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writes:Hiya, i'm 18 and been at uni for about a month. As you can imagine its a bit wild with freshers getting to know each other and everyone generally letting lose a bit, exchanging numbers etc etc.Anyway I met this one guy in a club, we danced a bit but I wasn't really that bothered. We chatted and exchanged numbers, and ended up sharing a taxi back as we live really close. We ended up texting a bit and met up a few times just to chat and hang out. He gave me his hoody, even though I didn't ask for it and insisted I keep it, even though he could have taken it back with him. He was never a big texter but I would get the occasional one to say hey and stuff.Anyway after we'd known each other a few weeks we ended up kissing, and he spent the night at mine. We didn't have sex, just talked and cuddled etc. Anyway now we see each other around a fair bit, and he's always lovely and friendly and we've been back to each others and stuff, but apart from when we are at the same places, he never messages me now or asks to meet up, and I don't quite understand if i'm being played by him or he's just a bit hopeless. I'm not assuming we're exclusive at all, and not wanting that, I don't mind having fun as long as he's curtious about it. If he wern't so nice i'd just think he wanted a ONS but he acts completly different to guys like that. I'm not sure what to think!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, you've put my mind at ease :-) I probably will drop a few hints about going somewhere else, just don't want to look stupid if all he want's is a bit of fun.I did try and steer him in the right direction, as I was leaving his last time I said 'text me later, yeah?' and he said he would. But didn't. Thats what makes me think i'm being played a bit, although its a bit ridiculous, because if all he wanted was sex then you'd think he'd send a text to keep me happy! I'm not obsessed with sending messages or anything, i'm just a bit insecure and if you spend a night with someone I just think its polite to check on them later! Rant over! Thanks again :D
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 October 2011):
 It sounds like he does like you, I really don't feel like he is playing you, he just probably is a little hopeless and is unsure on what to do or how to go around things. Why don't you take the lead and ask him out. If there is somewhere you would like to go or something you would like to do why not ask him would he like to join you, show him that you are interested and see what happens from there. Or if you are happy with the way things are at the moment well then that is good. But somehow I don't think you would be writing on here if you where happy about it. My guess is you really like him yeah? Well if that is true show him how you feel, flirt with him and hopefully he will show you the same back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2011): Hes probably a bit hopeless, not sure how to proceed, he clearly likes you so thats not an issue.I dont think he's playing you either.
He knows he will see you around so probably doesnt see the need to text or make plans. You can go at his pace,play it his way, or take the lead...ask him out to some venue with tickets - not just a Bar you would go to normally.See his reaction.
Or just ask him - whats the situation here.either way if your not exclusive you can see others and not put all your eggs in one basket, Uni is all new people and experiences and maybe he sees it like that too.
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