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writes:I need a little advice. I met a guy on a match making site, we both are newbies to the online dating. Initially, I did the contacting and he responded. I was intrigued by his responses. After a few messages, I didn't hear from him again. (we were using the match making site to communicate). I decided to send him a message to let him know that I really enjoyed speaking with him and would love to get to know him better. He responded in 12 days. He gave me his email address for his workplace. He works at sea, and its easier to communicate that way.We have been communicating regularly for about 3 weeks now, back and forth, every 2 days or so. We started sharing personal stories etc. His mother passed away when he was younger and my grandmother passed away last year October and it has been hard on me this month. So he gave me words of encouragement etc. In our conversations, we never really exchanged personal information, like telephone number, or physical street address, but I knew where he grew up and where he lives currently, and he also knows where i'm from and where i'm staying now. But we seemed to have made a connection.I know he was to return home this week, and I haven't heard from him in over a week. The longest he has ever taken to respond is 4 days. In the last email i sent to him I asked him about his feelings on ldr and whether we should probably talk via telephone.(i'm still waiting) He had said in his previous email that he had a new cell waiting on him at home and when he got home, he will add msn im and yahoo im and if I had, we could communicate. I told him no problem in the last email i sent to him. Thing is I have no idea what his personal email address is.I'm a bit worried about him, and I'm not sure if I should even be worried. I'm not sure if he's ignoring me now he's home, (I don't even know if he even got home)or if he has no access to his work email.(if he's home) I'm no longer a member of the match making website, and I do not want to continue or renew membership. Out of all my matches, he was the ONLY one to stand out.I guess I'm afraid I'll never speak with him again. Even if we don't make it in a relationship,(i don't even know if I like him that way) he seems like such a nice guy that I could really use as a friend.(he's so easy to talk to)I have done some research and found him on a social website, but there has been no activity for about 2 weeks on it. Do I send him another message? Or do I just leave everything as it is?What should I do? Advice is needed.
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reader, 1sunshine  +, writes (28 October 2011):
 I was doing the online dating thing for a little while. I noticed that the guys that I talked to, were also juggling talking to other woman. I also did the same thing, just kind of seeing what was out there. I don't know if that is the case with you... I know that after a little while of chatting online, if really interested, we would exchange phone numbers and then go from there. If I were you? I would wait until you reached one week of not speaking to him. Start talking and chatting with other guys, keep yourself busy, even if they just end up being friends. You never know, maybe he will get in touch again. If not, maybe he's not the guy you thought he was all along... Good luck!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 October 2011):
 Well it could be a case that he has no access to his works email now I'm not sure how that works. But my guess is that if he was really serious about you well then he would make the effort to contact you. He may just be busy and hasn't been on the internet who knows, or maybe he was just using you as a bit of company while he was away at sea from his family and friends. This is the worst thing about internet dating, it is always hard to tell. Try and add him on the social networking site as a friend and leave it at that. He will get an email notification to tell him you are trying to add him as a friend, and then leave it up to him.
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