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writes: I have a question for female readers from a middle aged guy. Do married women look forward to, or crave performing oral sex as a man might crave performing oral on a woman? Or, do most women who do it do it out of obligation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2006): I love to perform oral sex on my girlfriend. I love to see how happy she is. She never retruns the favor, but that does not matter to me.
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reader, Lorraine31 +, writes (1 November 2006):
 in my opinion its up to the individual. A lot of women would love the favour to be returned....What has your wife said?? Go give her a good night to remember!!!!
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reader, Rainee  +, writes (1 November 2006):
 It really just depends on the woman; every individual has their own preferences. I like to give and not receive and sometimes I do "crave" it, but I'm an exception. You hear a lot about guys complaining they don't get it enough, but the problem usually lies with the guys only wanting to take but not reciprocate. It can be quite annoying if all the guy is willing to do is sit there--how would you like that during the course of regular sex that she just lay there like a log?It's a lot of work (not to mention hurt the jaw or just be tiring after a while). Some do view it as something they don't like and will only do it every now and then for their guy, and some hate it so much they'll never do it. You just have to discuss it with your partner and see their feelings on it.The one thing you can be sure about is that you should never just "whip it out" whenever you feel like it, and expect her to bend to your wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2006): I love doing it to my hubby, because I like to see the effect ti has on him.
But he doesnt return the favour,he has only done it about 3 times in 5 years!.
but I dont really care because it doesnt really do much for me to be honest, I prefer sex.
But it just goes to show that not everyone enjoys doing it whether they are male or female.
The best thing to do is ask your gf if she likes doing it, no point in messing about!.
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reader, stevie jade  +, writes (1 November 2006):
 I love doing it to my boyfriend because i love him and like to see him happy i wudnt do it to anyone else. But he doesnt like doing it to me! Hes done it twice in a year and 3!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (1 November 2006):
 I'm not going to lie to you. I totally dig it. And you know why? Because my boyfriend loves it so damn much. It's so nice to have him so happy! So I gradually grew to really enjoy doing it.
Now on anyone else? No. I wouldn't. In fact, my boyfriend had to wait a good 6 months before I did. But once our relationship got solid and comfortable, I started to do it randomly and it was a lot of fun. I don't do it out of obligation. I do it becaise it's fun for us both.
I don't like him performing oral on me because I'm a weirdo and don't enjoy oral sex. At first he was bummed out, because he likes doing it, but he's used to it now.
Don't demand it every night, I'll tell you that much.
But I, for one, am not married - but really like giving oral sex. Hope that offers a little clarity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2006): They don't call it a job for nothing. I think most women who are in relationships like pleasing their man in this way as long as the guy does not go crazy and demand that she do this all of the time, it is a lot more tiring than any thing else, and women like to move on to receiving pleasure from their man....some men also make women feel that they are not very good at it, which is a really negative thing to do to a woman.....you should tell her how you like it and tell her when it feels right...
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reader, Alexandra +, writes (1 November 2006):
I certainly enjoy it with my partner. I don't really think of oral sex pleasure with just any man, just for the sake of performing oral sex. Is that how men feel about oral sex generally? Do they enjoy it with anyone, just because they get to do it? I believe that women are much more sexual than they are made out to be. Women are not less sexual than men, they manifest desire differently, and a lot of our prudence stems from preconceived ideas about how we are to behave sexually, and how that affects our dignity and honor (two things women are taught to hold on to like their life depends on it.) Men aren't that concerned with being judged by hoe they perform sexually, nor how open they are, how many people they sleep with, as women are. I know, from talking to my women friends that all of them enjoy performing oral sex with their partners, who in return, love them and respect them for being sexually honest. I think a lot of women fear that if they show pleasure in giving men pleasure they might be seen as dirty, too loose, and even thought of that horrible term which traumatizes many girls when they are developing: "slut." I love performing oral sex on my boyfriend. Personally, I have always aproached sex gradually. I never performed oral sex on any men right away. It always takes time and trust in place for me to feel it natural and confortable. I think a lot of women would agree with me.
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