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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Getting close to my daughter's dad again and I'm so confused

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4804 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My ex bf Josh and I have a 5 yr old daughter together. We started dating when I was 16 yrs old and he was 18 yrs old. I got pregnant when I was 19 (she wasn't planned). We mutally decided to break up 2 yrs ago. I'm not really sure why we decided to, we just knew that it was ... (647 words)

I want him to propose. Should I hint or just wait?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - hi you agony aunts and uncles back again for some of your great advice, i was just wondering, me and my man been LDR for over two years now we are fully committed and i am moving to be near him soon, and we are eventually moving in together, this house i got near him is just a ... (218 words)

I'm 13 and I have feelings for a 20 year old man

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4834 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - So im 13 going to be 14 and there is this guy that i like but hes 20 and he knows that i like him and he says im not supposed to but i seriously like him i can't stop thinking about him. He always listens to my problems and try's to protect me. He knows its illegal until a ... (122 words)

Is my husband just joking when he says he wants threesomes?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4834 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - so i(23) been married to my husband(31) for 7 months now, when we went to a club and partied with friends, my husband (drunk) jokingly said "did you find someone to have a threesome with yet?" im like "haha no" ( im drunk ).. as he said that, i totally was upset inside becuase ... (320 words)

How can I tell my family that I'm bi-sexual?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - hi im bisexual and i want tell my family but there really old fashioned and they would reject me in seconds what should i do... (31 words)

She wants me to visit her in USA. She does not know I had a criminal record in the past which may prevent me getting a visa

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4835 days ago

25 September 2011 (M)

age - A month ago I got a letter from a female I met in Florida back in 2003. Truth be told,I have always wondered what could have been. I have been invited over. Her family are bending over backwards for me. My problem being,I have a criminal record. It was nearly 30 years ago,but ... (129 words)

My girlfriend is still in love with her ex. Should I break up with her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I will try to make this as short as i can... My gf still feels something for the ex...more specifically love...now...it would be normal in a long relationship...but she was with him 4 months only...and wasted a year trying to win him back...and then eventually after... (285 words)

He is giving me mixed signals

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F) age 30-35 - I'm confused by the mixed signals this guy is giving me. I don't think it's anything but afew of my friends are convinced there is something in it. We had a brief stint in the summer but he only wanted me as a rebound girl so we stopped talking. We haven't spoken for at least a ... (169 words)

One of my college friends is a girl and my GF is really freaking out over it

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I am in college and have only made 2 friends since starting. one of them is a girl. i am not attracted to her more than a friend. i am deeply in love with my girlfriend and would never want anyone else but she keeps on accusing me of wanting to date other women. she freaked out ... (287 words)

How would I go about approaching you and how could I get the conversation flowing?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4834 days ago

25 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm turning 18 in a few weeks so I am looking to go out and meet new people. However, I'm rubbish at actually doing this. In a group of males I'm fine because we all have common ground sports, girls, games etc. When it comes to chatting to new women though I get too nervous ... (244 words)

I've been hoping we'd lead to marriage but haven't seen him since 2008!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4805 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am in a Long distance relationship. I met someone back in 2007 he was here on contract from the states and we worked in the same department for a yr, anyways cut short we started dating and he went back and i promised him i would come to the states in summer 2008 and ... (447 words)

He asked to marry me but I told him it was lust not love. Help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - hi all i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for six years but i dont think i love him. i just love our sex life. he feel more like a good friend then a boyfriend. i think all we have is lust and friendship so whats the Difference between Love and Lust. help pls he ... (143 words)

I want us to be officially a couple, but he doesn't want to talk about it

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - okay so im a bit confused about this guy i really like. ill start from the beginning... we hit it off right away, we have an undeniable spark and it was him that pointed this out at the start. he called me beautiful and we had amazing laughs together. weve now been seeing e... (372 words)

I am jealous that my friend can get more guys than I can. Also I have some lesbian fantasies

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I am only 13 and I am totally into guys. See the thing is I have a gorgeous face, but I am a little chubby, not like extremely fat, but I am like 30lb. overweight but no guys like me. My friend has the most ugly face ever but she has huge boobs and she is really skinny. All ... (158 words)

I dislike my mother's partner

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age - I dislike my partner's mother. What do I do? We never got off to a good start. When I met my partner his mother felt that I should be visiting her all the time, like his ex wife did. Not knowing if the relationship would last I did not want to do this and that's where... (357 words)

Is a woman who doesn't want kids doomed to be single forever?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F) age 41-50 - Is a woman (who's 33 in two months)who doesn't want a man with kids doomed to be single forever? I am in the process of splitting from a father of two who i have been with for two years. experience has taught me that i'm too insecure to embrace the situation a blended family... (195 words)

I have led this guy on, just to get me over my ex. I don't really like him though. How can I let him down gently?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F) age 30-35 - Last week I followed some really bad advice and it's got me in trouble. A friend said to get over my ex I should casually try flirting with other guys. So I did this and a guy sent me a message asking for my number, I asked for my girls advice cus I dont really like him but ... (190 words)

How do let a girl know she is precious to you?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - It's one year since your 1st date. You've been generally happy together. What do you do to show your girlfriend how much she means to you? Do you still make it obvious to her and the world that she's most precious to you? ... (45 words)

Can sperm swim in water?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I know this is a bit of a daft question, but can sperm swim in water? Like if you're fooling around in the bath and the guy comes, if you're not on any sort of contraception is there a risk, however slight, of getting pregnant? Thanks for any answers! :)... (50 words)

I can't have sex with my husband because his fantasy is his secretary!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - my husband fantasize his secretry so i am very upset when they are alone i feel they are involved in sex thats why i cannot have normal sex with my husband i am very upset what should i do... (41 words)

I'm 13, he's 18. Would it be ok to date him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4835 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - i always feel a lot older than i am. me and this guy like each other and flirt a lot, and it might lead to a relationship but we're just seeing how things go as hes 18, im 13 and we don't want to rush into anything. i know it would be illegal to have sex, but i've already told ... (106 words)

What does this mean in male language?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4833 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am/was seeeing this guy for about 3 weeks and then he sends me a text last friday saying "youre really full on, i think we should cool it for a bit. im not ready for this sort of thing. sorry x" What does this mean in male language? Does it mean we're completely over? Also, ... (242 words)

An employee is sending me texts asking me out to dinner, and this started on my second day!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4823 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Alright... so this week I started my new job and I was just trying to get used to everyone and get to know the employees since I am the new supervisor. This one employee passed me a note that said "dinner?" while I was sitting at my desk and it really put me off since I found ... (166 words)

Is it realistic for me to want to date a guy of a certain build when I know I'll never be that slender myself?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4835 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - so am so attracted to really tall thin lanky guys... not stick thin but like a naturally thin guy. Like an "Adam Levine", "John Mayer", "Jared Followill" type of thin looking guy. Thing is I am nowhere near thin. I have never been thin...wont ever be thin despite the fact that ... (298 words)

I'm freaked out that I'm fantasizing about a man who came onto me 10 years ago!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (M)

age - i am 52 and find myself fantising about men one who came onto me about ten years ago and i cant seem to shake that i told him no way i am so confused and love women and their bodies Help... (41 words)

I don't know what I do about this girl!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - so there is this girl that i like and her friend too. we are all christian, and in some classes too and i dont know what to do, let alone how to ask out a girl.......i dont want things to get awkward either....what do i do?... (46 words)

Am I in the wrong for not wanting this help pushed on me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, i'm at a low point at the moment in my life and this has only come about withing the last few days. This may be long!! I am married and my hubby is currently away on tour, our welfare team (set up to deal with any issues) has organised day trips out but i find these click... (389 words)

Should he and I just break up for good or try to work things out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi ! I've been dating my boyfriend on and off for the last two years and I'm starting to seriously hate him. I love him so much that its growing into hate. When we break up we are still friends. We still hangout as if we are still dating. We just got back together a little over ... (309 words)

Is my girfriend a psycho?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4830 days ago

25 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - 6 months back I caught my girlfriend cheating me on Facebook chat . She was doing that for like one week. When I got to know , I cried like hell and didn't say anything more than "you shouldn't have done this" to her such was my love for her. I gave her the ownership of my ... (448 words)

I have only had sex with my current boyfriend, am I missing out on experiencing sex with other guys?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4264 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - ok so i am currently in a relationship with my boyfriend. im 23 and hes the only person ive had sex with and dated! and hes 24 and i am not his first, im his 13th sex object. right now in our relationship were happy, i know he loves me, he was the first to say it. i love him ... (374 words)

Can I get my ex back?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4835 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i'm mad at my ex 3 weeks ago and when he said hey to me, i ignored him. then no contact. even if we met, he avoided me. about 2 weeks ago,i called and told him we could still be friends, we don't have to avoid each other. but like 5 days later, i regret, i txt him,said i missed ... (151 words)

Can you lose your virginity from too much porn?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - if u watch too much porn and have a little blood coming out from downtheir what does it mean? can you loose your virginity by seeing too much porn???... (29 words)

I can't decide between these two!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am in a predicament where I must choose between two people. First of all I have been dating one guy (Person # 1) for a year. Before we started dating I had to break up with another guy who i was casually dating (Person 2). Person 1 is great, but he really wants to take the ... (334 words)

How can I deal with the criticism I'm going to get? How can we work it out in the future?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4835 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I broke up with my boyfriend two years on Friday, because he thought it was getting too intense and serious for two year 11's we were arguing a lot. It was done really nicely and he said if I ever needed anything he'd be there for me, I was the best thing that ever happ... (311 words)

Will she ever want or like sex?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (M)

- Mainly want female answers. How normal is it for a girl to just not like any sexual things at all? My girlfriend says she hates the feeling of sex and anything to do with it, she is not a virgin (I am) but she just simply hates it, she has never masturbated or had an orgasm. I... (84 words)

I really don't love him. I need to get over him. He's moved on. I have not. How do I stop wanting to stalk him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4832 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So recently i ended my relationship with this guy..it was mainly because i didnt get really good grades that i wanted and i totally blame the guy for it..because he always thought i could carry on with my studies and would do great blah blah..but i didnt..so i was annoyed on ... (194 words)

Is it okay to feel this way? sometimes it feels like a FWB, yet when with him the sex is amazing.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Sometimes my boyfriend feels more like a friend with benefits or something. I love him to pieces, I trust him completely, he understands me better than anyone; in short, he's the best mate I could ever wish for. But thinking of the fact that we're supposed to be dating always ... (317 words)

Two weeks later he is not replying. Was I too hasty not letting him go further?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Was I being to harsh on the guy? we were dating for two months and we were kissing all the time through the dates but I wouldn't let him go any further on our last date, however I let him touch me down there, and it was fine. we havent seen each other in nearly 2 weeks an... (107 words)

Retaliation sex, what's your opinion?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone. Just wanted to know what people thought about retaliation sex in a relationship. If you know your partner has cheated on you in the past, even if they minimized it saying they never penetrated the woman, is it ok to have the same type of relationship with som... (69 words)

The man I loved made a complete volte-face after marriage and my life is hell with him. What do I do?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4831 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I kindly need your opinion regarding my marriage situation.I have been married for 5 years with the man I loved with all my heart.We've been together for 11 years prior to marriage(since high school).We couldn't marry and live together because of circumstances out of our ... (1196 words)

He's moving away, and this could be our last chance of a relationship, help! Do I give it a chance?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey, any advice would be appreciated! right, first of all I'll tell you the basic story. I'm with this guy. I met him in college, he's similar to me in things like music, and our views on things, I get on well with his family and he does with mine which is important to me. ... (519 words)

Where do I find the courage? Should I message him? What should I say?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - OK, I really like this guy and ive liked him for ages. i mean years. i havent spoken to him much at all, well, maybe a couple of conversations a few months back. several months ago, i added him on facebook, but i still cant find the courage to talk to him yet. i think he know... (195 words)

Should I call this girl who I think my husband had an affair with? He says he didn't cheat.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4835 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hello everyone! Well I need advice. I believe my husband has had an affair, over an 8 month period. I have asked him 3 different times, and he has denied any wrong doing. He became irate and said that men and women can be friends without having sex. Even though the girl, frie... (104 words)

He is hot and cold and confusing me. What am I supposed to make of him by his actions?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - hi, this probably sounds stupid but anyways i'll just get on with it. i have beeen talking to this guy for ages and he lives where i live and hes calling me babe nd sending a lot of x's nd he asked to meet/kiss me. i said ok so when it got to the day he brought his friends and ... (183 words)

My boyfriend drinks a lot. Am I right to be worried?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - What should i do? My boyfriend is always sitting at the bar drinking, like everytime i talk to him .. im like ' Hey what are you doing ? ' , and he is always like at the bar .. or having drinks with my friends .. and he already got in trouble from the law about drinking and ... (216 words)

I sexted another girl. my girlfriend dumped me but says she will always love me. I don't understand these mixed signals

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I dont understand my break up at all. My girlfriend broke up with me because I screwed up. I was drunk and went on my computer and facebook sexted a girl I wasnt supposed to talk to at all. I wasnt aloud to talk to this girl so I didnt. I wasnt friends with her on facebook ... (606 words)

Is 5 inches small?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - hi im 16 and about 250 lbs and i was curious is "5 inches" small? cause tats me........ (18 words)

I love him, but my family says he's from a lower caste!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4829 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - im 19. In love with this guy who is also 19.im a roman catholic. My parents are dead against our match. They say he is from a low cast family and the family is not suitable for me. His family has accepted me and they love me absolutely. We have had fights abt this a couple of ... (197 words)

Does anal sex change your butt?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - What happens if you have anal sex? Does your butt get bigger?... (12 words)

Does he like me, or is he just a flirt?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - The guy that I like took my phone the other day in class and was like, "I'm gonna give you my number okay? Where's the heart symbol?" and I was like hahah what? He gives me back my phone and he saved himself in my address book as "hisname3" I was so surprised (and happy) and ... (238 words)

This guy is so decent and respected my boundaries. Is he interested?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - If a guy in a club/bar talks to you for a while, genuinely taking an interest in you. But yet, he doesn't try anything with you (proper flirting, holding your hand, putting his arm around you, touching your shoulder or leg) that kind of thing. It's just them talking but yet ... (131 words)

Should I tell my perfect match that I wear coloured lenses?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I don't know how to go about this. I met this guy who is amazing in so many ways, it is shocking how good looking he is!! But more so that he is on the same wavelength as me and i've never met anybody who has been more of a perfect match for what i've wanted in a guy, never. We ... (214 words)

How do you know if the love is real and if it's worth the chase?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - How do you know if love is real. What if you accidently find it and think its right, but do you go with the words you hear or what you feel in your heart and if she is gone is she worth the chase?... (44 words)

Boyfriend says he loves me, but settling down with me fills him with dread

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4837 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, i know ive posted a similar question about this problem before but here it is. I had an abortion in May 2010 and since then and especially recently i have had the overwhelming desire to have a baby. Part of me now is desperate for a child and i cry and get upset becaus... (378 words)

I would like to kiss this girl tomorrow

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - So I am 15 and there is a girl I like who is 14. We both go to different high school and we have hung out a few times and we text/talk on the phone all the time. Well a month ago she told me in a text that she thought I was hot and this gave me an idea that maybe I really do ... (181 words)

I get turned on hearing about my girlfriend's exes...how do I get her to talk about it for me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4837 days ago

25 September 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I really want my girlfriend to tell me about her past sexual experiences during sex. After hearing a little bit about her previous relationships, I want to hear more. It's not that I want her to sleep with another man, just that I want her to use her sexual past to turn us both ... (68 words)

Should I just stick to my gut about ignoring him if there is contact?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4837 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I got into an argument like 2 weeks ago, said we weren't going to see each other but we ended up seeing each other and getting back together.We have been going out for 4 years now. Anyways, I'm confused and annoyed and angry because he doesn't appreciate me, ... (293 words)

He thinks I'm cute and funny but he said he doesn't want a girlfriend!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I am in 8th grade and I've had this crush on a guy for about 4 months. He hasn't really showed any interest in me ,but my friends catch him staring at me when I have my back to him all the time. We used to text eachother all the time, but lately not at all and I couldn't stand ... (155 words)

How do you change your entire personality?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello, I myself am a really lonely individual, I don't have any girls that are friends guys that are friends, don't have any girlfriends. I think the problem is my personality. Here's what my personality is. I like doing dorky loser things like, star gazing, looking through my ... (605 words)

How can I know that my virgin girlfriend is really ready for sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4836 days ago

25 September 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - My gf and I met through mutal friends, I knew she was a virgin and planned to stay that way until she met`the perfect guy`` before we started dating.I am 23, she is 21. Its been over a year (14 months) and I respect her decision about sex. I will admit that after some pretty ... (404 words)