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female
age
30-35,
*anderlust92
writes:I think my boyfriend is addicted to online games. He plays at least 8 hours a day, sometimes with his friends, sometimes with me, sometimes by himself. Right now it's mostly LoL and DoD. He used to play WoW but quit, only because he couldn't afford it. He's 24 and he doesn't go to school or have a job. He claims he plays to destress and I understand that to a point, but how much do you have to destress when you don't do anything all day?!?! He's also overweight and addicted to cigarettes and he keeps telling me he knows he needs to change these things, but it's always "tomorrow." When he gets sick of playing games he goes out with the friends he plays with and squanders the little money he has at the bar. It's especially hard right now because we're in a long distance relationship and live 600 miles apart. It's my fault that this is the case too, but I felt like I had to go to college. I need to be able to support myself financially because quite frankly, I don't think he's going to be able to, at least not at first. I think he thinks it's okay for him to ignore me for games since I'm "ignoring" him for school.He used to act like he cared what I was doing up here and he would talk to me and ask me how my day was and take interest in what I was working on. Now it's a struggle to ever get his attention unless I'm naked on Skype. Even Skyping while he's playing doesn't work, because he's also on Vent. talking to whomever he's playing with so he doesn't pay much attention to me. I've tried talking to him, many times, and he calls me possessive and jealous and it always starts fights. I'm at the end of my rope. He's saying all the right things but doing none of them and he's making me feel like shit for not believing him and focusing on his actions instead of what he's telling me.What should I do?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 October 2011):
 If you are unhappy and there are no signs that he is trying to change his ways well then maybe it is best to go your separate ways. Long distance relationships are hard at the best of times never mind with all of this on top of it. So maybe it is time to show him just how fed up you are off his behaviour and tell him that it is over.
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