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writes:So I have been seeing the love of my life for about a year and a half, we get along great, we have differences of course but never really fight and I thought things were good aside from the fact that he plays competitive baseball and we don't see each other as often as I would like. Now I knew this when we started seeing each other but this season has been different and he played alot more and we wouldn't see each other for weeks, I miss his terribly and after not seeing him for a month I was feeling down and asked him if he missed me, I figured he did but I guess I just wanted to hear it, for him to confirm that he misses me too. So he got mad at me because we've talked about how he is busy with baseball and it stresses him out and makes him feel bad when I question him like this because it's not the first time and he said he didn't want to do this anymore. So we broke up, it's been about a month and a half and we sort of talk (emial and text really) and he says he doesnt know what he wants not to wait for him but that he does still love me. So after all my rambling my question is, is he just trying to be nice but really wants nothing to do with me? I mean right before this happen we were talking about moving in together and our future. I keep trying to figure this out, am I just setting myself for more heart break when he tells me he's seeing someone, please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2011): As its over then no contact would be best.
You need to focus on you now, not him and what he is doing. His sport takes priority and thats his passion - hes been kind and let you go,not left you dangling and waiting around.
So, take the first steps to re-building your life, finding something you are passionate about, friends to go out with,or invite to yours. Slowly but surely you will miss and think about him less, its never easy but you will have a new life eventually and a new man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2011): Obviously, you are more in love than he is. Is it better to love or to be loved? Only you can answer this. No harm in not moving in together.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 October 2011):
 Really nobody can answer about how he feels only him. So am afraid nobody on here is going to have the answers that you are looking for. It is clear though from what you have wrote that he has just no time in his life at the moment for a girlfriend. He wants to lead a life where sport is his only priority and he broke up with you due to this, so this obviously comes before you. If I am honest if he really loved you he would be doing everything in his power to try and win you back, but he is not, that should tell you something. I think you should move on with your life and put him in your past. Who knows what the future holds but for now I think you need to accept that it is over and move forward with your life, if you are still hurting the best thing to do is to cut all contact until you are feeling better. Good luck.
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