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writes:someone please help, I really don't know what's going on right now.last year I liked this guy, we got along amazingly, a had a bit of a thing for him. to make a long story short, I found out through mutual friends that I wasn't his type (physically). I accepted it, and was completely alright with being friends with him. since then we havent seen each other much, he's had gf's and flings, didn't bother me.about a month ago I went on a blind date with someone (my friend, let's call him dean, knew about it). I hadn't seen dean in a month and that day he showed up at my house, saying (jokingly) he was gonna wait on my porch with ato scare this guy away. I thought it was cute, and fell under a protective friend category. then things got weird. a couple days later I had my blind date over, he shows up again, he just stands there staring me and this guy down, not saying anything. then he gets all huffy and frustrated, says he's got better things to do and leaves. i didn't know what to think.after that I hardly saw him, but he constantly kept asking my relatives if I was still seeing my "boy toy". to begin with me and him were never great friends, we were never so closed that we asked how each others lives were etc. it was more like we'd say hi if we saw each other, hang out if we ended up and the same place type thing. he asks other people how I am, never asks me. again, weird. today we both ended up at a friends place, haven't talked in months. I kept catching him looking at me, even when I wasn't talking, just to see my reactions. then he asks "will you drive to ... with me?" completely takes me off guard. I ask why, he won't say, he just says "yes or no? just say yes!" so I agree, he still doesn't tell me why. then it comes up that he met a girl online, he's "in love" with her. she lives in this place, and he's going I meet her for the first time. then get this, the reason he wants me to come is because me and her are so much alike. isn't that odd? I mean, if he and I were best friends it would make sense for him to want me to go. but we're not. and wouldn't it be weird to bring another girl along?! I'm confused, he basically just told me he's in love with a girl just like me and he wants me to meet her.then, a little bit later, he asks if I'd come out with him for his birthday party (not in a date way, just wanting me to come) we've never gone anywhere together, then he asks me 2 times in one night.I thought my feelings for him were gone, but I feel like I could cry right now I'm so confused. what's his deal?!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 October 2011):
 OK well going right back to last year when you had a crush on him you said mutual friends said you weren't his type. But did those words actually come from his mouth? If not well then I really wouldn't have took what they said and believed it. The poor guy might never have been asked anything and at the end of the day am a firm believer if you like someone well then you should go after them and keep friends out of it.
OK so moving forward a bit you both begin to hang out together and get to know each other a little more and become friends. Maybe not close friends but friends never the less. You got over your feels which is fair enough. My guess is that he started looking at you in a different light and maybe started liking you as more than a friend. Off course he never took it any further and still just acted like a friend around you.
Fast forward to you going on a date, he drops a hint that he wants to scare the guy off but you still don't pick up in his message, he waits around like a love sick puppy, but you go out with this guy any way and then he gets huffy and walks off. Still you don't click on. In his eyes he tried and now you are dating someone else so he gives up and goes and sulks for a while.
He stays a way from you for a while, and meets himself another girl on line. See's you and tells you that she is like you and wants you to come along. OK so my guess is that he may be trying to make you jealous by flaunting another girl in front of you, or else he is using this girl as a way of spending more time with you. Maybe he is just waiting to see how you act so he knows if you have feelings for him or not.
Put an end to all of these games now and what ifs. If you like him well then it is time to be brave and just tell him the truth about how you feel. It is better just to have it out in the open so just be honest to yourself and to him and tell him the truth.
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