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writes:Hi! Okay. I'm in a LDR with my boyfriend of all of high school, we are 3rd years in college and 700 miles away. I have come to the recent revelation that I am no longer sexually attracted to him. I have told him this and he still wants to try to make things work. Is it worth it? It's been almost 6 years and he is my best friend; I love him but I am not sure if I am in love with him anymore.My boyfriend doesn't know that I have been having skype relations with a slightly older man I find extremely attractive. Nothing will come of it, the man is very far away and also has a girlfriend. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 October 2011):
 do not drag it out. be kind end it as soon as you can.
please do it nicely
do not do it by text
or email
if you can see each other over the thanksgiving holiday do it then...
do not lie to him now...
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (28 October 2011):
 You've outgrown the relationship so it's time to put an end to it. Trying to 'make it work' is just delaying the inevitable and it's your boyfriend's way of buying time until he's ready to let go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2011): Hi,LDR are hard. Hard to maintain and hard to do! Especially the sexual side of things!!Could that have affected things? Could it help if you weren't doing the LDR approach?Honestly, it sounds like you have reached the stage of no return anyway. You are moving on.This happens, college and life can change people and what they want. Don't feel bad. You have been honest with your bf.I've been in that place, where you are with someone but love them in a platonic way. They become your best friend, not a love interest. And honestly? Getting with someone new was the right thing for me. I was re-energised and happier than I was when I was trying to be 'in love' with someone who didn't sexually excite me anymore. Maybe it would be the right thing for you too!Ps. What exactly are these skype relations if the guy has a gf? Id say stop since they are pointless if you are just doing it because your into this guy.
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reader, Opalescent +, writes (28 October 2011):
End the relationship. I was in the exact same situation as you and unfortunatly you will most likely never find him attractive again. Its sad, but relationships do not work unless there is some form of attraction. Be honest with him, tell him how you feel, and leave. You started the relationship so young and to me it seems as if you are still in it because its comfortable and you don't want to see six years go down the toilet. But in all honesty, you will be happier with someone else.
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