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writes:Hello,I do not really understand men. I met this guy in a party as he was with my friends. We talked and he mentioned about going out sometime. Then we got drunk and we slept together. I thought it was a mistake but what is done is done and i didn't think too much.Three weeks later he asked my friends for my number, they gave it to him and made a bit fun of him about he having my number now. This was last sunday.He never called me. Why do you ask for numbers you do not plan to use. I mean i would understand if he had gotten my number the night we went out but why asking now and then go silent ??
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (29 October 2011):
 Because he has pegged you as a " just in case ". Meaning,
he will have appreciated your night together, and would not mind to hang out again for a few encores.. some time. But, there's no rush.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (29 October 2011):
 Because he is shy, and a bloke. He obviously thought about you after the event, and then in a bold moment got your number, but never got up the guts to call you. Just wait. It took him 3 weeks to get your number. Maybe it will take him 3 (or more) weeks to call ... you can't do much else, except get his number and call him.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (29 October 2011):
Hi there. Perhaps he was a bit too drunk the night you slept together. He might not have had the presence of mind at the time to even consider it.
Even if his friends did have a go at him for asking for your number, if he really wants to get back in contact with you, he will I promise you. Otherwise, he wouldn't have bothered.
It has been almost a week now, but that's nothing. Perhaps he's considering his options.
You jumped into bed with him pretty easily, didn't you? Admittedly, yes you were both a bit drunk, so that made it easier for it to happen.
However on the other side of the coin, he might be wondering how often this happens with you. Like do you jump into bed with just any guy you happen to meet. So if he is thinking that, he might be wondering if he could even trust you to stay faithful.
And truthfully, you really couldn't blame him for thinking that way, could you?
So don't be surprised if it is a little bit longer before you do hear from him. I'm not talking months, more like another week or two - just while he has a really good think about the possibility of being with you and whether he considers you to be girlfriend material by his standards.
So don't give up on him just yet. He wouldn't be asking for your phone number just to pass the time of day. There is always a reason why people do things.
And if he's genuinely interested in seeing you again, he won't let his friends making light fun of him, stand in his way. He'll follow his own path, regardless.
Whatever you do, DO NOT try to get in touch with him. That's a big "No-No". That would greatly lessen your chances, and could actually chase him away altogether!
In spite of modern times, men always like to do the pursuing - NOT the other way around.
The thing about getting in contact with a man straight after meeting them, unfortunately makes a woman look needy and desperate. And men really don't like that at all. Not only does it make a woman seem that way, it can also make them appear to be controlling. Another thing that men don't like.
So for now, your best course of action is to sit tight and be patient - as far as contact is concerned - and be your own person and do your own thing, seeing your own friends (not this group), have fun and enjoy life.
I realize you are a part of the social group as you have said, but just for a couple of weeks, don't hang out in that group - because he could be there, and you don't want any awkward moments - and if you do see any of those friends at other times, whatever you do DON'T ask how is this guy you like. That's also a desperate move. Because it WILL get back to him, definitely.
The main thing of course, is not to stress out over it.
Or, another option is you could go out to your usual haunts the hotel or club or whatever it is, and be with this group of friends as per usual, and if he is there, pretend you don't know he asked for your phone number - like it didn't happen. And also, pretend like you never slept together that night. And act like that night never was.
So then you are effectively seeing each other for the first time.
And so you don't spoil any chance you might actually have with him, DON'T whatever you do sleep with him on that night. Yes, you can talk to him and just become friends and start from the very beginning. Build a good rapport with him. Then, see how it goes from there. He might ask you personally, for your phone number. And that's even better!
And of course, don't mention to him, that he asked his mates for your number - and then didn't call you. Remember, you don't know about that.
It's a case of starting afresh, from this point.
Why I mention about NOT sleeping with him, is because it will put you in the spot where you started. And that is NOT what you want, is it?
So just play the game carefully from now on, be your own person PLUS be independent, slightly unpredictable and confident. And NOT too available either. Within reason, of course. Just enough to make it interesting and a slight challenge for him. Men love a woman who is a challenge - it makes life interesting!
These are very precious qualities in a woman, which men really value highly.
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