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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I am a flirt who loves to just want sex!

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4765 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Everytime I like a guy and I know he doesnt like me back I seem to use sex as a way to defend myself, i seduce him, get what i want and then get over him quick. The sex isnt that good, it gets the job done it feels good, but it doesnt please my intimacy with a man. I cant ... (265 words)

Pregnant by fwb what do I do

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone here is my problem I have a fwb didn't intend to I wanted a relationship with him he just wanted sex so that was that but here's my problem I think I might be pregnant but he doesn't want to be with me as we have talked about this before I have been taking my pill ... (98 words)

Ex says he wants to keep in touch, but doesn't

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4785 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have had it out with the 'ex' tonight about keeping in contact! He dumped me for not very understanble reasons! But said he didn't want to lose me completely etc..., I gave him EVERY opportunity to just end contact now, (in my text) said If he doesn't want to keep in to... (175 words)

Boyfriend is WAY too committed but right now all I want is a boyfriend, not a husband!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my boyfriend for 1 and a half years. We have a lot of laughs together, we are turned on by eachother, we do all the things that normal, happy couples do, I am not complaining about the relationship as it is. The issue is that he is very committed (not a problem ... (348 words)

One night stand, now I'm pregnant and uncertain of who the father is

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Im not sure who the father of my child is. My boyfriend and I had been having problems for quite sometime then last month I just couldn't take it anymore. I had met someone and one thing lead to another. We only had one encounter. Now I'm pregnant. What I'm having issues with ... (97 words)

His little white lies bother me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello everyone. I have a question about men and lying. I've asked questions about this before here, and I'm trying to deal with it. I keep catching my bf tell me little white lies. In all honesty, I don't catch him lying about bigger picture important things. He'll just lie ... (318 words)

Should I initiate sex? It hurts my feelings that boyfriend doesn't want sex more

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm in a great relationship w/ my bf, he's 35, I'm 28. He treats me like a princess, is affectionate and we are getting married next yr. Lately we haven't been having sex as much. It's been over a week since our last time. I talked to him about it and he said nothing is wrong ... (117 words)

Girlfriend says she would leave me for famous people in an instant! It hurts!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

16 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm 17 and my girlfriend is also 17 She is Christian and waiting until marriage. I am cool with this I am not cool with her telling me how hot other people are and alluding how she would have sex with them and leave me for them in an instant. Granted famous people, but sti... (110 words)

Fancy a girl at my work. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (?) age 41-50 - Hello everybody! Okay I'm looking for some help here on what I should do. I'll give you a bit of background first. I split up with my fiance about a year ago and went through a really bad period. I was really low and I got myself involved in a rebound/volatile relationsh... (236 words)

I may have messed things up...Help!!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So, I met this guy online. We'd been talking for about 3 weeks because he was on leave when we first started talking. He's now back from visiting home and we met about 3 days ago and I ended up liking him WAY more then I expected to once I met him in person. Well, he decided he ... (214 words)

The girl that I like doesn't seem to like me back..

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

16 September 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Ok,so I am a 14 year old boy ... and last year, I met this girl, who I find very, very attractive, a year ago, and i like her very very much ... So i am friend with her best friend and she tells me many things, and this girl who I like doesn't want to talk to me, doesn't want ... (123 words)

I cant talk to guys unless I am drunk!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok i can admit I,m Overweight but its no reason that I,m Unbelieveably shy! I literally can't talk to fellas unless I,m drunk. I have been told I,m Pretty , great personality and a good listener and good cook. But I,m so shy how can I overcome this???... (48 words)

Girlfriend wants her own nudes on her phone.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

16 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Ok just a quick question, but first a little background. My girlfriend has in the past given me erotic pictures of her. and now she wants me to send them all to her phone. my questions is, why would she want this? ( im going to leave out the part where she has been meeting new ... (801 words)

What does her answer mean?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I used to hang out with her a lot in high school, but at the time I didn't act on my feelings. Partially because another boy told her how he felt and it didn't go well for him because she was going to leave town for college soon. And partially because I wasn't ready. When s... (432 words)

Do gay teen boys have more boys or more girls as friends?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

16 September 2011 (?) age 26-29 - hi im a 15 teen boy i was wondering would you find that gay teen boys will have more boys or girls as friends... (25 words)

I need ideas for an education that is shorter than college!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Please take a little time to read my story everyone..So, to start with i'm a pregnant teenager (19), due in 3 1/2 months, and i just recently moved in with my mom. Things arent so easy and i need advice. I seem to be screwed from every angle i look at my situation. I dont ... (220 words)

My ex-partner is now socialising with my old friends with her new partner!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age - Hello I broke up from my partner in July 2010. Up until March this year we managed to remain good friends. Now we have both moved on, she has a new partner, but is socialising with my friends of 10 years who I introduced her too. I'm finding it very difficult to acc... (68 words)

Confidence issues. Can I stop having off days?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

16 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone, I wondered if you can tell me what's wrong with me (if anything is) I'm having some issues with confidence. I've always had an issue with confidence to some extent, but over the past few months I've tried to change. Some days I feel like I'm on top of the world, ... (125 words)

Should I insist on a paternity test?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

16 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I'm very angry at a friend for telling everyone her daughter is my child. This woman and her husband were close friends of my X wife and I years ago. The girl does resemble me, but I never had any kind of sex with this woman. Now half the town is believing that this is my ... (251 words)

In an LDR with an American porn start, my family would kill me if they knew, what do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I am in LDR with an American Pornstar , she has worked in 30 movies but got retired after we declared love for each other two years ago. Our love started from email and then we took it to love chat on Skype and webcam meeting. We met once in London six months ago and that... (172 words)

I'm jealous of this girl and I don't know what to do.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm jealous of this girl and I don't know what to do. First of all, we're not friends or anything like that. We go to the same school and I get to see her everyday. Basically, I'm just jealous of her looks and her popularity, because her intellect is really not something yo... (169 words)

Being in love with the same guy for a year, without an actual relationship involved, is a little bit dumb, don't you think?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey guys, I'd really appreciate it if you could help me with this. I'm 15 and I've been in love with the same guy for around a year. Everything started a year ago, when I met him in class. We had about 4 classes a week together and we developed something like a friends... (377 words)

My sexting friend has made it clear he's going to have sex with other girls until we meet up!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I recently started talking to a guy i used to go to school with and we been flirting and sex-txting back and forth. He says he really likes me but however he lives quite a bit away. We have talked about meeting up again and seeing how we get on but he has made it clear he wants ... (167 words)

How can I become a more trusting person?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So short story, I've been screwed over by so many guys so many times that I am constantly suspicious and freaking out. I am in a relationship currently and my boyfriend knew before we started dating about all my baggage. He has been completely understanding about it and even ... (219 words)

I deleted this hot girls number and now I regret it! Should I ask for her number again?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4771 days ago

16 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, I need help I made a mistake by deleting the numbers of some hot girl who lives nearby my place.. What happened was when she gave me her numbers that day she was handling her phone call, when I asked who was it she said it was her boyfriend, they were going to meet at that ... (169 words)

Friendship to Relationship doubts

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I was wondering If you could help me. I lived with two guys this year and was really attracted to one of them. We ended up sleeping together occasionally, but I knew I wanted more. Eventually when it came to moving out of our house, we were going to share again. I brought up ... (271 words)

My friend acts like my shadow

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok so i have a friend, she is amazing and i love her too bits but she seems to want to do everthing i do, she wants me to wear the same things as i do when we go shopping she wants me to buy everything she does if we're meeting up she wont even walk down the street by herself ... (163 words)

Boyfriend cant control himself, what should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - What should I do about my boyfriend? So I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now and it has been pretty good. We have good and bad times like any relationship but recently our arguements have upset me. We both have a short temper and acknowledge that but lately ... (155 words)

Why is it okay for boys to be boys but women have to behave?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi all. A quick question. Why is it that most men think they can flirt with many women, think it's their God given right to appreciate many females because they are men, but not accept it if a guy flirts with their wives or girlfriends? I have noticed a double standard. ... (123 words)

My boyfriend wants our LDR to be an open relationship...

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4762 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I had been dating about three months when our relationship became long distance due to circumstances beyound our control. It's been three months since I had to move, and we've only been able to see each other once since then. Recently he's been bringing up the ... (225 words)

Why is my boyfriend's ex calling him and he keeps telling her that I am with him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok. So I am with my boyfriend of many years last night along with our son and his daughter from his previous marriage. His ex wife calls and the conversation goes something like this "my girlfriend is here, my girlfriend is here, my girlfriend (my name) is here". After the ... (197 words)

Whats wrong with my husband.does he love me or not??

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - my husband was considered a very wicked upstart newcomer who was regarded by many as gods gift to women.he is very wealthy and used to be a playboy.but this went into his head and he used to sexually harass women who rejected him or would get verbally abusive and call them ... (347 words)

Are we having a typical disagreement over intimacy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I might as well just bury myself in a hole right now. I came home after a long day today, and I wanted to be intimate with my partner (this is a rarity for me). Not so long ago, he complained that I am never instigating our intimacy. So, you could imagine how I thought he'd ... (402 words)

Should I believe in the fortune teller?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone here in Dearcupid, I had something which is hard for me and make a decision. I went to met a fortune teller yesterday because i some people said he is famous at seeing people destiny, and he say a lot of bad about my future, he said if i get married before 2... (152 words)

Are there differences between male and female strippers?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi I need advice on 2 questions. I am due to be married in 6 weeks time I have 2 children from a previous relationship, a boy 18 and a daughter 12. My boyfriend is going on his stags to in a few days and there are 8 of them going 2 of those are my son and my brother in law, I ... (215 words)

Commitment phobic boyfriend

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age - I have been with my partner now for 12 months on and off (I am 47 and he is 50). We have had some lovely times together but I think he is a commitment phobic. Every few weeks he will start a row with me, usually over nothing, he has a jealous personality and it is usually ab... (317 words)

I've gained 40 lbs since he seen me last. Should I postphone meeting till I lose the weight?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - 6 years ago I regretably broke up with the greatest man I have ever been with. He recently found me. My concern is that at the time, when we were together, I was drop dead gorgeous. Since then, I have gained 40 pounds! I am scared to death of what he will think when he sees me. ... (113 words)

When should two people start having sex in a relationship?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hey all, simple question. So I have been broken up with my ex for over a year now and I'm reflecting back on past mistakes. I'm wondering maybe one of the mistakes was that we had sex too early. We talked about sex maybe 3 weeks into our relationship but we didn't have sex ... (83 words)

I don't have friends and don't want any. Is that wrong?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4813 days ago

16 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I am 38 years old and I don't have any friends other than my wife. I have one friend from high school I see once in a great while. He always wants to meet up and do something, but I have no interest. I get along with my colleagues at work, but work is work. My wife has no f... (414 words)

I am obsessed with my wife's sexual past. What can I do to help myself?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

16 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I want to preface this post by saying that I have read a lot of the retroactive jealousy threads both here and on other sites. I realize this is mostly my problem, not my wife's. I don't absolve her completely, because I think a smart, respectable woman wouldn't have done som... (867 words)

It upsets me that my BF doesn't stick to the plans we make

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 19 months now. Im really happy when I'm with him, but he tends to sometimes break plans we make and I get upset. I don't know whether I should be upset or if I should just accept that he can't make it, usually he gets caught up with ... (148 words)

I think my boyfriend's brother hates me. And I don't know why.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I know this is long...but here it goes: While my boyfriend and I were in college together, we lived with his brother (we all went to the same university, paid rent together, etc) and things seemed to be going fine, we all got along great. But as time went by my boyfriend's b... (320 words)

I didn't want to move too fast and now he thinks I'm not interested!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hey, i am a female and i am a little confused. i went out recently with a young man after two weeks of knowing him. he kissed me on my neck. ears and caressed my thighs and nipples. I don't know want happened but i was wet all over and almost had sex with him. i did not want to ... (138 words)

34 and single: Did I miss my chance to marry?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I feel like I've missed the marriage boat and I'm starting to panic. I'm going to be 34 years old tomorrow. Objectively, I am good looking; better than average, smart, successful, have a good career, own my own apartment, etc. All my best friends suddenly got married or ... (304 words)

I want him to like me more than her!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in college, and one of my best (guy) friends (lets call him andrew) from here, his hometown is about three hours away. When I went to visit andrew a year ago I met all of his friends and we hung out the whole weekend. Then, about 6 months ago, one of his friends started ... (299 words)

I am confused about dating and don't feel comfortable when a man pays and I am unsure what to do

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I want to know everyone's opinion here because i am freaking out here a bit. To put a small background. Im 25 with a masters and ppl say im this model like doll looking girl that has her life ahead of her; truth is even though i have all these material degree and looks, a year ... (628 words)

Husband's temper out of control! Things are fine as long as they go HIS way

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have a question to anyone who can help my situation. I am 38, I have 3 beautiful daughters. I am no longer married to there dad. About 2 years ago I got back with my highschool sweetheart,we were engaged in highschool, but his parents thought he was to young to get married ... (491 words)

Are these minute details going to ruin my chances of getting another job?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4815 days ago

16 September 2011 (F) - I was offered a position I really want. My offer is pending based on passing a background check etc and also references. She mentioned when I say its ok, she wants to call me supervisor. So basically I would have to give in my notice and ask for a reference etc What I am... (410 words)

How do you move on from past heart ache?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - How does a person move on from a past heartbreaking relationship? About five months ago the man I was involved with chose to abandon me after I went through what I consider to be the most heartbreaking excruciating time in my life, of which he was very instrumental in creating ... (255 words)

She says u can build a relationship early on(2wks in) by having sex. Is she just using me for sex? Or is that true?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm lesbian and I recently met a bisexual woman and we connected instantly. We started hanging out, texting n calling each other. The weird thing is we went to sex store this week and she was telling me which strap on and vibrator she'll use on me. I honestly really like this ... (315 words)

Is my vibrator too intense?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age - I am a 59-year-old-widow. Due to an illness my husband and I did not have intercourse for the last 15 years of our marriage (no masterbation during that time . realy need something now) .After my husband's death, a woman in my neighborhood who was moving gave me a vibrator. ... (167 words)

I really want my girlfriend back and I want to show her how much I care!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4815 days ago

16 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend of 4 months ended our relationship last week. At the start of our relationship we were perfect, everything was going our way, we'd talk for hours and never get sick of each other. After a while however the spark sort of faded away and our relationship become ... (677 words)

I'm so confused! This unplanned pregnancy could cost me my job and I don't know how my children would react to this!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I don't even know where to ask this question. It is such a dilemma and heart wrenching. About 18months ago I had the worst thing happen in my life. My husband suicided and and left me with two sons 8 and 10 at the time. I have been strong and have tried to carry on as best I ... (330 words)

Should you remains friends with someone to be positive role model or just run and save yourself?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4815 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi A few weeks ago I wrote this question and received helpful replies supporting my decision. Have you ever broken off a friendship because of things your friend did? I feel so guilty... http://www.dearcupid.org/question/have-you-eve... (258 words)

After weeks of n/c she's asking others if they've heard from me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4812 days ago

16 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Right peeps, need some advice, been in a relationship with a girl for 14 months. Last 3 months didnt go to good, she kinda rushed things, so she tells me she wants space, so i kinda say ok, then she begins in texting me nearly every day asking am i ok, chatting etc. Then call... (206 words)

My boyfriend told me he nevers gets jealous?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I find this hard to believe. When I pointed out jealousy is a basic human emotion experienced at least once by all, he admitted he had felt it "occasionally" when he "considered things" (?) But aside from that, he had "no experience" with the emotion of jealousy and no answer ... (123 words)

My sister and our cousin are falling in love with each other and its making me very uncomfortable!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4814 days ago

16 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm 21, my sister is 25 and my cousin is 23 (we are 2nd cousins). I know my cousin has liked my sister for a long time (in fact, quite a few of our cousins have liked my sister) but yesterday he wanted to talk to me about this and he confessed that he has never felt this way ... (525 words)

I sexted a girl when drunk and my girlfriend found out...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4811 days ago

16 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I am currently in college and my girlfriend is back home. Over this past Labor Day weekend I took a train down to visit my girlfriend for our 11 month. Our relationship has had its ups and downs at the beginning. My friends told me most relationships start like this, small ... (1606 words)

Whenever we talk online, boyfriend is always busy doing other things

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4815 days ago

16 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - When I talk to my boyfriend online, he is always doing other things like playing games or looking up comics while he talks to me. This is really starting to annoy me. I give him my full attention when we talk. So I have wait while these long pauses go by till he comes back to... (120 words)