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writes:My boyfriend broke things off with me after 3 years saying that I am an "amazing" person but his "taste" has changed over the years since we have been together. What does that even mean?? I feel awful. I am a beautiful girl and was nothing but caring and loving to this man, who promised me a future together. :( Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (24 February 2014):
 It's not you it's him. He is not in love with you but he loves you and you are amazing you're just not the one for him.
He did you a favor. It doesn't feel like that right now but if he was not going to be able to be the man you needed him or wanted him to be what else could he do?
KUDOS to him for doing something so hard and painful instead of forcing you to end it with him for backing off on you and making you wonder what was up.
your pain will lessen with time... allow yourself the chance to grieve this loss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2014): It's nothing to do with you, how pretty you are or how great you are. He just doesn't love you and so doesn't want to be with you anymore. It sucks but it happens.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 February 2014):
 I think it was a version of, "it's not you, it's me" reason to break up.
Which isn't a reflection on YOU or your looks, more that he has found he wants either to pursue another girl or he wants to be single.
It will get better and as hard as it may be, try not to focus on his statement. Focus on the fact that it is over. Not every relationship works.
A guy who will promise you a future together is either a good con man (who knows what the ladies want to hear) OR he FELT in the moment he said it that you two would b together forever. Forever is a long time, honey. Specially if the feelings vanish. You don't want to be with a man, who really doesn't WANT to be with you, JUST because he said we will be together forever, so you?
Like YouWish said, take spend time with friends, let HIM go, physically and emotionally. Go out and have some fun.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (24 February 2014):
 Some relationships just run their course. People grow apart, and it's possible that he became interested in someone else and isn't a cheater. Either way, I'm sorry it didn't work out with you, and it's going to be tough. Get some of your friends and lean on them for comfort, because friends are fantastic for these sort of things.
The sun will rise, even though I know it doesn't feel like it.
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