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writes:Please help and offer me your advice. What should or can I do?My dad spoke to me once about his death. He said he was afraid of never seeing his granchildren, really afraid. He said 'We don't make old blood' with a serious, sad face. (It means we die young).He said he was afraid he would never get the chance to walk down the aisle with his girls, even one of us, even once. He said he had been dreaming and imagining it since the first time he held each of us. His big moment he called it. He said he would know then that he had done it right. He said he wanted to dance with his daughter on the happiest day of her life. Just once, just one dance.It was sweet.But it all comes down to time. He seemed to be telling me he doesn't think he has a lot left. So whats a girl to do?I have a bf who I live with for three years, we are financially okay. I am 25, hes slightly older with a good job. He recently mentioned he can afford now to have a child. He is 'the one' and he says I am too. I do not want to live with regrets. But.. I do not want to force my bf to move forward too quickly..My dad is my world. He has done everything possible for me and my family and I love him more than he will ever truly realise. I try to show him everyday how much I value him, but this seems to be the one thing I could do for him (and I will do it anyway in time). And I am ready for kids and a marriage, so should I talk to my bf seriously about this or what should I do?Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (28 October 2011):
 If you feel that you are ready well then yes that is good, it is such a lovely story that your dad told you, and I am sure that it did touch your heart in many ways. But don't use it as pressure to get married straight away and have children. Have you any reasons to believe that your dad doesn't have that much time left on this planet? Has he reached an old age or does he have any illnesses or life threatening diseases? If not then I wouldn't panic and look in to it to much because he may not be trying to tell you that he doesn't have much time left he probably just wants to share with you his plans and dreams for his girls.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor  +, writes (28 October 2011):
 I'm sorry to hear that your dad doesn't have much time left. But you shouldn't feel forced to do something that you're not ready for- including having a child. You should only go forward with this after you've spoken to your boyfriend, both of you feel ready, and truly believe it's the right time.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 October 2011):
 Stop letting your Father dictate how your life goes.. and live it on your OWN behalf....Be good to your Father.... but keep him - and his veiled requests - at arm's length....Good luck.....
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