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writes:Im 29 and im at that point of life where im worried that things wont turn out they way I had hoped! I have a 7 yr old daughter which I had from a serious 5 yr relationship. Since that ended 5 yrs ago I just have had so bad luck with men, all the blokes just use you and take advantage of my good nature, where as im looking to settle down. I would love another child and I have done for the last few yr but cant find the right man! Im 30 next yr and I worry that im gonna be to old if I dont find someone in the next few yrs! What if I dont ever become happy and live unfullfilled? Its so hard when your friends are getting married and having babies .x Reply to this Question
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reader, 1sunshine  +, writes (28 October 2011):
 Well hopefully this will make you feel better :)
I didn't have my daughter until I was 33 y.o and have a son now also. I am going through divorce right now and just turned 40. I am starting all over again ( single mom with 2 kids ) and have no idea of what is gonna happen... Be happy you have your daughter, some people don't ever have children. I am so happy I have mine in my life :) Just be patient and live everyday the best that you can... ;) Things will happen for you
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (28 October 2011):
 I am 28, and have never been in a serious relationship, so I totally understand how you feel - except from my point of view you have already experienced far more than me. You have been in a 5 yr relationship and have a child.
It is very easy to look at others and say "its not fair" and assume that everyone else has more than you do. Sometimes you need to look at what you DO have.
I totally understand how hard it is to be single, and watch all your friends marry off and settle down, whilst feeling like you are being left on the shelf. I have a daily battle with my emotions about being alone for the rest of my life. It is something that makes me very very sad.
But you have to be strong. You have a life to lead and wallowing (whilst often the easiest thing to do) is not the RIGHT thing to do. Get on with your life. Hopefully the right man will come along when it is the right time (that is the hope I cling to anyway).
Would you rather end up in a bad relationship and end up divorced later on?
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reader, Godchild +, writes (28 October 2011):
I think the right one will come along. Just have patience. I know its hard to see all your friends married and happy. Keep in mind your on the outside looking in. I just turn thirty, and im getting divorce. Dont rush into anything because you think you dont have time. One thing for sure u have time for the right one to come along. For now enjoy your child u have and your single life. Someone will feel that void. Be happy with yourself and give yourself fulfillment before u expect someone else to make you whole. One thing about marriage is u become one but some people lose themselves because they wasnt a whole person before marriage. They expected the other person to make their life whole.
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