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writes:I posted this question earlier, but did not get manty replies. I hope it's not violating any rules by posting it again... any help is appreciated.Hi. I have a question about a girl I like.We work together in the same office. She likes to leave silly drawings on my desk, and has even drawn on my hands and arms at times (in front of other people). She can be quite touchy-feely and likes to hug me or pretend shove me. She texted me to wish me happy birthday recently (she got my cell number off someone else prior to this). The texts were really informal, calling me by my short name and had lots of x's in them. She even sent a text (the last one) consisting just of x's in them. When I saw her a few days later, she had a birthday card for me too.She's been working with me a little more of late, staying behind late at the office to help me out. One of our colleagues was leaving for a new job, and the girl asked me if I wanted us to put money together to get a gift and a card for the leaver. She didn't ask anyone else to contribute to it, despite there being 2 floors of employees. We have very similar humor and laugh a lot when we're together. She remembers jokes I made weeks before and stories I've told her but totally forgotten myself. She just puts me in a good mood.Also, at a seminar, our boss was discussing relationships in the workplace, and the girl asked a question about couples and used me and her as an example of a couple!I should highlight that she has a bf, and so I would not make a move on her. However, when she does talk about him, it's quite negative and critical of him. Also, she is very friendly, kind and outgoing to everyone.My question is, is she being friendly, harmless flirting, or is it more?Any help is welcomed.Thanks.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (28 October 2011):
 Well it sounds like she likes you - but whether she wants to cheat on her boyfriend is another matter. So it is either flirting or she wants more, but because we are not inside her head we cant tell you any more than this I'm afraid.
Whatever she is doing, her behaviour is wrong for someone that has a boyfriend, if he found any of her text to you then I'm sure he would be very upset.
I think it is a good idea for you to try and keep your distance as much as possible, you are entering into rough territory here and things could get messy. So make sure you are not flirting with her at all, be polite and professional but nothing more.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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