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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

He blanked me out first, so who is in the wrong?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi people here is my problem I met a man at the beginning of the year who I really liked I thought he felt the same but he just wanted a fwb sort of thing so as I liked him that much I hoped it would turn into something more so that was that anyway last week he asked me if I ... (223 words)

Why would a man do this when there are kids involved?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4787 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My babies daddy lied to me about being in a relationship with someone else. Then we slept together. When I found out about her, he still denied he was in a relationship until she told me directly. Now our whole friendship is shattered, he can't even speak to me when he picks ... (99 words)

How do I make guys interested in me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4796 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Dear Cupid, I'm an average sized 15 yr. old girl- 5'6", 130lbs, ect.. and I model on the side. But guys at my school have never showed interest in me. I'm outgoing and athletic and generally easy to get along with, but they find me unattractive! My brother is 18 and is always... (105 words)

He couldn't make me any happier..except in the bedroom

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4787 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm engaged to a guy that couldn't possibly make me any happier... except when it comes to the bedroom. It seems that my libido is much higher than his, despite the fact that he's only three years older than me.It seems unfair on both ends since I'm constantly dealing with a ... (143 words)

I've had a thing for him for a year, but I'm not good enough!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4787 days ago

30 September 2011 (?) age 30-35 - Hey, Okay, I've had a thing with this guy for a year and a half, he still was in love with his ex so we decided to wait. Finally, he asked me to be his girlfriend again, I said no be because he was going to college soon. Also, I'm not good enough for him and I didn't want him... (198 words)

Will his comment be a self-fulfilling prophecy for us?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Navigating a rocky week of good but scary communication. On 3 occasions now (most recently the other night) my boyfriend has said this (or something similar): "In case something ever happens [we break up], promise me you'll still be my friend and won't completely drop out of ... (145 words)

How can I make a man want to marry me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4787 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - How can I keep my man satisfied in our relationship? Including all factors. How could I make him want to marry me? ladies or fellas, thanks in advance! :-)... (31 words)

Who had cheater's behavior? Him or me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - im rlly feeling bad ... i just broke up with my boyfriend ..i loved him to death but i think he cheated ... our relation was within distance ...and one day we were talking on msn and i told him im going out with friends ..he agreed and he asked me to ask friends for something ... (457 words)

Do we tell the parents of my son's girlfriend that we walked in on them having oral sex?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 4759 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband and I walked in on my 17 year old son performing oral sex on his girl friend who is 16. My husband and I disagree on what we should do. I think that we should call her parents and tell them what happened. My husband on the other hand said I should forget about it. We ... (139 words)

How do we have sex with g/f is too shy to be naked?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I'm a indian one and my GF is a sri lankan girl. We are planing 2 have sex next week but my GF is sooooo shy. She is told she is shy to be naked in front of me. She is a sri lankan and because of her cluture she haven't even were a bikini. I don't know how to make her ... (96 words)

Should I send this email to my ex I broke up with six months ago?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - What do you think, I want to send my ex boyfriend this email..please help.? i want to send my ex boyfriend this email. broken up for 6 months and he has been playing with my head. telling me he loves me and coming to me when hes lonely. should i send this? is it good? ... (354 words)

End of relationship and pregnancy is causing me much hurt

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30 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I met this guy in June and we started seeing each other until he dumped me through email in August. In his email, he said that he was leaving the country to rekindle things with his ex-girlfriend. I didn't reply to his email because I was very disappointed. After we broke... (146 words)

Have zero interest in sex with boyfriend of 4 years...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi. I'm 27, I've been with my boyfriend on and off, for four years. The first two years he turned me on so much, I loved sex with him. In year three we split up - totally unrelated to sex, but it had started to slow down a bit. Anyway, had a fling with another guy, and... (224 words)

How do I get over being so insecure about my looks?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) age 36-40 - How can I get over being so insecure? Especially about the way I look. I simply hate the way I look, I hadn't realized how ugly my body and face are until now. And it's making me miserable. It hurts my relationships. But I can't seem to make it stop and therapy hasn't helped. I ... (671 words)

Husband accidentally left message on my phone calling me a dumb bitch!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3985 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - my husband accidentally left a voicemail on my cell phone where he is talking to his friends and saying " the dumb bitch won't answer her phone" I feel very hurt I never thought he would refer to me as a dumb bitch and I feel disrespected and he won't even talk to me about it. ... (61 words)

Sharing our issues with friends??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Is it okay for my boyfriend to be out with his friends drinking and discussing our personal problems with them? He says it's normal and that maybe I should start telling my friends more of our personal issues to vent or whatnot. I think it's completely uncalled for, and that ... (60 words)

How do I quit porn?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4776 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I don't have sex but i just can't seem to leave porn(which i think is morally wrong).Someone please give me an advice on how to quit porn.... (27 words)

I wanted her gone. And I was wrong.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - well.. i cant believe after nearly 2 years (1.8) my gf and I have broken up :( two weeks ago now. at first i asked her to leave my flat, and said we would talk in a month. (there were a series of things that led me to that point - at the 6month point - a guy tried to s... (756 words)

Checked my boyfriend's facebook account and found emails from the past that I don't like!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all. I have been with my bf for almost two years. I suffer from terrible insecurity and have often wondered if he has cheated. Anyway, I know it’s wrong but I decided to check his facebook account. I found nothing untoward in the last two years but there was a string of ... (552 words)

I can't give up what we have but I can't live in limbo either

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hey , im not really sure what to do so im asking for some advice ..My ex broke up with me about a month ago due to still having feelings for his ex of 7 years ..its hard coz we wanna b together still ..The other day when we were chilling he told me he wants me but he's ... (396 words)

I'm afraid I was boring on the date

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30 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Last night I went on a date with my boyfriend. At first it seemed kinda boring and I,m pretty sure i seemed annoying. But then we were all over each other and he was feeling me and I gave him a BJ but the thing was I never really gave a BJ Before and well he seemed to be doi... (134 words)

Should I stay or should I back off?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This is a very complex question and I hope it gets posted soon! I don't know what you'd call my relationship with a guy i,m dating. I at first assumed we'd be boyfriend and girlfriend but he doesn't want a relationship. We meet each other weekly or maybe 2 or 3 nights a week.... (170 words)

He's back again after he broke my heart

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - What should I reply to this guy who last year broke my heart (he doesn't know that) he said he was single when he actually had a girlfriend and he never replied to my text at the time. He has got in touch asking about me. I want him back in my life but not sure what to say, ... (98 words)

Should I go with my ex or hers?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have the ultimate dilemma! Lately, for some reason I've been getting out of the ordinary male attention. Firstly it started with my ex, we went on a date recently, as bad as it was we agreed to see each other again. Which may or may not be a good idea but I feel like givi... (229 words)

I'm his mother, his maid, his cook and his sex toy.... How do I deal/let him know?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I haven't been married to my husband for very long (just over 1 year), and we don't have kids, but I still feel like I'm his cook, his maid, his sex toy, and his mother... I mean, he's more of a clean freak than I am, but I still like a clean house. I'm in school full time, ... (1211 words)

Is this what I think it is?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Well I'm unsure how to handle or even approach this matter lightly. Once every few days I go to this place "jesters pies" for a treat and there is this girl. Now I'm aware that smiling is apart of customer service but this girl smiles at me alot and won't stop taking glances in ... (124 words)

How can I tell him I want us to go to the beach alone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (?) age 30-35 - I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months, we have been friends for years before this. The relationship is excellent and I really love him and I know he feels the same. 3 months ago P started his job and I started my placement year (he has finished uni, I have a placemen... (457 words)

How long before an erection feels normal after a circumcision?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4799 days ago

30 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I am 18 and have had tight foreskin all my life. Three days ago, I had a circumcision, recommended by urologists. I seem to be healing, but, like I was warned, erections are very uncomfortable at the moment. Anyone know how long it will be before an erection feels normal again? ... (66 words)

We work together, fight all the time. Should we get a divorce?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4791 days ago

30 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm married for 4 years and since there i had good moments and bad moments too, like every marriage is. But the last months it's getting hard keep the balance. Work, finance, family, relationship, pressure to have kids, i dont know if i'm up to keeping moving! Guys, we'are ... (178 words)

My husband blames fertility issues on me being over weight! Couldn't it just as well be HIM that is the problem?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello all, I have been with my man for 5 years, married for almost three. We havent been actively trying to have a baby but we havent not been trying either. For years I thought my husband had issues downstairs, and I found out I have fertility issues as well. Recently I had sc... (350 words)

He is afraid of committment! Is there a chance one day we might be together?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - my ex and I used to be best friends and then we decided to go out together. they were the best months until once he told me that he is afraid of commitment. he feels trapped when he is serious.at the same time he does not want to lose me. he didn't know what to do so i told him ... (119 words)

My childhood crush just added me on FB! Should I strike up a chat?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - It was like, "OMG, is this true?..'' or "maybe I'm dreaming or somethng".. etc.. I opened my FB account and saw a single friend request.. I used to think who it might be, and guessed that maybe it was just someone from my old school whom I don't know, it's the usual case a... (436 words)

I work hard, while he borrows money from me and then takes days off from work to watch sports!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My partner pays maintenance for 1 child + ex. He’s a salesman so income varies. I just had to lend him money to replace his stolen phone because he couldn’t afford to, and then he also needed extra money to tide him over until his commissions were paid at the end of the ... (220 words)

Troublesome fantasies

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I am 30 and feel really embarassed recently because i have these fantasies of sleeping with my sister(cousin). This makes me extremely worried when i face her and i am almost scared of talking to her. In the past i had expressed good feelings i had about her and now i feel as ... (109 words)

Should I work in another city than my wife? Will distance bring us closer? I don't want to go!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

30 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Before I come to my problem let me take you to its history. I was 11 and fell in love with 9 years old girl who happened to be orphan living in orphanage in front of our old house in our hometown. We would meet in the park and played there for hours. My parents broug... (468 words)

Why am I treating this girl so badly?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4798 days ago

30 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Please can you help me.I have been with my partner for 2 years she was my soul mate my best friend and my lover, we had planned our life together, and I was going to ask her to marry me. I have had a very difficult 3 months, with work and my health, I have had 3 operations, and ... (225 words)

How do I get my mom to let me visit my estranged grandparents?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So hey all aunts and uncles So.. I'm visiting my estranged grandma and grandpa, see I haven't seen them in 17-18 years...I'm 19 years old Like I'm nervous, I'm going to a town called flint its in Michigan. I vist them next week.. I'm so scared and nervous My mom had ... (188 words)

She recently added the ex as friends on facebook. Should I be jealous? Will it affect our relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - My girl friend used to love some guy before we met but didn't start relationship.she said she only loved him because of peer influence and she was a fresh man student and alone.this was before 5 years.now they are friends on facebook and i don't know who requested for ... (114 words)

Sometimes I feel its wrong for loving this man!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4797 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've had relationship after relationship and most of them were at least 19 years older or so... i've also been with some my age. I currently am 20 and my intimate other is 28 years older. I know the whole being depeived of a father figure is the only reason i seek a older man ... (118 words)

I want to be more than friends, but how?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm currently talk to a girl and we've known each other for almost 2 months. We talk a lot and we hang out a lot. We always hang out and I'm starting to like her and I feel like she is feeling the same way but I'm not sure. We would always talk and always go out together and ... (185 words)

I know I screwed it up, but is there any hope?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I met this girl 9 months ago, and we had class together several times a day, everyday for that entire semester. I started to develop infatuation for her around midterm, but never had the chance to express myself due to exams and other stuffs. So, the semester ended and we went ... (172 words)

Why is my bf ex being a yoyo in his life?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all, I have a long distance boyfriend and everything is great. There is just one thing that I have a problem with. He keeps adding his ex to facebook every time that she sends him a request, then she will get the shits with him blocks him, and then later on sends a request ... (200 words)

I'm in love and walking around on eggshells

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I really need some help here. I'm in love with the most amazing girl in the world but, I feel like I am walking on eggshells. It feels like I have to think before I even do anything, because the most random things, like falling asleep on skype and not being able to pick up her ... (473 words)

We broke up after 1 month but I still miss him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Me and my ex have known each other for about 3 years now , we have always flirted and kissed , but we decided to take things serious 3 months ago , and ended up braking up in one month. i was devastated. what hurts the most is that i still see him around cause we live in the ... (126 words)

A strange guy? Or does he like me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I just started my junior year of highschool about a month ago (I've been at the same school since my freshman year) and there's a new guy in the same year as me. He's only in my chemistry class and we've never actually talked or even made direct eye contact. Aside from looki... (301 words)

Mother getting on my nerves about my boyfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - so my mother is starting to get on my nerves about my boyfriend. i know thats hes not cheating on me , and she keeps on erking me telling me she hopes we brake up. she thinks im changing when i know for sure im not. if she keeps on with her bull i dont know what ima do.. any ... (98 words)

My friend's brother hit on my boyfriend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear cupid, my bestfriends brother is gay and he tried to tell me that my boyfriend let him feel on his body one day. And that pretty much that my boyfriend let him. At the time my he wasnt my boyfriend yet we was just talking for almost 6 months. I broke down cry and ended up ... (135 words)

Does this happen to teen girls? Is it normal? My periods are irregular.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4799 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok so I'm almost 14, I first got my period right before I turned 9 so my periods should be normal by now right? Well it has been a month or two since and I have not had my period. I still get the PMS symptoms. But I dont get my period and I am NOT sexually active. So what do ... (83 words)

Why do I have all of this jealousy and insecurity?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi. I am currently in a relationship with this really awesome guy. We are really happy and its been almost 4 months that we have been together.( both of us divorced with two kids each ) I don't know how to handle how I feel. I feel jealous whenever it comes to other women. My ... (264 words)

Shouldn't my periods be normal by now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok so I'm almost 14, I first got my period right before I turned 9 so my periods should be normal by now right.?. Well it has been a month or 2 sicen I hav gotten my period I still get the PMS symtomps but I dont get my period and and I am NOT sexually active. So what do I ... (75 words)