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writes:Dear all aunts,I wrote months ago to seek for insight if a guy i met online is real or not, he claimed a US military service man, well the result is, same as all aunts had reminded, this is a fake guy! Althought i had take alert but still i eventually believed in him, and my heart is torn to pieces when i know the truth just few days ago. I felt myself is a joke, i feel myself is a total failure, i believed in his words, though i did not follow his words to transfer him money to declare his package, but i did quit my job tried to wait for his coming on his said date, now i lost my job, and all in my mind still thinking what i had planned when he comes and do this and do that, and how he can comfort my parents and how good are our future gonna be, i know i just obtain such result all by myself. I come to 40 next year and i feel bitter i still could not meet a guy who can marry, i feel heavily wounded, and i feel no one can understand how i feel, i cannot face my future, i wanted to have my own children but everything seems to impossibile now if this moment still cannot meet a guy, sorry i just want a place for me to ventilate, and give me some advise of how to face my future, and how to do if i want to meet a right guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much of your comments,yes i feel myself is totally a fool and i could not forgive myself, this ruined my life totally, i feel desperated and feel that my life will end up badly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2011): Well, start by getting your butt off the chair and off the computer and get out and meet people in places that you enjoy going..you are bound to meet people with the same interests. Second, there is nothing wrong with internet match sites as long as you choose a reputable one, and not the hook-up free ones. Be honest in your profile and in what you are looking for. More specifically what are your deal breakers, and at your age you probably have enough experience to know what those are for you. When communicating over the internet, within a week or so, if you find someone that is a possible match, make arrangements to meet them in person, in a public safe place for coffee or something simple. If the guy is serious about meeting someone, he will do the same. If the communicating is going on for weeks on end, the guy is a fraud, married, cheating, just looking for a easy hookup or just someone with too much time on their hands that has no real intent for anything but a cyber something. Don't fall for excuses. If he is serious, he will meet you right away.
When you do meet someone you have chemistry with? Don't sleep with them right away....wait, get to know them and if the guy is feeling the same, he will also wait. Don't chase anyone and don't be a door whore mat. Good men come to women who respect themselves. Good luck
Side note: I really cannot understand why people choose this avenue of meeting someone on line....there is so much warning info out there about this kind of stuff happening, and yet, so many fall for it anyway. Have people become so lazy, so insecure they will carry on with an internet stranger for months and months, never meeting them in person and not find that a bit off? It is mind boggling how anyone can say they have fallen in love with words and a picture of someone on a screen and never actually meeting the person. It's just sad. I really don't get it.
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