sexy... Anyways, sexy or not, it's positive quality to have full lips, so stop feeling this way. You know, some people have serious phsysical issues, that really need plastic surgery. Sorry that you are not completely happy. Hope this helps!Best wishes
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2011): Love what you have! people are injecting chemical into their lips in order to make them fuller!you have the natural thing! and people only get tease about that at a young age ... you will see as you are getting older that they attract people's attention in a positive way ... girls, because they wish they had your lips ... guys because they would love to kiss it ... trust me no need to have this insecurity because i know first hand what you are talking about. I have full lips and i embrace them!
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reader, FayyTargett +, writes (18 September 2011):
Every girl wishes for big plump lips! the best way for you to like them is to flaunt them :) put some nice deep bright lippy on either red or pink (don't over do it) and go out in public whether it be a mall or bowling alley and have a look at the looks of admiration people are giving you! take a few photos also and maybe post one on facebook, see how many likes and comments you get :)
hope this helps xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2011): hey, I'm all black and have big lips but I'm proud of it and look at it as an advantage in life...people always comment on how much they love my lips and they've helped me alot in the kissing department. My advice is to pout your lips with proudness:) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2011): Full lips are actually considered a thing of beauty. Be proud!
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